We have two kids boy and girl aged 9 and 10. We get on well with each other separately , but it seems like every time we are together as a family at home, we always end up arguing with each other. I tend to stay upstairs when I can but it shouldn't be that way. My husband is always picking on our lad, the lad has sinus trouble and his dad is always shouting at him when he clears his nose. We just don't get on altogether.
2007-03-18 23:02:50 · 4 answers · asked by The Way 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The most important factor in any marriage is communication. There are times that I feel my husband is way too rough with our son (4 yrs.) but I never confront him with it in front of the children. I ask him to another room or we wait until the kids are in bed. Sometimes he gets offended but usually later on he will come back and agree with me. We don't argue over it, we just talk about it. There are times that he feels I go to easy on our 14 yr. old daughter and he confronts me about it, in private. She also has massive sinus issues and it does get REALLY annoying. You need to ask your husband what is REALLY bothering him. If he is getting that irritated at some nose clearing then there is something underneath it all that really has him worked up. Try talking to him.
As for the constant bickering, try finding something fun to do together. Just yesterday my son and I planted a vegetable garden in the backyard and he loved it, while my husband and daughter played on the slide. We were all together in the same place and having fun without arguing. Consider taking them to a laser tag place or something similar where they can take out their frustrations without hurting anyone or arguing. As long as mom and dad are getting along, the kids will sense it and it will carry over to them. Kids pick up oon tension between parents and I'm sure you are feeling frustrated with your husband and he is with you as well. Work on your issues in private, communicate, and then see how it affects the kids once you have come to a resolution.
2007-03-19 03:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And I thought it was only in my family that this happens. We usually end up bickering and arguing because I often feel my husband is to hard on our son and to soft on our daughter ( 4 & 7). The best way I have found to handle this is no matter how annoying I find certain things, I try and let it slide by without mentioning it. If it is something that is really bugging me I will try and talk to my husband in private - after the kids have gone to bed. Also try and do something that you all enjoy - evn if it is just throwing the ball around in the garden. Relieves alot of tension and stress... Good Luck though
2007-03-18 23:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by CLEVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but if its that way you two should try counseling to help each of you understand how the other feels. Trying to talk on your own isnt always easy and if its in counsleing then you have less of a chance of arguing.
2007-03-18 23:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Cowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three girls and I play games with them and i also have a game that consists of no bickering and they get privileges or prizes it helps alot.
2007-03-19 03:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Wilma H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋