I think that girls who get pregant at a young age and can't afford to take care of their kids?

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should have to put them for an open adoption so that someone who is stable in life and can't have kids can raise the baby. Our tax dollars would be a lot lower because there would not be as many welfare cases. And these girls would be able to finish school without the burden of a baby. Does anyone agree?

this question is about parenting I'm aware that illegal immigrants and people who don't work use are tax dollars if you are bitter mom who can't afford to take care of your kids don't leave me any hate comments.

Answer 1

BIG CALL!!! I get ticked off that I have to go to work (part time and my husband works full time) and get no help from the govt but some people sit at home and don't even care and get all they want from govt. BUT would you take someone's baby away. Maybe food, childcare etc vouchers rather than cash.

Answer 2

Disagree with this big time. This has to be one of the least problems associated with our tax dollars. Plus, there are several other alternatives to where the girl could still finish school and keep her baby. To begin with, many high schools offer free child care during the school day. Next, there will sometimes be the case of available family members and/or friends to watch the child during the school day. In terms of money, the mother and/or father does have the ability to work part time or do a work study program and get paid (if they are of age). Just have to live carefully. Bottom line, it is a case by case issue and not something that can be mandated for every single person. Besides if the baby is not aborted, then the mother and other applicable parties should have the right to make their own decision based upon all of the factors at hand, including money.

Answer 3

hmmm.... I do NOT agree with you. Let me explain some things. If someone can't afford to take care of their kids, they FIND a way. That is, if that person is a true mom/dad. I live in a small town in Ohio. Did you know that here you have to be 18 to apply for welfare? So all the "young girls," aren't the ones using tax dollars, it's women in their 20's/30's/40's etc. My dad's ex was in her 30's with 5 kids, living off welfare and then kicked my dad out of her house two weeks before Christmas after he spent all his extra cash to buy gifts for her kids. I had a baby a few months before I graduated. My husband paid our bills. Even when he lost his job 6 months ago and we thought we may possibly have to look for help elsewhere, he found a way. I have never once heard someone say their baby was a burden because they were still in school. I have been in college and then coming home to two babies. They were never a burden to me. Judgmental people like you make me sick.

Answer 4

I disagree, No one should HAVE to do anything. There are adults that make the same choses. Every young parent may not be a welfare recepient. Some do still go to college and are great parents. Being responsible is not always giving away what you call a burden. Everyone situation is diffrent. There are people who can afford to have children at first then something happens and then may need welfare. Should they have to give up their children because their not stable and can't afford to anymore??? There are tons of unneccesary things our tax dollars go towards and welfare is not number one. We also have enough children coming into fostercare from all walks of life that need homes already. If that was to happen who would take care of the children who parents weren't made to give them up for adoption at birth. There are more people wanting infants yes and everyone who adopts may be stable but, their income doesn't always have to be in a so called affordable income bracket to adopt. Yes, these children can still become welfare recepients. Also, because these children are from young mothers they could be more likely to have health issues and problems. Which means no straight adoption but, fostercare could be their first stop towards adoption.

Answer 5

well everyone has a right to their opinion but personally I have a 16 yr old sister who has a 21 month old and a 8 month old she attends school is not on welfare has her own apartment with her boyfriend (who is the father of both kids) he works to support them plus she has strong family support which is what alot of these young girls need when they make a mistake my sister made the decision to keep her children and also made the decision to have an IUD implanted so she will not have another until she is ready. Just because they are young does not mean they do not deserve the right to be mothers to their children they do need to be educated and families do need to be more supportive of these girls everyone makes errors in their lives thats how they learn and trust me adoption is not always the best thing for a child even tho so many think it is look at how many children are left in the system till they are 18 because their mother felt they were doing the best by them.

Answer 6

their are many different reasons why these girls get preggo. you must know someone around you right now to really make you think about this.if we only thought in tax's dollars truly where would most of our close Friends be right now would you have meet yours? these girls don't always choose to get preggo,maybe they were not taught how not to, you my say that's silly but there are many parents that are still afraid to talk to there children and still think that it a good thing if a boy gets some. this soon to be mother wants to give her child a better life than she had ,yes, but she wants to do it not by giving it to strangers that might hurt, rape, kill, mentally abuse,this mother wants to teach her what she was not tough. and give this beautiful baby the love she believes she did not get.yea may be their would not be so many welfare cases but truly. would you have wanted to be raised by a stranger thinking your real mom did not love you enough to try. there are many moms that have kept there child and never went on well-fare.others that knew they had to give there precious gem up because they could not give them what was need at that time. i could keep going but i wont. try to look though there eyes and see there life and trials, don't just see the negative.were here for a reason.all they may need is a good friend. and a push in the right direction who knows where she and her baby my be in 1 year

Answer 7

Your assumptions are warped, my dear. I am 28 yrs old, seperated from my husband, pregnant with our second child and I am recieving assistance (money, food stamps, and medical care). I found a part time job barely a month after I began recieving assistance and gladly got the cash and food stamps cut back to a tad over $100 each, but because of my pregnancy, I still require medical. I am not lazy and I did not get in over my head with kids I cannot afford. I struggle to find a full time job that can meet my skills and qualifications (receptionist or office assistant) but because I did the stay at home mom thing for nearly two years, a lot of prospective jobs feel that I am too rusty or behind in the times. I strive for full time work so I can get regular health insurance for my child and child on the way. I work for them and only them. But don't get the idea that we (those of us who do NOT take advantage of the system) should be forced to give our children up.

Answer 8

I do agree, but I also don't. I was adopted and it kind of messed me up. But that's a different story, and I do agree with adoption and I think its wonderful. However, the choice is not yours or mine to make. It's the choice of the mother. Sure there are a lot of girls who it's their fault that they got pregnant and can't afford to take care of their babies, but there are some as well who it wasn't their fault. If you pass that kind of law, there are bound to be innocent lives hurt. I'm just glad that our country has welfare to help those in need. Besides, there are a lot of other people abusing welfare besides single moms. Plus, if we didn't have to pay for welfare then it'd be something else. Are you going to get down on senior citizens who can't take care of themselves and their kids can't take care of them, too? There are more important things than finishing school, and being with your family is one of them. There are so many programs for young single moms to finish school on their own time, anyways. Don't bash all young moms just because a lot of them choose to be irresponsible. I know a lot of them (myself included, I have a 10 month old son, although I'm not on welfare, I support myself) that are doing the best they can.

Answer 9

I don't know...I mean I would most likely agree with you if I wasn't brought up the way I was. My mom had me at 17 and really couldn't afford me but she knew she had a daughter she had to support and eventually send to college so she continued on with her education and opened the company she has now. Now her company is a very successful corporation and I like to believe she's there because me being born placed a heavy burden on her and she needed to step up and not only be there emotionally for me but financially. So, I don't know sometimes having kids young can change your life for the best. At least that's what happened in my mom's case.

Answer 10

Fisrt off i would like to say that it isn't just young girls that this happens with, i was 17 when i had my first and never once used government assistance. having said that i understand what you are trying to get at but you can't single out young mothers, many people in their 20's and 30's can't afford to support their children either. It depends on the person and situation