im 19, she has been married to my stepdad for 15 years, i have younger siblings who will be affected by this..so telling my stepdad is not an option..i want to blackmail the MEN and dont want my mom to find out, is that legal? if not, what should i do. this is not a joke, im serious.
2007-03-15 07:40:43 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stay out of it.
2007-03-15 07:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Brittany♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well he will know sooner or later, do not coverup for her , do not blackmail those men they might hurt you once they feel a threat from you, so the best thing is to try to keep your stepdad around as much as you can in order to keep him next to her.as for the other guys you can tell your aunt or any member in the family you trust in order to tell your mom to cut it off.
Sorry that you had to get into this but ask an older more experienced person , even a friend of hers.
Good luck
2007-03-15 07:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by maimac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This is a bad situation! I do not suggest trying to black mail anyone- you could end up getting hurt. I think the best thing to do is to talk to your mom. Tell her you know what she is doing and you are concerned about how her actions are going to affect your family. I have a feeling your dad might find out on his own. Things like this don't usually stay hidden for long- especially if she is with multiple men.
2007-03-15 07:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By blackmailing the men it won't solve anything. You should confront your mother and tell her if she doesn't tell your stepdad you will. Although it will hurt your younger siblings, it is'nt your fault but you mother's fault that she put them in that situation. And it will only hurt more if this deception goes on any longer. And will hurt you having to keep this a secret.
2007-03-15 07:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by gloriousnina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong approach, disco lady.
The problem is your mother, not the men. You might even succeed and get them to go away, but she will find more.
I suggest you tell your stepdad anyways, IF YOU ACTUALLY KNOW. If all you know is that she hangs out with some guys, that's not proof of anything.
It's the right thing to do. Presumably you like your stepdad. Your loyalties should be to what's right, not what's convenient or who's your birth parent.
2007-03-15 07:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your mom? Let her know her behavior is not setting a good example for you and your sibling. Don't even think about blackmail. Keep it between you and your mom. Getting the guys involve will only make it messes. Let her know you need a mom, not a whore to look up to. Good luck.
2007-03-15 08:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blackmail is illegal. Your dad probably already knows. The one with the problem here is mom. Take her out to lunch, tell her how you feel and you are worried about the little ones' future should the marriage blow up. No threats, just be upfront with her and let her know how you feel, and that you still love her, but don't approve of the behavior.
2007-03-15 07:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your mom on drugs? or does she have an alcohol problem? She's not setting a good example for you to follow. For your sake i hope you don't follow in her foot steps. Don't blackmail the guys---it's your mom you should blackmail. Ask her how she would feel if your step dad was doing to her what she's doing to your him. What she's doing is not right and i hope she realizes it before things are too late.
2007-03-15 07:49:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront your mom and let her know you are aware of the situation. Maybe she will talk to you about it. Otherwise there is always the ultimatum. Tell her if she doesnt tell your stepdad, you will. Its not fair to you or your siblings to live in a unstable household.
2007-03-15 07:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by kyle0027 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can't blackmail the men. At 19 years of age, you had darn well better know that it's illegal to blackmail people!
Try talking to your Mom and tell her your concerns.
2007-03-15 07:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do anything. This isn't your business. If you *MUST* do something, take your mom out to eat somewhere, just the two of you, and explain to her you know whats up and ask her what shes doing. Also, blackmail is illegal.
2007-03-15 07:44:37 · answer #11 · answered by Joe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋