My girlfriend and I have been going out for over 2 years now. I am in my first year of college and I am beginning to think that I would like to transfer to a bigger, better university. The problem is that whenever I talk about moving to a different college from her, she acts like this will break us up. Also, I see her every day, but almost everything we do is something that interests her and not me. She's really one of the only people I talk to and I feel like if I break up with her, I will hardly have anyone to talk to. Should I stay with her or break up with her?
Thanks for your input.
2007-03-15 07:39:19 · 16 answers · asked by keithsfca84kg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your not happy you should make yourself happy. Move to the different college, and try a long distant thing if you don't want to break up. If that breaks up you it wasn't ment to be in the first place.
2007-03-15 07:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your goals in life right now is to enhance your education - a really good goal to have. Is the University close to the other college? I can see a relationship definitely lasting if that's the case. Otherwise, if the relationship is important to you, and she is understanding of you moving away , then maintain the relationship. If not, than break up with her. There's times when you have to compromise in any relationship, but this is not the time.
In terms of doing everything she wants to do is something you two have to talk about. Communication is everything. If she is not willing to do things that you want to do sometimes, than let her go. But whenever you talk about something, don't go in accusing her of anything, because she will just be defensive. Cilvilized talking is best.
Lastly, life is about branching out, trying new things, and meeting new people. Don't be afraid of the unknown because you will lose out a lot in life. Maybe it will turn out to be great, maybe it will turn out to be sucky, but at least you tried and learned from it. She should not be the center of your world. That is an unhealthy relationship.
2007-03-15 15:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all I think that you should do what will make you happy. If you're being realistic about the situation, then you know that you will be making new friends which I'm sure a lot of them will be girls. Can your girlfriend deal with that? I'm sure that your social life will change as well. It kind of sounds to me like she's very self centered. Believe me, I know that can't be easy to deal with, but I'm sure that you tolerate that because you love her. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders, especially since you want to move to a better university. Think of what you're going to benefit from in the long run. I'm not saying that you should break up with her, but maybe you both need some space since you see each other everyday. I'm sure that you'll be a whole lot busier with homework and possibly hanging out with new friends. I just don't think that you should give in to her to make her happy. I'm sure that you'll find friends that want to do what you want to do for a change.
I wish you the best of luck in college. Study hard, mingle and make new friends and I'm sure you'll be a happier person. Start thinking of YOU for a change!
2007-03-15 14:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kiki'sgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the bigger better university. It will be hard and from the looks of it, your girlfriend will make it harder than it needs to be. If you are at a bigger university you will meet more people, including friends to talk to, not just new girls. If she can't handle you being there then you should break up with her. It's your education and your future. Don't hold yourself back for her. You will be the one who suffers if she breaks up with you in a year or two.
2007-03-15 14:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self one question... Are you happy? If the answer is no then maybe you need to evaluate what is making you unhappy! Don't be afraid of being alone! Join a chat line, or club, and hang out to study in a starbuck's or library. You would be surprised just how many people you can meet! You have to make yourself happy before you can be happy with someone else! Good Luck!!
2007-03-15 14:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by hbear08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its seems like you already know the answer. You obviously dont like that she gets upset when you talk about moving to a diff. college, and how everything you do is about her interests.
I cant say what I would do, cause its not me. But I know I am trying to find away to make myself happy, and you should do the same.
2007-03-15 14:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving to a better school is a good idea, what i mean is, even if you transfer, you can still see each other, and make the relationship strong, you know its not similarities that binds you both but its the differences..
2007-03-15 14:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her. Dont make life decisions based on a love interest, esp when your so young. Did you see american pie, when the tara reid thought it best to break it off with that guy becuase they were going to diff colleges? Oh and it seems your g/f is too selfish anyway.
2007-03-15 14:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bizpsx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O hon, you need to decide what's best for you. School is very important. If she can't handle you bettering yourself, get rid of her. If you guys can keep the relationship going.. then it was meant to be. You are so young in college... make the right choice.. for YOU NOT HER.
2007-03-15 14:45:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever is best for you. If you want to move to a bigger university and it will be best for you, then do it. You can always get new friends and relationships, but you only have one future.
2007-03-15 14:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋