Are you supposed to tell guests where you are registered when you send the invitations? Or is this rude?

Answer 1

Its not generally considered good eitquette to put where you are registered in with the wedding invitation. If you are having a bridal shower, you can definatley have it put in the invitation for those. Another option is to set up a wedding website. There are a ton of them out there, they are free and easy to set up and it will give you a place to put information not only about the wedding and related events, but also info about each of you, how you met and where you are registered. Check the website of the place where you are registered - sometimes stores have their own wedding website services. I know Bed Bath and Beyond does. YOu can also check out places like weddingchannel.com and theknot.com. Then you can send everyone and email letting them know you have set up the site.

ADDENDUM: Kunke has a great idea that I had forgotten about. You can put your wedding website, should you set one up, somewhere on your invite or in the invitation package. We actually listed ours on our Save the Date cards, but somewhere in the invite works as well.

Answer 2

It is rude. Do not include anything in the invitation that mentions gifts. Information about where you registered is suppose to be spread by word of mouth.

I have heard that some people have a wedding web-site that talks about how you two met and how the wedding prep is going and also lists where you registered. I've been told that listing your wedding web site is okay, because there is other stuff on the web site besides your gift registry. So on the invitation, at the bottom you would type in your wedding website. (example: www.bobandjanewedding2007.com)

Answer 3

This is considered rude by almost everyone (not just Emily Post nuts). Putting it on the invitation implies you are requiring guests to bring a gift. It's better to spread the news by word of mouth through close family and friends. BUT...not everyone invited will feel comfortable asking your friends where you are registered. I solved this problem by creating a website (you can do it for free on brides.com or weddingchannel.com). It's fine by the etiquette police to post registry info here, plus you can link to the online sites of places you registered.

Answer 4

only if you like when you're invited to a b-day party and the b-day person says don't forget to bring a gift.
Gifts are not required and if you put the info with the invite it makes guests feel like it is. Tell your close relatives (parents and siblings) and bridal party where you're registered then if guests ask you or them then it's ok to say where you are registered.
It's just kinda ruins iviting someone if they feel you're only inviting for teh guests.
You can get those cards printed with registry info on them but don't put them with the invites give them individually when people ask.
Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 5

its rude, no you don't

it makes it look like you expect gifts and while yea, you prolly will get them, you don't address the issue on wedding invites because the purpose of them is to invite someone to celebrate your day with you, not tell them where to shop for you at. they can shop for you whereever they so please. putting that stuff on your invites makes it look like you can't grasp that.

the gifts are a nice perk, not a right and while even I would prefer that people go to my registry to buy, lots haven't and some of the best gifts I have gotten are stuff I didn't register for, some of the worst too, but thats just part of the gig, and every bride has to deal with it and you do to.

Also, by not puttin it on there, people call or ask and this gives me an opportunity to mention things I like more that others, and if they don't ask, like a lot of the more distant people we have invited, most of them send money which is even better, so you will almost certainly come out better not includin it! good luck!

Answer 6

All of the wedding magazines say this is extremely rude. It's obviously ok if some one asks you were you are registered but, do not include registry info. in the invitation. This is generally only included in the bridal shower invitations. It's up to your friends and family to spread this by word of mouth.

Answer 7

Normally the host(s) of your bridal shower will pass this information along in the invitations they send out for the bridal shower.

You could also post this information on the internet if you have set up a webpage for your wedding.

Many internet savy people will do a quick look of the on-line registries of area or popular stores to find out at least one of the locations you are registered.

Answer 8

I've always thought it was rude. I hate those little things that fall out of the invitations telling me where to get their gifts. My fiancee and I registered but figured at a few big name places and figured out that people will either ask us or figure it out on their own. We do have a wedding website with a page for the registries, though. I wouldn't send anything with the invites though...tacky.

Answer 9

When I got married, everyone told me it was tacky to send info on where you registered. People say it's helpful, but how hard is it to ask someone in your family where you're registered? It's not like you won't get as many gifts if you don't tell them where to go. It just looks like you expect gifts. It should be about the wedding day.

Answer 10

Traditionally it is reude and meant to be announced by the brides mum and other members of the wedding party. I persnally think this is silly as they may not know the people you are inviting. I think if it is worded appropriatly then it is fine i.e:
If you would like to contribute/get Paul and sarah a gift they have registered at teh following places"

This wording makes it seem as though a gift is not expected, although you will most probably get gifts.
I too am having the dilema as we want people to chip in on our honeymoon instead of homeware gifts as we have been living together for sometime.

Good luck. I think you may offend some people but honestly times and traditions change. Anything can go. As long as one is polite and considerate about it all.