We recently heard that a child that we pressed charges against is going to press charges against my son for harrassment. My son was attacked (this child came up from behind and clocked him, they were both suspended because my son tried to hit him back). It's a long story... but we pressed charges because this child has, for many years, threatened this and he scares me at what he might do again or to another child. The principal even lent that she thought something had to be done like that. I don't think he is stable. But I also think he makes things up to tell his parents for attention - like that people are picking on him. If my son ever said anything smart to him before, I am sure that has ended. We warned him over and over about contact with this child (since all of these events occurred), so I really don't believe he has "harrassed" him. I've never seen anything like that behavior before. Anyway, what can I do? This child has had anger management classes in the past... didn't work.
2007-03-09 14:41:33 · 8 answers · asked by itsjustfoolishness 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My sister had a similar problem. For absolutely no reason this child would wipe snot all over her, spit on her, etc. It caused her serious issues with cleanliness for years and she had to see a psych about her hand washing cause she would make her hands bleed washing them obsessively.
My parents talked to the teacher who didn't do anything, the principal who was an idiot, and being a teacher in the same board, she contacted the superindendent and sued them.
The girl did the same thing as the bully of your child. Said my sister was hitting her, etc. Character witnesses and such just told the court that there was no way she would do these things, and had once after about 6 months of abuse. They let them know that the two were never alone together, etc. In the end, character witnesses and the teacher allowed the charges against my sister to be dropped. See if there are any reputable adults who can vouch for your son. Even if they have witnessed him hitting the bully once, a court will understand that there is only so much one can take.
Sounds like, from the character of the child, you have a good case. I wouldn't be too concerned, although I would give your son a STRONG warning about going near him, especially with a court case in action.
2007-03-10 00:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder why the pricipal did not press charged against this child or do some thing before something bad happens. Since she seems to think something should be done. Why has she waited for someone else to do something.??
If this child's parent press charges, or try to, against your son, have his record prove him in the right. Your son is not the one with the bad past. Your son is not the one with the problems.
Your son is not the one with the past anger managment class..
Where are they going to press charges against him.? In school or with the law.? If it is in school that unless someone saw this harrassment in person it is just one person word against another and no thing can be done. The same with the law.
2007-03-10 01:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't know what your son does when he's not within your sites you really can't say that this other kid is telling lies. As a parent I am well aware that when she was of school age my daughter wasn't a perfect angel and that I needed to get EVERY angle of a story before I made a decision, not that I didn't believe or trust my daughter, I just wanted to be sure all of the evidence had been presented and more often than not my daughter was innocent. However, until all evidence was in the only things I was certain of is what she did at home. I've known parents who are convinced the entire world is against their child, they deny that their child would do anything as far as harassment, or teasing of another student only to have adio and video proof of their child doing just that in school.
My advice is to gather as much evidence as you can to proove your case because you'd look awfully sheepish if this bully had proof of the harrassment. I'm not saying you're wrong...just make sure you have all the i,s dotted and t,s crossed.
2007-03-10 01:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I wouldn't worry about it....I know hard to do...but he has to be able to PROVE the harassment. He can't just say your son did stuff...he needs witnesses or copies of letters written or recordings. Anyone can start a charge, but they have to be able to prove it in court to get anythign from it.
Just make sure you talk to your son and tell him to tell the truth...judges can tell if someone is lying.
2007-03-09 23:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by kittynala 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This kid is going to have to back up his arguments with proof if you go to court over it. One good thing (for your son) is that this kid has had anger management problems in the past. That fact will help you out if you do have to go to court.
2007-03-10 02:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, for now, this is only a rumor.
i would talk to the school principal and to the school guidance counselor. they may advise you to contact a lawyer or the police.
talk to them first tho, they have a better outlook on this boy.
2007-03-10 00:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
alwasy support your child. Never apologize for your child to others (If they murder someone, maybe)... but always be your children's cheer leaders. If they do turn out to be wrong.. then deal with that.. but show him what family is about
2007-03-09 22:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOUR SON IS A VICTIM OF BULLYING ..I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM IN SCHOOL .MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU BOTH ..I WISH I WOULD HAVE PRESSED CHARGES AGAINST MY BULLYS ..THEY GOT AWAY WITH DOING ALOT OF STUFF TO ME .. AND DO ME A FAVOR ,..KEEP FIGHTING UNTIL YOU GET JUSTICE ..GOD BLESS YOU !
2007-03-09 22:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by Swm 39 4 Younger Swf Forever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋