How do I approach my husband. Ok...the situation is this...I have been babysitting for a total of 4-1/2 years now. Four of those years have been babysitting the same two children. Now my husband is in my life and these children seem to be too comfortable with him and they play rough BUT when they play rough or verbally rough back he get's upset with them and disciplines them. Well he grabbed the little girl today and brought her in the house because she stepped on his dress shoes and the mother is VERY UPSET and DOESN'T WANT IT TO HAPPEN AGAIN. She doesn't have a problem with discipline just doesn't want him touching them (meaning in a negative way) PLEASE HELP ME explain this in a mature way to him otherwise it will escalate into a HUGE ARGUMENT because he WILL NOT feel he is wrong and will IGNORE the children (I JUST KNOW HE WILL) from this point on.
2007-03-09 11:13:12 · 5 answers · asked by Tammy86 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Maybe he SHOULD ignore the children.
You are the one hired to care for the children...he obviously doesn't have the sense to handle them properly...(You don't man handle a little girl over something so stupid as stepping on your shoe).
If it were me, I wouldn't bring my child back to a home where the man thinks he can lay a hand on my child for any reason.
As a parent...even the question makes me mad.... If I'd been there I probably would have slapped him.
No one lays hand on my child in anger...especially some guy my babysitter married.
If he's too much of a brute to have an adult discussion about his childish behavior, then maybe you can get through to him by letting him know that he may be damaging your business...does he value your income if not your opinion?
2007-03-09 11:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know the way the mother would like the children disciplined. And the way that she does not. If he can not do this then she will find someone else to watch the children. Do not make this a sit down talk. Try to do this at the same time he is also doing other things so that he does not fel he is being got onto for this.
2007-03-09 11:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to worry more about losing your job than his feelings at this point. he has no right to handle the children and if he can't control himself, then he shouldn't be interacting with them. If she was my daughter, that day would have been the last day you were my child care provider. Word of mouth travels fast too. You can bet she will tell other mothers what happened at your house.
2007-03-09 12:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How DARE you let your husband HIT kids thats not even YOURS? Is HE getting PAID to do YOUR job too?! You want to have a LAWSUIT? If I was the mom of that child i would of KICKED your *** for even having that man touch MY LITTLE GIRL!!!! if i was you i would tell your husband to go get a JOB while you doing yours.. If you can't HANDLE more than 1 kid in that household you shouldn't be doing that job.. Both of you can get into alot of trouble for that...Let him 'ignore the children'
2007-03-09 11:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by blue_is_troo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him to parenting classes so he understands how children work. And maybe you should go to counseling together because it sounds like there are other issues here about arguing and how he handles conflict. If nothing else, maybe your pastor can step in and work with both of you.
2007-03-09 21:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋