is it just me or is are everyday citizens inthe USA becoming anti-kid?

Question

i have a 1 yr old daughter, and i noticed i get a lot of dirty looks when she fusses, ive been refused tables in restuarants (my daughter might throw food everywhere, nevermind all the drunk tourists are already doing that) ive even had the pimply faced bag girl at my grocery store telling me that they were open 24 hrs, and suggesting i bring my daughter back n the middle of the night.am i goingcrazy, or do people hate our children?

i should be able to go whereever i want without heartless jerksbeing rude. if you dont like it, keep your looks and comments toyourself when we're in line, thats all im saying

Answer 1

People have gotten so fixed on the "Me Now" syndrome that it has become impossible for them to even pretend to be polite to people with kids.
I have been known to tell people who say rude things to me because I have kids or because my kids are "being heard" to go shove it where the sun don't shine. These are the same people that you hear having conversations on their Bluetooth across the room. My kids might get loud, but I am not sharing my personal life with the whole entire restaurant or store. They can curse and scream on the phone and can make a HUGE fuss in the checkout lines at the store, yet it is OUR kids that are the problem. My kids have better manners than these "grown-ups".
We can just hope that the people who act this way NEVER have children, our the situation with our foster care system will only get worse.
My best wishes to you! Just go and have fun with your kids. Go out and ruffle a few feathers, it won't kill THEM!

Answer 2

I know what you mean. We go some places and people are nice and smile and maybe say something like they are adorable. But then there are other places that aren't so much. Like stores that do not have kid things, they give you a dirty look, or once I had a lady ask me if I could put my daughter in the stroller as she did not want her to get into anything, my daughter was holding on to the stroller not doing anything. I said no she is fine where she is. Another time we were out at dinner and it is more of a seat your self kind of place and we walked passed a waitress and I heard her say I hope they don't sit in my section. My daughters (they are 3) are very well behaved and they listen. When we are out, they don't run off and if they do they know they will get put into the stroller. But I do not like the parents that let their run around in stores or restaurants, take control of your kids, they are going to get hurt or lost.

Answer 3

It depends on what you mean by anti-kid. Here's what I think are anti-kid beliefs:

1. The belief that it is not ok to spank or slap your kid when they are wwwaaaayyy out of line (assuming the usuals - you are not doing it in anger, you have not warned them over and over previously)

2. The belief that kids have more rights than adults. That a parent cannot discipline their child in a way they see fit, without being scared of a CPS referral.

It's no wonder kids are so out of control - this is what people are so used to when they refuse you tables and give you the cold shoulder at the grocery store. Most parents are afraid to discipline in public... and with good reason... nobody wants a CPS referral. If you really discipline your kid these outbursts are not the usual. Also, some kids are just plain harder headed. So... not much you can do. Kids are random like that! Gotta figure too, the workers that are giving you a hard time probably do not have kids!!

Answer 4

Ahaha, they don't understand that if they had a one-year-old child, she'd be doing the same thing. Don't mind them. And the grocery girl? Yeah, ignore her and never shop there again. I was listening to the radio and these crazy people were talking about giving sedatives to kids in public places. Everyone's so scared of what others think of them. Just ignore them. But it does seem like that USA is becoming anti-children.

Answer 5

I very much agree. My son is a year old and you'd be surprised the looks I get if he just talks [you know what that's like kind of talking but just making noise] while shopping for groceries. I don't know what the problem is. I can understand people getting ticked off if a child is misbehaving and a parent ignores it. I can understand people getting annoyed at a child who gets whatever he/she wants. BUT a child who is just being a child? I don't understand that!

As for your daughter throwing food everywhere that's not acceptable in my book. My son can throw food around [aka learn to feed himself] at home. When we are out in public places I prefer my waiter not to worry that she's going to have a pile of pasta to pick up after we are done. While it may not be as easy for you to spoon feed a child while you are trying to eat you should also think about the wait staff who have to pick up the mess while your daughter learns.

There is a certain age--probably somewhere around two or three--that I feel parents should be held accountable for disipling their children. At two kids start to understand right from wrong OR understand not to do something wrong when told. But babies? I don't think so.

The way I see it is the people who do give awful looks either believe they are a super parent OR they don't have children. People without kids do not understand that kids do get irritable [especially ones who cannot talk] and use crying as their only form of communication. Ignore the dirty looks or comments and just carry on. The people saying those things aren't worth getting upset over. Best of Luck!

Answer 6

It's because too many children these days are spoiled rotten brats whose parents never teach them how to behave at home let alone in public. I'm not saying your child is ill-behaved, but you have to admit there are some pretty irritating kids out there and I think the parents do need to be "punished", in a way, so that they realize not everyone wants to put up with their bad parenting skills and we shouldn't have to. I'm a parent and just last night I was out to dinner with my 4 year old and my husband. During our meal I counted 5 different children who were yelling, screaming, pitching a fit of some kind, and their parents did absolutely NOTHING to stop it. That kind of thing irritated me before I had a child, but now that I'm a parent it irritates me to no end, because I do have a well behaved child who if she decided to disrupt an entire restaurant would be in her car seat and on the way home so fast her head would spin and I DO NOT understand how parents do not have better control of their children and they should NOT be allowed to disturb others because of it. Sorry to rant to you, but you brought it up , hahahahaa. Anyways, that's just my opinion, take care.

Answer 7

Nope we don't hate children, we just don't care for parents who don't discipline their children. Patrons in restaurants have the right to enjoy their meals without having a roll hurled at them, children who are allowed to run around a restaurant without restrain are a danger to other patrons, the restaurant staff as well as themselves. Not too long ago the daughter of a friend was being sued along with her employer (local restaurant) for burns a 2 year old suffered after hot soup was spilled on her. The parents lost because evidence showed that the child had been allowed to run around the restaurant and in doing so actually tripped the waitiress (friend's daughter) who spilled the soup as well as hot coffee. The other customers in a grocery store have the right to shop without having to be bombared by children running up and down the aisles, or listening to whining or screaming from a child. When I have to stop at the grocery store after work the last thing I want to hear is a crying kid. Sorry if it bother's you . Patrons in a shopping mall do not have to be subjected to someone else's brats running loose like animals freed from a zoo, and if you will pay attention you were see posts from parents who actually SAY their kids run all over in a mall. That's not the fault of those of us who want a shopping expierence WITHOUT having to dodge someone else's responsiblities. If you want to eat out with your child then do so at a restaurant that is more age appropriate for her.

To Lacy...I had a one year old once...she was not ALLOWED to throw food in a restaurant. she was not ALLOWED to run all over the restaurant. Ask ANY waitress/waiter what the biggest danger of their job is and they will tell you it is the children of patrons.

Answer 8

Yeah it seems that way. It seems like people are so consumed with their careers and lives and the people who have kids don't like other people who have kids and don't think they should be in existence. In case they forgot they are only here because their mothers and dads made them and took care of them for 18 years.

Answer 9

Honestly I think people are "anti other peoples kids"
I hear parents crab about what someone elses "brat" did to thier "precious" all the time. I do also agree that parents are afraid to discipline thier children in public for fear of a CPS call.

Answer 10

Be respectful if your child fusses leave. My children are quiet when we are out, if they aren't I get up and leave. My kids are 15, 6, and one on the way. people get mad because people let their kids run wild and dont make them mind. If you cant control them keep them home.