My neighbor has seven kids, is that too many?

Question

It's a uterus, not a clown car, lady!!

Just wondering if the huge-families-are-great crowd ever complains about overcrowded freeways, rising prices, and dwindling resources.

Answer 1

It might be nosy next door. It none of your business. How many children someone has. It sound like you a jealousy. If the children not being abuse/neglect. People need to mind their own business. That don't mean you can't afford to or can't do it mean somebody else can. God give everybody different tempereant, gifts. Find out what yours is.

Answer 2

No it's too little. She needs one more to even out the numbers.

And as far as the clown car reference, I assume she only had one or two babies in there at a time and not all seven, so the reference is a bad one. The uterus is meant for that type of work.

Also had to address "Just wondering if the huge-families-are-great crowd ever complains about overcrowded freeways, rising prices, and dwindling resources."
You know it's funny, but I still only drive ONE car at a time, no matter how many people I put in it. You might say because we carpool we are better than those that drive one car with one person in it. When you have a larger family you learn to not overbuy and get sucked into comercialism and you know that you don't need the latest gadget and trendy clothing, so the rising prices don't hit as hard as in other families. And as far as dwindling resources, many families I know do some sort of gardening and raising chickens for eggs and know how to produce their own resources better than a family in a big city with two huge SUVs and one child.

Do some research instead of belittling what you know nothing about.

Answer 3

My parents had 7 kids and they did not have to have help from the goverment because damn my father is the boss over the job he works at . He always has made good money so you see none of us went without anything.
I guess if you can afford them then it is none of anyone's buisness but if you can't afford them then why have so many?

My grandparents had 21 kids together but remember this was back in the 1950's. I don't see how they made it but they did. Sometimes though i wonder if they had that many kids just to work them cause you know they knew what was causing them to get pregnant.
I don't know about that many now.
I only have one child and can't make up my mind if i want another one or not.

Answer 4

Only if she gave birth to them all at once!LOL

I guess it depends on her and her family, doesn't it?

A childless friend once used to tell me people should only have one kid. When she was about 40 and I had my third child she thanked me for saving Social Security for her! LOL

As for your additional comments about big families and dwindling resources, etc. I personally do not have a "big" family, but I would like to respond.

I have a house and many people live in it (not just 2 unlike many of my neighbors).When my car goes anywhere I am not alone in it. If a light is on in my house or a room is heated it is for the benefit of more than 1 person. My refrigerator and all other appliances that would need to heat or cool do so using the same amount of energy for 1 person as they would for 5---in fact the freezer is usually well stocked so this saves energy.

While we eat more than a family of two, we also never have leftovers or throw out food and we garden.

My friend (who I love dearly) lives in a house the same size as mine. She heats it for herself, uses the oven to feed just 1 person, runs the a/c to cool just for 1, runs all the appliances for just 1. She waters and mows a lawn she doesn't play on or use for anything other than "curb appeal." She doesn't have a veggie garden because she couldn't keep up with it.

Many recipes are for more than 1, so she wastes food every week.

So who is wasting resources? Me and my three kids who all use the same lights, heat, car, etc or my friend who lives alone, drives alone, etc.?

I'm not trying to bash anyone---just trying to make a point that there are different ways to look at things.

Peace.

PS My kids are all the same gender so they wear hand-me-downs and clothes aren't wasted either.

Answer 5

The 'Clown car' bit is an old one. So what if she's got 7 kids, do you look after them? Do you get up in the night to them? Do you pay towards their food/clothing etc??
Too many people with sticky beaks. That's THE PROBLEM.
Does anyone else GIVE a s***?

Answer 6

it is a lot, but if she can afford to take care of them, then who are we to judge. As long as someone isn't on food stamps/welfare/ and whatever else they can get for free, I don't really care how many kids they have. I just hate seeing the 23 year old girls with 7 kids. I used to work at a grocery store and I would see this a lot. They always looked so shell-shocked.

Answer 7

Hey, hey, hey now. Stop all the judging. You haven't a clue how many you might have yet...or another person in your family. Is your neighbor healthy? Have her own job? Are her kids happy? Those are the true qualities that would make her a good mom or a bad mom. NOT the number of kids she has. How about those drug addicted moms who have only ONE kid but refuse to work a day in their life, let alone watch her kid. The child is neglected and sometimes used to pay for her drug habits...terrible...but we see it in the news a lot these days. I have more admiration for a parent of lots of kids who don't do drugs, work to support her kids, spend time with the kids, raise them to respect themselves as well as others before I'd respect or admire a person with only one/two kids but never worked a day in their life, spend all their time in bars or high, neglect/abuse their only child...etc. Give ppl a break...don't be so hard on someone for being so fertile as long as they are a good parent.

Answer 8

Unless you pay her bills, buy food for her children, have to change all those diapers, discipline the children when it's necessary, read bedtime stories to the children, etc, etc... basically, unless you are going to be a parent to those children you have no say whatsoever!

You can have your opinions, fine. But it's her body. It seriously makes me wonder why people will fight to the tooth to protect a woman's "right to choose" when she wants to kill a child, but question her decision when she has, raises and loves many children.

Personally, I have four children and I am pregnant again. My husband and I have already been talking about the children we would love to have after this one! Is that your business? Not in the least.

You have a say in how many children you have. How many children I have and how many children your neighbor has is none of your business.

Answer 9

Why do people think large families are tacky? Not so long ago, people had families of a dozen kids or more and no one thought a thing of it. It's sad to me. I wish we could return to the days when children were cherished that way.

No limit should ever be placed on # of kids, so long as they can be adequate cared and provided for.

Answer 10

You people should mind your own damn busasiness! do you pay her bills? do you pay grocery bills for her? it her life leave it alone, and btw i don't have any kids but i want to have 8 kids and i dont give a ****! the dougers have 16 kids and they're doing great! other families have like 13 kids and so on.