She is using the baby to get to him, and I don't know how to intervine. My grand daugher is 9 months old now, and she keeps her away from him. She'll only allow the baby to come over when she feels like it. It hurts his feelings because she is so childish, but doesn't stand up for himself, because he doesn't like conflicts with her. What can I do to help?
2007-03-09 07:57:30 · 11 answers · asked by thatprettykitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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My son is not into any illegal, he supports his child financially, always wants to see her etc.. I think the deal with her is that he is not so "into" her like before. Pregnancy was totally unplanned.
2007-03-09 08:29:17 · update #1
He has legal rights. And since he is paying child support he has an even bigger advantage. Tell him to go to the juvenile courts, and file in the courts. If there was a support order issued chances are their was also visitation orders issued. If she is not allowing him the access to his child as directed by the court she is in contempt of court this could cause serious issues for her. If he is only paying support directly to her, tell him to save all receipts of monies that he gives to her. And go to the juvenile court and file the necessary paper work and haul her into court to answer in front of the judge for her actions. There is a minimal fee for filing. He can do all of this himself without an attorney, the paperwork he needs he can find in the library, simply ask the librarian for a simple copy fee he will get the paper work needed to file. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-09 08:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know that there is anything you can do to help....If he wants a relationship with the baby, then he needs to obtain a lawyer so that he can get proper visitation with the child. Otherwise, the mother will use "him not seeing her" against him as she gets older, even though it is all by the mother choice. He or you need to document, document, document everything. Now if your son is into some illegal behavior, or is abusive or has been abusive to the mother, then your son just needs to stay away, children are always better off without that type of mess going on.
2007-03-09 08:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best thing for you to do is not get involved, because it is squarely between your son and the baby's mother, if he does have a problem about her not bringing the baby around as much then the only involvement needed in this situation is legal intervention, no names, attacks or so on, remember that there is a baby involved here and that you are going to have to deal with this woman, her family, and your granddaughter, so everyone in this situation should be on at least "good" terms with each other whether they like it or not, your son is the one who needs to make this decision though, hes the only one that can and should do something, if you feel like you want to visit your granddaughter then like I said stay on "o.k" terms so that way you can communicate this to her, without hassle, from EITHER side. As for her being bitter about the break up well you dont know that, and IMO you shouldnt know or care to, all that matters is everyone taking a part in this baby's life, put your pride aside, tell your son to put his fear aside, and as for the mother, her controlling aside, otherwise nothing will work, but before you disregard my advice aside, think about this, it takes one wheel to get the clock working, so be the better person and start good communication.
2007-03-09 10:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the father and is paying child support he has every right to see his daughter. Tell him to do what I did, find an attorney that will work with him on the cost then take her to court and have the visitation days and hours put on paper.
I know this because I had to do the same thing. Once the judge made it final I was never denied seeing my kids.
2007-03-09 08:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it to court, but when it comes down to it, if he doesn't have the balls to do anything the nothing will get done. YOU, however, do have rights as a grandparent if visitation with your grandchild is at jeopardy. U can also take her to court for visitation rights!!! hope this helps and good luck
2007-03-09 08:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Papi G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can get a court order for visitations or you as the grandmother and work out something with her where your son wont have to even talk to her..my family is going through the same things..sorry...
2007-03-09 08:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by kauaichic420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much, your son and his girlfriend were old enough to have a child. They are old enough to take care of themselves. Only thing you can do is to ask to see your grandbaby more often. It's not your business to intervene your son's life.
2007-03-09 08:13:22 · answer #7 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to talk to her because legally he has a right to see the baby every other weekend and on holidays.
2007-03-09 08:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by muñeca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you, I would VERY SERIOUSLY follow the advice of the first five answerers.
2007-03-09 08:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him hire an attorney!
2007-03-09 08:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋