what possible use if councilling>?

Question

See several talk about councilling but what use is it to anyone unless they are just coping with seeing something nasty.


I mean... if you have a problem say you are bleeding to geath having a chat with somone aint gonner fix it is it?

neither is somone saying its your fault you dont want councilling.


Its not you fault you need somone to stich up the wound.


Likewise if you car is broke.

Oe say you cant pull you need pulling lessons.


if being bullied you need combat lessons.


if you are having trouble socialising you need socail skills lessons.


if ugly you need a makeover


if lacking confidence sky diving lessons...


Get the general idea?

A chat and a cup of tea wont do didly


So why do people suggest it.?

Likewise if you are like 10 years behind other or more in relatioship temrs and aint done a few long term relationships how is councilling gonner give you the same mindset as somone who has by next week?

So what use is it?

Seems the best this is to sort it all out in teen years before adult years as thats the only time to sort anything out when others are all rookies.


Otherwise its like saying you can go up against somone with doctor training, and 5 years experience, with no training and just councilling for a few weeks.

So why do many think things like that help anyone.


WHY DONT'T PARENTS LOOK FOR SAY THINGS LIKE KARATE KID OR ZORRO.


IE MENTORING AND TRAINING TO FIX PROBLEMS, GIVING THE SKILLS NEEDED?

Ie if daughter is all upset as cant get a boyfriend... give her a makeover, sexy clothes and pole dance lessons.

Likewise teach guys how to be cool and tell them to get into trouble to crrate a badboy rep?

or as mentioned self defence lessons if being bullied

The spelling and grammer are more to do with stream of concious thoughts and trying to type at thinking speed innaccurately whilst looking down at the keyboard not at the screen conveying feelings

RED speach...


have a look its only repeated like 20 times


Councilling is crap, it does not fix the problem so why suggest it.


Only something which will actively fix the root problem is any use so why not suggest that instead?


is that simple enough?


Only some things can only be fixed in teen years as too much to catch up later to be competitive with others in your age group

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Sorry people are still not making sense.


Counciller or psyciatrist is no different...


its still usless.



And what can possibly be wrong or nutty about say.


if somone is upset as cant get a girl/boyfriend
Teaching them how to get one, then when they can get them problem solved.


or if somone being bullied and picked on.
teaching them how to batter the bullies so hard they can never hurt anyone ever again


Or if have trouble fitting in teaching them how to.

Whats wrong with that.


And why do people think having a chat on a coach can fix being 10-15 years behind others?

It does not fix anything or solve problems in a practical way.


So why do people say that its weird or mad if a boy is not striong ebnough to pick something up to give him weight lifting training as opposed to chatting to a psrink

oh and lyana


Ever hear of condoms...


And not saying turn him into a gang banger just the kind of bad boy you girls go for as you say you dont like nice needy guys you mum likes

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Councelling Suzi... Look handling complex thinking and details makes you smart. nit picking on spelling makes you pedantic.


Evil Ang...


Having a chit chat may help you but the problems I have , others have and most of these parents kids will have unless they take note of the stuff I come out with based not on being silly, pervey, weird, mad or whatever but on experience and evidence wont be fixed like that.



Maybe this is guy and girl thinking...


If a girls car is broke she wants sympathy and a chat and someone to listen...


Guys want a mechanic to fix their car so they can carry on driving.


In my case a time machine so can go back about 19 years and fix stuff as a chit chat wont fix things, can only prevent others suffering

Answer 1

excuse me?
you're at it again!
GIVE DAUGHTERS POLE DANCING LESSONS if they cant "pull?!"
good grief.
i try to ignore this jerk who thinks he holds the worlds answers in his hands yet his issues warp his brain.
counselling isnt a weeks' fix, its a long-term solution.

i'm SO glad you dont come into contact with my kids and 'advise' them to take pole dancing lessons.

*shakes head in disbelief*
this guy wont listen to advice from us, he doesnt want our answers, he just wants to rant about things he knows nothibg about.
not worth the effort.
but really, pole dancing?1
dearie me hes reached new depths today

Answer 2

You say counseling doesn't work...get a mentor. Well did it ever occur to you that perhaps that's how some counselors are set up? My "counselor" was a woman who had lived a hard life, rode with biker groups, been a teen mom, been homeless, and was a licensed Clinical Social Worker who owned her own practice and home and was raising her grandchild because her son was in the military. Everything she said had a backing in experience and real life common sense. I learned more from her than my own parents I think. Another person I went to see, a psychiatrist who did my meds, was a great man who talked first prescribed later. He gave me great advice on everything and was a wonderful person...and I'm sure if anyone ever makes it to heaven he did. He was the type of man who leave a giant hole in society when he passes. In the future, remember it's better to be silent and thought an idiot than open your mouth and prove it.

Answer 3

Are you waffling on about the benefits of someone serving on their local county council? Because that's what councilling is.

Maybe you should get some counselling. You clearly have a few issues.

Answer 4

if you are high. don't ever do whatever it is that got you there in the first place. and if possible find jesus christ.

If you aren't high I would advise you to find a psychiatrist immediately and tell him all of your absolute worst ideas. let it all out. Get on something (this is free paid for by the govt. if you have no insurance).

no clue what you were attempting to say, but you sound like a troubled & possibly dangerous person.

I mean that in the nicest way.

I hope you are doing better soon.

Answer 5

I understand what you are trying to say..(so, what does that say about me.)
anyway, my grandson is 7 years old and he is treated so badly by the teaching staff at the school he attends now that if my daughter was to take him out of there then he will have to undergo councilling before he will be able to attend a different school.
He will need to know that not all schools are that bad or that all teachers are that bad.
This is no joke. My daughter has been told that this really needs to be done.

Answer 6

dude, how are people going to be able to answer ur question if you double space, add a bunch of boring details, and don't even know what ur talking about?

Thanks for the two points. Sounds like you need a teacher to teach you how to spell, not counciling.

Answer 7

i think what your saying basically is that counseling doesn't work and why make your kid go into it for things like cant get b/f g/f or they are being bullied or saw some thing really gross ie blood however it does work and as for your idea of giving them the skills to cope with it that is an added help them cope but a the ones about relationship problems and saying the girl needs a makeover and pole dancing lessons and the guys need to tough how to be bad boys all that is going to do is turn your girls in to sluts with many STD's and your boys into hard core criminals who are going to be in prison there whole life so counseling is needed for you and your kids

Answer 8

I agree with all the other answers. Looks like you need to be fixed first and then fix your kid. By the way counseling can be a great help, stick to it. If you don't you could possibly have a dead kid on your hands---you would have to bear the blame.

Answer 9

cuz councilling really helps sum ppl. helps me. i have no one i can just babble on 2 for hours at a time. my babys father was a bastard n left me last month n im now 7 months pregnant. i just need sum1 2 ramble on 2 tat ain't guno turn round n tell me ex. k..yea..sum ppl it won't work 4, but some it will. thats why its there, n thats y ppl suggest it. surely u already knew that? i kno u ain't a dumb git, but u askin this questions suggests that u r!! (plus if u was bleeding 2 death ud go HOSPITAL, not councillers...duh...)

Answer 10

first off counseling will not work if you arent putting forth the effort for it to work! i took counselling and it helped me very much! i also agree with the others that say you really need to rethink the makeover idea and the pole dancing idea because that is saying you really dont care if your daughter gets raped or gets diseases! i really think you need to see someone yourself! sorry but i gotta stick to the facts!