in the last 2weeks i have had 5 letters and 2 phone calls saying she has been sent out or removed by a pastroal manager for defiance and disruption i dont no what to do please help me:(
2007-03-09 05:22:39 · 14 answers · asked by kt 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
no its not religious its just a normal public school
2007-03-09 05:36:31 · update #1
snap I'm in the same boat my daughter is causing me so much problems , iv tried my taking all what is in portent to her no phone no friends over, no pocket money unless i now it for school, i am hoping it is just a teenage thing an she will hoefully grow out of it fingers crossed for you im sorry cant help you that much but im in the same boat an my daughter also 14, so keep hanging in there i am ..
2007-03-09 05:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set her straight. First off i would find out exactly what she was doing that she was removed from these classes by speaking to the teachers. Was she talking, passing notes, talking back? make them aware that you will speak to your daughter and in the coming weeks i would suggest having them call you to tell you about her progress. Then sit down with her and find out her side of the story. Explain to her that this kind of behavior IS NOT acceptable and it will have serious consequences. what the punishment will be is up to you. make sure though that you enforce it and that its age appropriate. not something along the lines of "no TV for a week." Good Luck
2007-03-09 07:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to have that same problem with my now 15yr old daughter. She would go to school and disrepect the teachers skip classes and cuss people out at whim. When she would get in trouble she would hide the paper they gave her to give to me. So i started going threw her bags everyday when she walked in the house i said "give me your book bag." And mind you public schools have no problem with you coming and sitting in a class or two with that child. She/He would not like their mother sitting in the chair behind them..My daughter certainly did not. Do not tell them just pop up one day. If you do not see a change. Ask children and family they don't just help people whom can't do the right thing for their children they also help with people whom try. I put my daughter in a place that kept her for a week for a rest for me....research...all your time and effort will be worth it in the end.
Please do not give up....she don't want you to...beleive me...another question do you have other kids. Cause i do 3 other girls and she felt like she was not getting enough attention. Bad attention is better than no attention....think about it.
2007-03-09 08:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by firstladik02 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont say what you have tried. If she was my daughter she wouldnt be going anywhere with friends or anything. She wouldnt have anyone over. Or be doing anything fun. If she is sent home from school give her so many chores she rather go to school. Take things from her. Her computer, tv, video game system and remove them from her room. Anything else you feel she values. Make her stay in her room with no fun things to do.Make her life miserable. Let her know her behavior will not be tolerated and that you are disappointed in her.
2007-03-09 05:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you been too lenient with her? Or too strict?
Perhaps rather than try to lecture (though I'm not suggesting you intend to), just approach it in a way that makes her feel that what she's doing is very silly - not impressive, not effective or cool, just daft and weird.
2007-03-09 05:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pastoral manager?
What is this? a relgious school?
If so thats your problem... they hate teenagers and the fact they are growing up calling girls dirty whore and wicked fornicating sinners when they flirt with boys...
Would not blame her for decking a few nuns.
other then that.
Investigate further... whats she fighting against?
Whats the probelm?
ids this for fun and respect or a genuine reason
Maybe you need something to direct that agrression into say some sort of sport like say skateboarding, or break dancing.
or get her inot a band where she can express that angst like a metal band etc
2007-03-09 05:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Put her azz in a all-girls camp.She has to mind someone. She will be taught the discipline that she obviously missed from you...I know you love her,and tried you damnest to work with your baby, but, she has to listen to someone. Or, she will end up on the streets, doing un imagineable things to herself and others. It starts at this age. Good Luck:)
2007-03-09 05:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God I remember it well, I was like that, and I was a total COW, you need to sort out the problem,
IS SHE BEING BULLIED?
IS SHE A LATE STARTER IN HER PERIOD?
HAS SHE GOT A BOYFRIEND?
Sorry the list goes on, or she she just a bit BORED at the moment with school....
Good luck-take the good things she likes away, and don't let her out to play-NO MATTER WHAT..
2007-03-10 11:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by minniemix 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speak to her. Try to get to the bottom of the problem. No shouting. If she feels that you really care and are concerned, she will tell you whats wrong and you can sort things out together.
2007-03-09 05:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by mejulie350 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try punishing her, as a parent you are supposed to teach her how to act.
2007-03-09 05:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by jw1269 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋