Is this really important in a relationship??

Question

This question is for those whom are 21 and up. With experience, and men please feel free to answer this.

Why do "most" men put soo much emphasis on receiving *oral* in a relationship. It makes me so angy. I don't have a problem performing it, but I do have a problem with men who act as though they can't live with out it.

Men why is oral sex so important to you?? What is up with those men who like to receive oral sex but does not like to give it??

Women do you perform oral sex on your man even if he does not do it for you??

Men if you had to choose to have vaginal penetration or oral sex, which would it be?? Remember you can only choose one or the other.

I am very interested to know why, some men feel that they can not be in a relationship with a woman who will not perform oral sex on them regularly. Men does it make you feel wanted, and loved when a woman performs this on you? If it does, then why do some men not want to return the favor?? Ladies, is that fair to you?

Answer 1

My husband said that he would rather have sex and oral is just a luxury that is nice to have on special spur of the moment when it is least expected and form my view some men are just asses I was in a relationship for 9 years and he tried to force the whole oral **** on me but I refused and he cheated and I left then I meet my know husband and he never asked for or even brought it up therefore I decided to perform oral for the 1st time and enjoyed it because I wasn't asked or forced and still not asked for and I he performs on me more than I have

Answer 2

In my honest opinion, a man who refuses to be in a relationship without a guarantee of oral sex has some sort of oral fetish on which an abnormal amount of his ability to receive sexual gratification is based. This is not the norm.

With some people, sexual intercourse is a big step for which it takes time to feel ready. For these people, oral sex should be an important and RECIPROCAL thing. Sexual connection is important but it doesn't always have to be intercourse.

Receiving oral sex is not as important to me as being able to give it. I've been in relationships where I didn't receive much in that department... maybe due to a gag reflex or maybe just inexperience or lack of confidence and we didn't spend enough time together to be able to practice. If I wasn't able to give it though, there would be problems. It's just something I always really want to do to a woman I care about.

Answer 3

Lots of questions here: First things first, sex takes energy and time. A good BJ can get the job done quickly and effortlessly on a guys part. I prefer sex any day of the week, but I'm not in a committed relationship.

I don;t think it should be required in a relationship, but doing that for your man is an extremely nice gesture. As far as him returning the favor, there is a time and place for that, that may be different than under the table at Perkins...jk.

Tell him how you feel, that you want it in return. If he doesn;t do it, then cut him off from it.

Answer 4

Interesting question. If you have the choice, why choose a man who has these preferences. You should find this out before you make a commitment to live with him. If you don't enjoy sex with your man, get another man, change your attitude or change his attitude. That pretty well covers it. You ask the question as though it is important to change something. The only thing you can change, and this is only if you are willing to make the change, is your own attitude. If you aren't interested in either non-reciprocal oral sex or even reciprocal oral sex, simply tell your man. If he says this turns him away, let him go and find another man who is more receptive to your tastes. It really comes down to what is more important to you, staying with a guy who has sufficient qualities you are willing to overlook his tastes in sex...or staying with someone else for whatever reasons are important to you. Your choice.

Answer 5

I see your point and I have to admit that I have had some of the same questions so I am curious to see what other responses you receive.

I think I would do best by explaining my case with "giving head".....

1. I enjoy giving the act, I get a certain ammount of pleasure by having my man, in the palms of my hands, for an hour...literally. It provides a very intimate opportunity for a women to be this gentle, soft, and deeply sensual figure. With his pleasure, I am also gratified.

2. Men of course also enjoy receiving oral sex. Why not, it is far more sensitive to their nerves than vaginal sex. Greater attention to detail for maximum pleasure. And there with some men there is an allure of having their woman service them on this sort of interpersonal dynamic. Heirarchy of power or something.

3. I don't usually enjoy receiving oral sex. I admit I am a little uncomfortable with my figure but also it has had limited success rate with achieving orgasms. So I wounldn't neccessarily mind if my man didn't offer to do it all the time. But it is a nice short term activity.

4. I really don't think most men are comfortable with our anatomy. Really I think that's it. I mean men are all out there for us. Not too difficult really to read. But we are a mystery. They know a little about what's happening but they don't want to stop and ask for directions. It's best in their minds to avoid that detour entirely. But there are some, oh god, one or two that I knew, that took their time and wanted to know, wanted me to explain how I felt.


I guess it comes down to you evaluating where you stand on these points and deciding what you are willing to settle on. Hopefully you find the man that shares your same view.

Answer 6

i think it's real selfish for a man to act like that. Sex is suppose to be about two people pleasing each other and so much more. If a man act as though he just has to have it but doesn't want to give any in return. I would tell him to kick rocks and go buy him some since he likes it so much.

Answer 7

i luuuuuv oral sex, i a woman (43) not that fussed on getting so i dont care if the offer not there!! lol , guys seem to like getting it and i like that A LOT!! it shouldnt be an expectation though, having said that i often offer a ******** , better than sex sometimes!! every couple should do what they comfortable with and not expect partner to do anything they dont want AND be able to ask for what they want but take no for an answer!!

Answer 8

This is based on your experiences, girl. Personally, if my girl does it to me, I'll return the favor. C'mon, I love giving oral sex to my lady. It's yummy. This is all what I'm going to say. Good Luck!

Answer 9

yes yes yes it makes me feel that you love me more. but i do return it. to show you that i love you. that much men should wake up. and love you as much as you love them