What are the pros and cons for having a baby in your early 20s?

Answer 1

There are probably a few cons to having a baby in your 20s but I'm sure the pros outweigh the cons. It seems like most people are having children in their early 20s and seem to be able to take care of them. Yes you won't be able to go out on the weekends but not everyone likes going out on the weekends. And most people in their 20s or either still partying and having fun or settled down and just relaxing. I feel like having children in your 20s is a great age, you will be about to do so much more and still be young.

Answer 2

Pros:

Biologically, it is a good time to have a baby - you're likely reaching the peak of fertility and the pregnancy will be the easiest on your body and the most risk-free.

You're still young and should have a lot of energy

You may be able to relate to your kids better when they reach adolescence, since you'll still remember being their age not too long ago. There won't be as much of a "generation gap" between you.

Your kids will grow up and leaving home when you're still only in your 40s. So you'll have a little free time before you reach retirement age and can maybe do some things like traveling before you get too old and tired.

You'll likely be a younger grandparent - so more energy to play with and spend time with your grandkids, and you'll be more likely to see them grow up too.


Cons:

You may not be in the best financial position to have a child. In your early 20s, you haven't had much time to save up or start a career. You usually wouldn't have a college degree yet, meaning you probably won't have a very well-paying job.

May still lack some maturity and patience. Studies show that the human brain doesn't actually stop developing until about age 25.

If you're going to college, it's going to be very hard and stressful to try to take care of a child. You'll have to juggle school, work, and taking care of the kid. You could choose to give up going to college so you can stay home with the child, but then you'll be more likely to continue to struggle financially if you never get a college education and thus won't ever have that good of a job.

You may feel like you missed out on things if you have a child this early. A lot of people feel that the early twenties are supposed to be about discovering who you are, "partying", dating, and just having fun and being carefree and "selfish". You won't get a chance to do these things if you have a baby.

You're more likely to end up splitting with the child's father. Again, even in your early 20s your brain is not done developing, so it's still quite possible for you and your partner to eventually grow apart as you both mature and change. If you do have a kid in your early 20s, it probably means that you and your partner didn't really get much time to yourselves first. Bringing a baby into the picture so soon may put a strain on your relationship and cause a lot of stress.

Answer 3

My mom had me about a week before she turned 20. And she was married at 17. I was always proud of the fact that my mom was younger than other kids' moms. And she was a lot more understanding towards my problems because it hadn't been so long since she had to deal with the same issues.

Now, I'm pregnant with my first child and am due about a week before I turn 23. I don't believe I could have had a baby as young as my mom was, but I am really looking forward to being a young mom. I'm also happy that my mom will be so young as a grandma! She's turning 43 right after I turn 23. It makes me happy knowing that she'll be around for most of the big milestones in my child's life. It's possible for people to have kids young and still have great careers. Maybe you can put your career off until the kids get older. Or you can keep working on your career while you're pregnant and after baby is born. Anything is possible as long as you really want it and set your mind to it.

Answer 4

I'm 24 and had a baby boy last year. I think it depends on the individual. Personally, I think the pros outweigh the cons on having a baby in your early 20's. You will have more energy to keep up with your kids and won't have to go to their graduation in a wheel chair and oxygen tank. Plus you would be able to be there to see your kids have kids. If you wait too long, you may not be able to see your grandchildren at all! But if you are too into your career and don't have the time to spend with your kids in your early 20's then it would be better to wait. What's the point of having a baby if you can't spend time with them?

Answer 5

IT IS BETTER HAVING A BABY IN YOUR 20's, I really believe this,that's if you're emotionally mature and in a stable relationship. I was 25 when I had my first,and the obgyn said it was a great time, far less complications, and sure enough, it was the easiest pregnancy/labour imaginable. No stretch marks, easy recovery..I just had my third at age 30, which is stillyoung for these days,but my body look longer to recover, and I'm just so much more tired! The one bonus to having kids late that I can see is that you could establish a career first, and that may be important to some people, but to me, having a family came first, and I say, have kids young.

Answer 6

I had my daughter just days after 1 turned 22. I was still able to complete my teaching degree and am now working. My daughter hasn't suffered and is a very well adjusted almost 6 year old. She is pruod of the fact that I work and that I am younger then her friends parents. I don't think I was too young at 22, but any younger I would have been craxy to consider having a child. I was emotionally not prepared at 20.

Answer 7

im 20 and 39 weeks pregnant with my first, people automatically persume young mums will have financial difficulty but between me and my partner we earn over £60,000 a year, i also feel great in myself and totally ready, i have done enough partying in the past 5 years to last a lifetime and decided that lifestyle was no longer for me quite a while before we decided to have a child

also my mum tried to concieve from being 22 but never happened until she was 27, although 27 isn't old she says it would be the single thing she would change if possible (having children earlier i mean) she says at 27 for me then 31 for my brother she was tired out a lot more easier then the younger mums she knew and did not have as much patients with us as when she was younger

Answer 8

I think that having a baby in your early twenties is good. I have a co-worker that her her daughter when she was 20 and now her daughter is 21 yrs old and getting married.My co-worker is only 40. So I wish I would of done that. I had my son when I was 26 and he is only 3yrs old. So I have a long way to go. Early twenties is good.

Answer 9

pros: your young, active so you can chase your little baby all over, still be young when they are older, be the "cool mom"
cons: money situation, still want to party on the weekends instead of being at home with your child

i'm 22 and am preg. with #2 and i wouldn't change it for anything i love my son and i can't wait for him to have a new brother or sister

Answer 10

In general:

Pros:
- you are in the peak of your reproductive age, that means it'll be easier for you and good for the baby, you'll also avoid all those additional worries of 30 year old woman healthwise (like additional tests)
- you'll be still young when your kid grows up - you get to be best friends, vs. parent-child relationships and will undrestand each other better :)
- you'll be still young when your child will be able to take care of himself - that means you still have a lot of time to enjoy YOUR life.

Cons:
- you'll be tied up with maternity/parental stuff while in fact you are still a child and did not enjoy life fully enough :)
- you might not be stable enough financially and taking care of a child might interfere on your way there.
- all your friends will most likely be childless - and you'll have to find new friends with more "common interests", a.k.a - with children :) and they more likely will be older than you are .