Seriously some days I get so freaked!!!!
Most of the time I'm OK, I know that she has to come out and that it's going to be uncomfortable and painful and I keep focused on things like what will she look like and will she have loads of hair etc but then I have the other days when all I seem to hear are horror stories!!!
I won't go into the stuff I hear but 3 people I know have had babies since I found out I'm pregnant and they all have their nightmare stories, not one had something nice to say about it, two had natural and one had a cesarean!
I'm 30+ weeks and went for a check up the other day and was told she might be breech, I always thought i would prefer a cesarean but not after the stories I have been told, I will take natural any day, it's the lesser of two evils! I am crossing every finger and toe that she turns, I still have time so I'm not going to start panicking just yet.
Who's experienced that same thing and just freaked
2007-03-02 09:12:37 · 45 answers · asked by Bugs 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The old first child syndrome!!!
I remember when I was pregnant with my first child. For some reason all other mothers shared there pregnant stories with me, the good the bad and the ugly.
Even old great unties shared there stories, It down right freaked me out. They would tell you every detail. It's like you have joined this special mothers club were you get told everything. The funny thing is, it stops at the first child. They all leave you alone after that.
The next thing you have to look forward to (not) is when you have your baby, everyone is going to give you there advice and your head will start to spin. You will be at the doctors every other day with your baby because you don't know how sick your baby is. I remember taking my baby to the hospital because he had a temperature waiting 2 hours only to be told just him some paracetamol. Your going to read everything you can about the health of your baby, whether it be advice from a doctor or alternative medicine.
Don't worry it's all normal for a first time mum to go through this. It doesn't mean that its going to happen to you. Just think when your had your second child you can share your stories with first time mothers and see the look on there faces.
Take care and try to enjoy being pregnant and don't pay attention to the bad stories.
2007-03-02 09:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know...that's a concern of every pregnant woman I think...but honestly...I think its really a matter of your state of mind.
It sounds like you're pretty sane about it...I had the same attitude.."I know he's gotta come out sometime" ..there's not much you can do about it.
I gotta say...I WANTED a natural child birth...and I ended up having an emergency C Section, baby was ten pounds and facing the wrong direction.
If I had known that the C Section would be so easy and painless and simple...I would not have fought for 14 hours of back labor pushing and pushing with no drugs!!
After all that work, 14 hours of pain and stress and pushing, they gave me a spinal block, a minute later I was cracking jokes on the surgical table and 45 little minutes later, Baby was here and they were sewing me up.
It was so easy that I didn't even take any pain meds afterwards! AND I left the hospital a day early!
It's not that big a deal...at all. I took a Bradley Method birthing class and I was all hell bent on natural birth and the class just freaked me all out about cesareans...it turns out...it was WAY less traumatic than the 14 hours of crap I went through in an attempt to have natural child birth!!
Everything will be fine mama...no worries.
Congratulations and good luck!
An honestly...you will have amnesia about a half a second after you see your baby's face...You will be so high just seeing that little peanut, that everything you just went through, no matter what it was, will seem as pleasant as a tea party...it is all sooooo totally worth it! I'd do it again in a second...they truly are a gift.
2007-03-02 09:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember that exact same thing and it used to make me so mad!! This is the time you need encouraging, not to be told horror stories!
It seems to be human nature to tell a pregnant woman how bad things can be and I don't understand why.
You have a good focus and point of view. Hang in there and remember that most women have "normal" childbirths. The horror stories are more rare.
I've had 3 children and I would do it again in a second. They are so wonderful and changed my life for the better. Yes, labor was hard work and painful, but anything worthwhile is hard work.
My youngest was breech too and she did turn at the last minute.
Hang in there, Mom. You have a beautiful baby on the way-- keep you mind on that and feel free to tell people that you just don't want to hear any more stories.
2007-03-02 09:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first is always a shock to the system and EVERYBODY has a "horror" story. If you can avoid it, stay away from a C-section on your first. Although there are many stories of natural births following cesarian, it is not always possible.
Exactly how far along are you? There are ways to turn the baby, I did it. I forget exactly how far along I was, but it certainly was late and my daughter was born within 3-4 week, but I propped myself up, with my head on the ground and bottom under stacks of pillows and for about 10 min a day, firmly massaged my belly and worked the baby into a head-down position. She was 2-weeks overdue, but I don't think that had much to do with it. Although I had to be induced (UGH) and she was in a bit of distress, everything turned out beautifully. She's 12 now and smart, talented and beautiful!!
Honestly, and most every mom will tell you, no matter how your baby comes into this world, the pain is quickly forgotten and you are overwhelmed with joy among other dozens of emotions.
Best of luck to you -
2007-03-02 09:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by dmwposts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mum was in labour for me for 36 hours and had a hideous birth with me (a story I used to hear every time it rained or there was nothing on the telly!) so I was extremely worried about my first birth especially as she was induced as I was 11 days over due date!! As it turned out she was born within 4 hours and it was wonderful - I won't kid you it does not hurt but I must stress that staying focused on ante natal breathing and relaxation techniques helped me no end - the more relaxed you are the less pain honest I have been there 4 times! But saying that all births are different my midwife with my first 2 was determined that I was to write a birth plan but the only things I wanted to say was that my partner should not leave my side WHATEVER HAPPENED and that if I wanted drugs GIVE THEM TO ME!!
Good luck, you won't need it it's natural, it's smelly, it horrible but half an hour after the birth you won't care cos it will feel like all your Christmases have come at once when you look down at that little person that YOU made!
2007-03-02 09:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by silent1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Horror stories don't end with the most beautiful little thing you'll ever see (until next baby) My labour was less than a year ago, was pretty horrendous in terms of complications and now I'm expecting again in August and not scared at all. It is painful, it's very hard work (hence labour) but you're in safe hands, it happens every minute of every day and is the most natural thing in the world. Nobody would have brothers or sisters if it was that bad. It took over 33 hours from realising I was in labour to delivering my daughter and worth every second. I fully, 100% recommend the epidural if it turns out to be taking too long cos your body needs a break from the pain but please don't worry too much, just stay calm and rest assured your fears are normal. Don't let them ruin your pregnancy!
Good luck!
Sarah xx
2007-03-02 09:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by sako1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, I remember them well.........horror, pain, fear, etc. I got so tired of hearing people's stories I had to just walk away after a while. It was really not what I wanted (or needed) to hear. I guess some people enjoy sharing thier stories of how much pain they went through and how they survived! Good for them. I knew all I wanted was to experience the least amount of pain possible because I really was a chicken!
Well, though I wanted a natural birth, I had a C-section. Honestly, I know you don't opt for that, but it truly was the best for me and for my son. It was very quick and much less painful. I actually recovered very quickly as well which was surprising since I had heard such bad stories about them. I am probably much older than you too, and for my recovery to go so well, was really a blessing indeed.
So, maybe just ask people not to share thier horror stories with you. Or, just walk away kindly. You have enough on your mind right now.
Congrats and good luck to you!!
Ultimately
2007-03-02 09:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by Singthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard nothing but horror stories when I was pregnant with my first last year. My mum had a bad experience with me (her first - long, painful and mismanaged labour) and was constantly going on about how worried she was for me - it scared the crap out of me.
When my son was born on 30 November it was absolutely FINE! I had a natural birth in a birth centre with no pain medication (didn't like the gas and air)! Contractions started at 4pm and he was born at half past midnight.
Yes it was very painful but apart from that, no problems at all!!! No complications, no bad experiences. And my son is the most wonderful thing that ever happened to me.
Some people just get off on trying to scare others. Ignore the stories. Talk to your midwife or doctor. Tell them what's worrying you. Ask for help and advice on the things you are really worried about. Trust the professionals and ignore the stuff Auntie Mavis is telling you.
As for your baby being breech - so was mine at 30 weeks and he turned round at 34 weeks! i felt him do it!! Most babies don't settle into the head down position until a few weeks before they are born so don't worry about that!!!!
2007-03-03 05:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is breech the doctors can turn her. It's not an automatic reason for a c-section.
When I was pregnant everyone seemed to have some horrible story to tell me about child birth. That didn't phase me a bit - it actually just fueled my fire to do it natural without drugs!
Unfortunately, I ended up having to have a c-section because baby was too big and my pelvic bones were too close together. But - I must honestly tell you that it is not as bad as people make it out to be. People just like the drama of it all. Don't worry - it as actually a beautiful experience and I can't wait to do it agian!
2007-03-02 09:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1-stay away from those people. The last thing you need to do is worry. Right now you need to relax and think happy thoughts.
#2- I have 2 kids and have been though the same thing.
#3- Read up about childbirth options in "The Baby Book" by Dr. Martha and William Sears. They are great. They have 9 kids, some adopted, some their own and the mom is a nurse and the husband a doctor.
#4- Ask your doctor about childbirth options and which ones he would reccomend for your condition.
2007-03-02 09:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by tropikanagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋