hay ive just been dumped today after telling my bf that im pregnant with his baby! he accused me of sleeping arround @ 14 (cos thats how old i am) after he put pressure on me about havving sex with him(hes 19) ! i mean how selfish is that! and also i pland this according to him to try and trick him into givving me money for some reasion! and yes the babys his i mean like i said its his baby cos i was a virgin before i met him! so i really need help! what would you do in my situation! im so scard!!!!!!!! would you dump your gf over somthing like this?????? please help me!!!
2007-03-02 07:59:33 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ohhh and if all thats not bad enugh i still love him very much and want him back!
2007-03-02 08:10:52 · update #1
also we were going out since i was 11or 12
2007-03-02 08:13:44 · update #2
Tell your parents and have him arrested for statutory rape. He will have to support the baby once it comes. Please, please, please, tell your parents now and get to the doctor. He sounds like a loser, don't get back with him.
2007-03-02 08:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT ABORT THE BABY! Tell your parents, they will raise the kid while you finish school so you can make something of yourself before you and your baby go out into the real world. And trust me. With him leaving you like that, that only goes to show you what a jerk he is. That also tells you what kind of a father he would be. He's too young. He just wanted to have sex, but now that your pregnant, he knows he isn't ready for that so now he's leaving for a different pasture. It's good that he left even though it hurts. He was not going to be a good dad, and certainly no one that you would want to live with and raise the baby with. Be thankful he is gone. Just rely on the help you have. Even if your parents get mad, they love you, and they're just scared for you. So have the baby, and prove to them you can do it and you can be responsible about it like an adult. Allow your folks to raise the baby, while you get to school and make something of yourself for you and your baby. Learn everything you can that will get you a job that you can support you and your baby on, and start saving money now. You can't work any where yet but if you do small jobs, and chores for your parents, you will show your parents appreciation, and you will save every penny for your baby. Do not go back to that jerk. Just because he is the kids father does not mean he is the better decision. Be smart about this. Do not raise your kid with a jerk. You will just end up having more kids with him, and he will be cheating on you while your home with the kids. Don't do it. Protect yourself and your baby. Good luck.
2007-03-02 08:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell your parents first what happened. They will be on your side, if you explain calmly and cooly. He CAN get into trouble for sleeping with a 14 year old, as you're under age, therefore he is now putty in your hands. If you are positive the baby is his, demand a dna test if he refuses to help pay to support the child.
This is why there are laws as to how old people need to be to have sex; you didn't use protection because you wear caught up in the moment, or thought nothing 'bad' would happen. Imagine if he'd have given you an STD? That's for life, too, just like this child.
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2007-03-02 08:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by twowords 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"what would you do in my situation! im so scard" First of all I would learn how to spell. Then I would go to the District Attourney's office and file stautory rape charges because if he is 19 and you are only 14 then that would mean an adult was having sex with a minor which is against the law...I would also while I was a the D. A. 's office file for child support from this man that I 'loved'...Or sought information from my doctor on abortion or adoptions. Then I would grow the hell up.
2007-03-02 09:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that you and him having sex is considered rape on his part, right? Even if you consented (though from the sounds of it, you didn't really want to in the first place), it's called statutory rape. If you're under 18, and the individual you have sex with is over 18, it's rape (though in some states they do have a two year leeway). So, first of all, he's in some deep **** for that.
Second, you're too young to care for a baby. If he's not going to help you, then he's not worth it. Put the baby up for adoption. Let some couple that is ready to have an infant take him, care for him and love him like you are unable to do right now. You messed up, deal with the consequences. Your ex just happens to be a rat-bastard that isn't as mature as his age would say.
2007-03-02 08:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When the baby is born, go to court get an DNA test. At 19, he should have a job. If he does not, he still have to pay child support. He has no choice
IF you love him, you can talk to him
You sound young, you can look into adoption. You do have to put the baby up if you look into it
Here is some important advice, a little to late
Never have sex without birth control and an condom and spermicide
You need to tell your parents. Your parents will help you
Good luck and god bless
2007-03-02 08:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...he's only dumping you because he's scared. He could get into SERIOUS trouble for statuatory rape since he's more than 4 years older than you and he's over 18 (techinically an adult). Yes, it's bad, but you shouldn't have been with him in the first place...you are WAY too young to be having sex. HOWEVER, he needs to step up and be a man if he's gonna get you pregnant. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we just found out a few months ago I'm pregnant. I'm now 5 1/2 months pregnant with a baby boy and we're so excited. It would have NEVER been in option in his mind to leave me. He is so excited to see his little boy. So, you're boyfriend is an a$$hole.
2007-03-02 08:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok ok i know i am going to sound like everyone else when i say what was you doing having sex at 14???? anyways you need to sit down and talk to your parents about this. let them know who the father is and how old he is as well. He will be held responsible for his child should you decide to keep it (he will also be put into jail for stagitory rape. A 19 year old dating a 14 year old is only looking for one thing and that is SEX) if he EVER cared about you he would not be saying those things to you. so this is what you should do
1. tell your parents yes it will be scary but it would be better then the doctors telling your parents or them noticing your growing belly
2. talk to your parents about keeping/adopting/aborting the baby if i was put in your place i would not abort but that is me. I am agenst abortion but free choice and all that
3. if you decide to keep the child contact the courts so you can get this man to pay child support when he is born. better to get this all worked out before the child is born.
no man should ever dump a girl for caring his child. He is a boy that was just looking for sex and you let him have it. He used you hunny. Don't let him get away with it.
2007-03-02 08:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was 17, I was in the same sitution as you. My sons father said either get an abortion or its over and I said I would never get an abortion. Afterwards he told everyone in school that I cheated on him with my friend Nate and that I planned to get pregnant and that he always wore a condom that it was me who wouldnt take birth control when in truth he refused to wear a condom and I medically am not allowed birth control (it makes me nutters). He too was my first time having sex and it broke my heart that he would pull that crap. I kept my baby boy, whos now 2 and half and I never regret it, I love him so much. Its hard at first but its really worth it because they give you a reason to do everything. Tell your parents, they can be a huge help. Mine got me thru everything. I myself would take him to court, first to charge him with sleeping with a minor. He should know better and know that its illegal. Second, take him for child support. I never took my sons father but thats because he was into some bad stuff and I wouldnt want Riley to have to go and visit such a horrible person. It gets better and the anger and hurt goes away. I am happily married now and 9 months pregnant with baby boy #2 Noah.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-02 08:10:21 · answer #9 · answered by hotmama42206 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You keep posting the same story over and over and each time you change who the father is and in your last post the guy is your bf and he druged you with rohypnol and you said you had the blood test 3 days after it happen, GHB does not stay in the blood stream for 3 days thats why its called the date rape drug , it leaves the blood stream withint 24 to 48 hours TOPS!!.....also you would have known if your were drinking GHB straight up......... cause its salty and bitter.........number 2 in your other post your 15 years old and your baby's daddy said he does not want nothing to do with you cause your pregnant.....you also go on about how you were on the pill.. you need to get your lies straight girl......
2007-03-04 17:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by angel_leea96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen all the advice to dump him and tell the police is real. but guess what that is not what you wanna hear right now right???? I know because i got pregnant at 15 and the same thing happened to me it all boils down to learning hard lesson. don't let your life be ran by no man because the are full of it for get him. know you need to figure out if you want the baby because of you. if so have your baby tell your parents and cling to them for support it will feel difficult at first but you can do it. Just one more thing please do not have this baby because of him. He will not man up and always remember it mommies babies and daddies maybes. But make this dude pay blood test and child support order. Oh yeah keep your head strong know more than ever accomplish all your goals for you and your child this is when you shine hard make him want you but don't take him back live your life for you and your kids trust me when i tell you.
2007-03-02 08:12:26 · answer #11 · answered by keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋