I'm 7 months pregnant and I know how big I am. I feel it everyday, and what's worse is that since I am 7 months I also know that I will only get bigger. I'm not at an unhealthy weight, so it's not something that I'm worried about. It just frustrates me that the one of the most common comments I receive from family and aquaintances is "You're getting so big!" or "Are you sure you're only 7 months?" I just wish that people would be a little more sensitive and realize while I know that I'm a big pregnant lady, I'm still a lady. Does anyone else feel this way or am I just letting my hormones get the best of me?
2007-03-02 07:37:27 · 29 answers · asked by karijay 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
don't worry about it be thankful you are having a kid.
2007-03-02 07:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
How rude! People can be so annoying and thoughtless. If I were you I would just grin and bear it. You will have your baby soon and be back to your pre-pregnancy weight before you know it. Soon they'll be saying, "I can't believe you just had a baby"!!! Your other option is to tell them how their comments make you feel. Sometimes this is necessary and other times it's just better to ignore them. Years ago when I was 20 (5'7", 135 lbs and a size 6) a woman approached me and asked me when I was due. I wasn't even pregnant, nor did I look pregnant. I could not believe she asked that, yet I smiled gracefully (rather than punching her) and let her know I wasn't expecting.
IF YOU REALLY WANT TO GET EVEN, TELL THEM YOU'RE HAVING TWINS and that's why you are so big. When you deliver and they wonder where the other baby is, tell them you fibbed because they were always saying how big you were. I guarantee they will never do this to you or anyone else ever again.
2007-03-02 15:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel exactly the same way. At 5 months, my husband's best friend came over to the house and the first thing he said to me was "Oh my god you're getting so big!" Mouth wide open, look of shock, the whole nine yards. THANKS. Then a few weeks ago a stranger said I looked like I was going to pop and stared at me in shock when I told her I had 2 months left.
The only thing to do is try to ignore it, or if you're feeling particularly malicious try to make them feel like crap for saying it. It is partly hormones but at the same time, I think it's a terribly insensitive thing to say. I've noticed that women I know w/ kids don't mention my size, so I think it probably bothers all pregnant women to some degree.
The worst is that my husband keep reminding me how at 3-4 months I complained about NOT looking pregnant. Boy do I regret that now...
2007-03-02 16:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People try to make conversation and just don't realize what they're saying is rude! Don't let it get to you! Maybe you can come up with a silly answer/comeback and get a laugh out of it instead of letting it tear you down. Like: "Oh, I hadn't noticed!" Or, "The baby sure seems to be happy with my size!" Or be honest -- tell your family and friends that you are a bit sensitive about the way you look right now and would appreciate a nice compliment every now and then... rather than a snide remark!
2007-03-02 15:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by bethiswriting 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People probably make this comment because you were so much smaller before you got pregnant. Besides that most people can't really come up with anything else. So for now consider it a compliment, that your baby will be healthy and that you will be smaller when it is all over. Good to hear you know that hormones are part to blame.
2007-03-02 15:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by casady96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel the very same way if i was in your position. Why would people feel the need to point out the obvious. Maybe they cant think of anything better to say. I am sure you are a beautiful 7 month pregnant woman.
2007-03-02 15:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by dancer_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha i know exactly how you feel! I felt the same way! Im 39 weeks and about to pop but i started showing and getting big really early that at 7 months i looked like i was like 9 months and i would be scared to tell people my due date because they would look at me in horror and say "are you sure there's only one in there?". I know it's hard but you gotta try and ignore, i wanted to scream at my family everytime they commented, i mean what do they expect, for you to get smaller? To your close family and friends tell them that you are aware of how big you are and that you are only going to get bigger and you would appriciate it if they stopped with the comments. I tried telling this to a few people but it didnt really work, but it's worth the try. Im assuming it is all in your belly and you were probably small to begin with? That makes a difference in how you look too, at least that was the case with me. BEst of luck to you!
2007-03-02 15:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by estkijedsco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh tell me about it! It gets on my nerves... "Gosh your getting so big, your huge", "Your only ? months?" "Are you sure you are not having twins", " 'God look at that belly!" Believe me, I heard them all and it makes me so mad b/c i hear it all the time. My mother, her bf, friends and strangers. its soooo annoying. im not over weight, nothing. just.... pregnant. And I thought I was the only one feeling this way :-) And I thought I was wrong for getting sad/upset/frustrated. Its perfectly normal then. Im 35 weeks, been hearing it since i was about 5 months pregnant. Its not the hormones, i feel the same way and im sure others do as well. Congrats to you and the Best of Luck!
2007-03-02 16:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by jessnclh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. Although I have the opposite problem. I am tiny for 7 months. Most people do not even realize I am pregnant unless I tell them and they all say, Are you sure you are 7 months? No, I forgot I am only 3, duh!! :) Or, is there something wrong?? It makes me self conscious.. Do not worry what people say. I have noticed that during pregnancy people think it is ok to say whatever they want to you. Just ignore them. Good luck!!
2007-03-02 15:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they are only talking about your tummy, not the rest of you, like basically saying "the baby's getting so big" but since they can't actually see the baby, they just refer to you, they just don't know what else to say, happens to everyone don't let it upset you, look on the bright side only a couple more months to go!!!
2007-03-02 15:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by bethany j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably letting your hormones get the best of you. You are getting bigger and I'm sure when people point it out they aren't trying to be insulting. I didn't feel this way at all,I thought it was funny just how big a belly could stretch.
2007-03-02 15:41:44 · answer #11 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋