how to get parent to sign his rights over?

Question

my childs father has not seen her in a year. he saw her for the first time in a year on this christmas eve. now he wants to be "daddy". he wants to get her every other weekend. I dont think that i should put her through that. her stepdad wants to adopt her. how can i get her Birth Father to sign his right over. and is there a law that says he has to if he has not seen her in 6 months?

Answer 1

First, there is no law that states that. He is the father, and a legal guardian, of that child until he waives his parental rights.

Now, to get him to sign them over will be VERY difficult. Especially if he is now showing intrest in his child. You could try talking to him, letting him know that the step-dad wants to adopt.
You could even go as far as to set it up so he can continue to see the child, but not as the father figure. Whatever you two work out will have to be mutual.
Now, if you wish to go the legal rout, you can have him declaired as an unfit parent, and have his rights srtipped away. But that will be VERY difficult to do, will cost a LOT of time and money, and will DEVISTATE any relationship that the two of you have.

Best bet, talk to him first, give him some time, and talk to him again.

Remember, do what is in the best intrest for the child, not for yourself, the step-dad, or the father.

Answer 2

I am sorry that us ladies normally have to deal with "stupid fathers." But if he says he wants to be daddy now maybe you should let him have a try at it and at the same time have her step dad adopt her and once he adopts her the father cant take away the child if that is your worries. I dont think you should make him sign over his rights after all no matter how you look at it that is still his child and that girl needs to know who her "real" father is. But to answer your question all you have to do is just take him to court tell the judge what you want and go from there. GOOD luck

Answer 3

Actually, I don't agree with you. Your child's father has finally taken an intersest in his child, and you want to stand in the way of this, so that when your kid is 14 you can say, well once your Dad finally got around to taking an interest, I decided he didn't deserve it. Do you have any idea how badly your child will resent you at that point??? Unless bio dad is a danger, harmful, hurtful, there is no reason for you to take this stance. You can't erase what happened....and you never know, this change of heart may be the best thing for your daughter, she'll know both her Mommy and Daddy loved her, took an interest, and in addition, she'll have a stepdaddy who loves her too. Just who's interest are you serving by trying to sign away Daddy's rights?

Answer 4

Think about what is best for your daughter. He hasn't been around for a year, give him at least 6 months to see if he is going to be a father. You will not be "putting her through" anything...he will. If you get him to sign over his parental rights (in effect saying "she's not my daughter"), she WILL find out ( maybe not until her 20's, 30's, or 40's) and when she does she WILL blame/hate you. Consider how many adults search and search for their birth parents. Many just want to know "why". Unless her father is abusive to her or otherwise endangers her life, SHE (not him) deserves every opportunity to know her father. As far as the law goes...enough money and lies gets you anything! But you won't be punishing him or protecting your daughter, you will be punishing your daughter for having him for a father. Keep in mind, it was partially your idea to make him her father.

Answer 5

Well, I am glad I am not you, BUT you have to remember, he will always be her biological father, and you have to think what is best for her, and that is that she has a relationship with her biological father. If you prevent this, she might resent you for it later in life... That is the mother's job unfortunately to be there for her and give it a try and when it does not work out you must help pick up the pieces. But at least she can't blame you for not giving him the change and doing the right thing by her. Good luck! (this is only my opinion, I do not know the whole story...)

Answer 6

Nope, no law of the kind. But you can tell the dad that if he doesn't sign his rights over, he will have to pay child support up the ying yang. And you are ready and willing to go after him for every cent, and if he doesn't pay, he will go to jail until he is payed up. This scares some guys into it. Make sure he also understands that if he signs the papers, he won't owe you anything ever again.

Answer 7

I'm trying to get my daughters birth dad to sing over is rights also i don't think there is a that there is a law that says that, if after 6months the father hadn't seen the child he has to sing over the right. i wish there was. but i was told that i needed to talk to a lawyer and fine out what to do, or you can call you DHS department and see if they can help you.
i hope everything works out

Answer 8

why in the world are you only thinking about yourself,
you should be thinking about what good for you child
maybe you should try talking to you baby's dad and if that don't work and he wants to take part in your child's life then file a parenting plan as he will also and then the court will get a guarding ad idem to be the on who's for the good of the child and supervised visitations
could be set up well maybe try that first good luck...

Answer 9

No and you should feel as big as a cockroach for wanting to seperate a child from its biological father. If the bio-father want to establish regular visitation, then you need to be supportive of that. Think of more then yourself here. Think of this relationship between her and her father.

Answer 10

Im not sure if it is the same in every state, but where I live aslong as the "father's" name isnt on the birth certificate and you have no legal papers of any kind with his name on them partaining to the child then you don't have to get him to sign over his rights cause in the states eyes he has none to sign over.