How would you react?

Question

Supose you check your son's of 16 homework at 10 pm and is not finished. When you gave him a deadline of 1 hour to finish it he throws the books on the floor cursing and saying that if you want it done by that hour you do it yourself. How would you react?

Answer 1

Oh no he didn't. He'd have to pick up those books and do his homework with ME by his side until it's done. I don't care if we're up ALL night. I have time. I stay calm on the outside, too. Inside I'm screaming, but I remain calm. My kids goal in life is to make the vein in my forehead visible, so I keep cool.

Cursing means loss of items like TV, ipod, cellphone and computer, too. Then they have to earn back all the electronics one at a time with good grades. And no driving until after all the electronics have been earned back, too.

Answer 2

Well I would be really angry myself. My husband is pretty consistent with our 17 yr old though--who was a habitual offender. If he doesn't do homework he gets no privileges. If we find out that homework isn't being done such as in your specific case. He has sent him to bed--because somebody so irreponsible needs a strict bedtime and we don't bother to engage children having tantrums. Then we call the school the next day to get a teacher report. The counselors will collect his current grades and progress from all of his teachers and then when we get those results we just tell him the deal--what progress he needs to show to get television, computer, normal bedtime, evenings out with friends, allowance, etc. My husband's parents actually went and sold his car once when he got a bad report card. They just said--you obviously are working too much at McDonald's and not enough at school. So no more car since you can no longer afford it.

At 16 they're still children unless they prove otherwise! I teach this age group and many still have tantrums etc. especially if you react to them. By the way, sometimes with their new manly size and everything they may occasionally act threatening to just see if it gets them anywhere. The first & last time my son did this at 13 (he was a big kid) I just started to spank the living daylights out of him! He ran to his room before I got more than two swats in though! Don't get me wrong--he's a great kid but he goes through the same stuff as every young man does!

Make sure he knows that as you are torturing him with all these restrictions it's just because you want him to be the best man he can be and to have every opportunity in life. I bet you paddled his butt when he was two and ran towards the street--it's the same thing because you know better than him about what's good for him. Also express to him that he needs to speak to you in a respectful manner if he wants to be treated as an adult. Otherwise he gets the naughty toddler treatment.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well, I'm not a parent yet but, I remember those looong nights of homework. Not fun. First I would figure out when he/she started homework (my opinion, it should be as soon as he/she gets home from school) Then I would try to figure out how much work he's getting. Believe it or not, a child can be given TO much homework. And if none of those two things are the reason, then I would hold him responsible. I would send him/her to bed without it being done and tell him that since he was slacking off, he'll just have to get in trouble with his teacher (detention?) and then I'd ground him/her for that weekend. But also, I'd talk to him and the teacher to make sure that he is truly understanding what he is learning.

Answer 4

I suppose if he is like most teens, he has allot of stuff in his room. TV, stereo, video games, ect. When he came home the nest day from school, his room would be empty except for his bed and a desk to do his homework. He would stay there from end of school until bedtime doing nothing but homework and reading. If I found him asleep, I would wake him up! And that would go on until his attitude and grades change and he showed a lot more respect for you!!!!!! Kids today think they are entitled to everything from their parents. All we owe them are a place to live, food in their belly, cloths on their back, an education, security and most of all LOVE! Everything else is a privilege and they are to be earned!!!!!! Take the privileges away until they are earned back and demand respect from your children!!!!!! Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I would definitly be angry--but at 16 you can't force them to do any thing if he fails it is not your fault. He is old enough to knopw better and he knows the consquences. While a child is having a fit there is no talking to them leave the room until things have calmed down and then try again arguing is not the answer it just doesn't work Remeber parenting is not easy I have 3 girls and i boy and it is hard. Keep your cool and hang in there

Answer 6

Just lost his phone privilages, computer and the ability to go anywhere for about a month.

"Now, pick that crap up and get busy, you are down to 48 minutes."

If he kept it up, depending on the size difference, I'd either have him out of the chair and against the wall or the police on the phone.

The problem realy started a long time ago and is going to be a bear to deal with now. However, I am the boss in my house and nobody gets away with talking to me like that.

Answer 7

I would very calmly ask him to pick up his books go into the kitchen sit his butt down and finish the homework. I would also explain to him because of his actions he is total restricted for 1 day for every 5 mins he is late.

I have actually had this happen..

Answer 8

Do what my mother did with my sister, ground him & go to his school tell the pricipal you will be in all your sons classes that day (they have to allow it) and sit next to him in every class, lol. I swear it works, my mother told my sister she would do it every time she did not finish her homework by 7pm and guess whatit was always done by then after that.

Answer 9

yeah i would have to say grounding and no cell phone until they can learn to respect me. i would also explain that school is very importaint. it will help him not have to work at a fast food place for the rest of his life

Answer 10

Tell him never to talk to you that way again. Parents need to put there children in thier place!