I was offered a really good job but it requires us to move half way accross country. I feel it would be a great fresh start. It is going back to were he grew up at. He (my boyfriend and father of my two children) doesn't want to move but i have lived here all my life and I really want to move. Where we are now is bardly scrapping by check to check. The job offered would put us in a much higher pay bracket which neither of us has ever seen before. So my question to everyone is how do i convince him to go with it. Making our lives much better.
2007-02-21 01:09:28 · 7 answers · asked by kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok add on...... I have been the bread winner for the past few years so there is no change there. he is a stay at home dad. his ex-wife lives there with his other children so he would be closer to them. his ex and i get along and i have no worries about her because she hates him more than anything. and he said he loved growing up there.. so i don't have any clue what his problem is.
2007-02-21 01:27:34 · update #1
and we have ben together for 5 years and counting.
2007-02-21 01:28:45 · update #2
Sounds like you need to do what is right for you and that is to take this job. staying is far too painful, if he chooses to come along-great if not find someone who is willing to make those life decisions with you.
2007-02-21 01:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by singsong 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to make the best decision for you and your children. If that means moving your family then that is what you need to do. You would support him if the move was for his career so why should you expect less from him? Your children need to take precedent over this man. Tell him your going and he can either come with you or stay where he is but you want better for you and your kids.
2007-02-21 09:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a wonderful Fresh new start, to better your lives for your family ......not having to scrape by from chq. to chq...I would suggest sitting down with him and find out why he doesn't want to do this?? Communication, Honesty and Trust are key to a long lasting relationship. Perhaps when he was growing up , where he lived, are not so good memories* so doesn't want to return there. I'm not sure why else he wouldn't jump at the chance if you both are scraping by and this is an opportunity of a life time for you both and for your children. (he may also be thinking what job will he be able to do , he'd have to try and find one where as yours is already offered to you., he maybe feeling like YOU are the provider now with this new pay hike job .so he's failed you..?? I don't know...I would sit him down and just talk with him and find out what his reasons are for not wanting to better both your lives and for the children.GOODLUCK*
2007-02-21 09:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to him that if wants to continue to be a stay at home dad then you will have to take the job. If he really doesn't want to move then I would have him get a job to make it easier on you. It doesn't really make since that he wouldn't want to be closer to his children.
2007-02-21 11:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Shorty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off why doesn't he want to go? Secondly I would do whatever was best for me and my children. You aren't married but you have to care for your children and if he doesn't see that this would put you in a much better situation then to h*ll with him.
2007-02-21 09:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by juicie813 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, find out why he does not want to move, then from that root cause, you'll be able to know how best you can convince him to move with you
2007-02-21 09:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by therna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably can't convince him. Do it for yourself. Some men just pull you down.
2007-02-21 09:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋