A question for pet lovers that have lost them to dying????

Question

How do you get over the extreme pain of losing a pet? I have had alot of pets in my life but this one I just can not get over!! I feel like I lost my sister. She died yesterday from a tumor.Do you think it would be bad to get another one? I keep hearing everyone telling me to wait but I can't, I want to get another one of the same breed to help me heal from the loss of her. I am SO not trying to replace her, you can't she was unique, just my empty heart and home. Please no rude answers I'm not feeling too good!!

Just FYI she was a rescue cat. I saved her the day she was to be "put to sleep" (in my eyes murdered) at a pound. She was a Chocolate Point Siamese. I have always loved and adored that Breed, still do even more. I am on a siamese rescue list of applicants to find another one. I do not know how old my Pooh was but she was guessed to be 13. I had her for 10 of those years.
And correct it is like losing a human if not worse, she was here everyday/night now she's not, I guess it's guilt and emptyness that I am overwhelmed with. I feel like I could have done more for her as I look back normal beat yourself up in these times I suppose.

Answer 1

Everyone has their own way of grieving. It's very hard to say goodbye to any friend you have lost. Time heals the wounds. As long as you are prepared to open your home and heart to another pet there is no reason you shouldn't. Check with the local rescues.

Answer 2

I understand how you feel. I lost the cat I've had since I was 8 to a blood clot in August. I'm still not over it, but I did find a way to ease the pain. After a week, when I had the crying out of my system for the most part, my sister let me have one of her cats to keep me company. Sure, it wasn't my cat, but he was sweet and friendly and made it not so lonely to come home everyday. Recently, I gave him back to my sister because I'm not home enough anymore with my job and starting school again and my roomate wasn't happy with all the hair (he was a long hair cat) so giving a cat up to someone you know and can visit is a lot easier than having to put one down. And now I'm just getting used to not having a cat great me at the door when I come home. It's still hard and I still miss and love my first cat, but I have her ashes and a picture of her on my dresser. I will never forget her, but I can appreciate the time I did have with her now rather than mourn her passing. Trust me, it does get easier with time. And sometimes you might need help coming down from that grief, but stick it out and do whatever you have to to ease the pain and one day you'll realize that although you miss your pet, you can move on and be happy again.

Answer 3

I,m sorry for your loss. My cat of 20 years is dying as we speak. The vet told me to take her home and make her comfortable, how in the world do I know if she's comfortable. This is not the first time I've gone through this exact situation 3 times now and I'm sure I'll do it again. The time that I shared with my pets was so worth every minute of joy and happiness and laughter. Each new pet that came into my life gave me so many wonderful memories. Only you know how long you should be in mourning and when it's time to add a new chapter to your life hurry up and do it because there are so many pets waiting to make you laugh, smile, and cry......Best Wishes to you and your new addition!

Answer 4

Losing any animal is hard. I had to put my dog down in August 2005 due to his health. He was 13 years old. I had had him since I was in THIRD grade so I grew up with him. It broke my heart. At the time I has 2 other dogs, but he was my love. I thought I'd need time to wait and get another, but I actually ended up getting TWO more of his breed, Chihuahua's in Dec 2005. Best decision I made. Of course I still miss him dearly but the brother and sister puppies that I bought have filled that empty void. I've lost many pets and you will never forget but you will move on. She will be waiting for you at "Rainbow Bridge". If you have not read that poem, I recommend you google it and read it. It will help.

There are so many homeless animals out there that would love to help fill the emptiness you have. Check out your local animal shelter. Even if you don't go there to adopt, interacting with all their babies will be healing.

Good luck and Im sorry for your loss.

Answer 5

I lost my beloved 16 year old cat Bobby last July. I still think of him and almost cry. Sometimes I do cry. I miss him still. He will never be replaced but in November I got a kitten from the humane society. His name is Jasper and he has brought so much joy to my life and really help me to heal. I still miss Bobby. Wish he were here with me but yes it does help to get another if you are ready. I wasn't ready for awhile. Yes, I still beat myself up and question if I could have done more for him. I think that's very normal but try to remember you loved your cat and the cat had a very good life because of you and let the guilt gradually subside. My heart goes out to you cause I truly know how you feel but things will get a little easier as time goes on.

Answer 6

I love pets and I can really understand your pain. I have lost some of them but I still remember one dog that was very very special and died in my arms. I always cry when I remember him. In my opinion the best thing to do is to adopt a new pet, but not of the same breed because in that case, to be honest, I think you are trying to replace the lost one. You need to take care of a new pet. When my dog died I adopted one from a shelter and that made me feel really good because i was giving him a great opportunity of a better life.

Answer 7

If you are ready for the next pet, there is no reason to wait. Some people need to wait because it's too painful of a reminder to have a new pet or they feel guilty like they're replacing the old pet. A new pet may be just the thing for you, a new animal to bond with and be comforted by.

Answer 8

Hi Moonlight. I'm very sorry for your loss. I know exactly what you're going through. I had my Smokey for 19 years when she passed away. But 2 days later, I went to the local shelter and adopted another one. It was the best thing I could have done. Believe it or not, it does help with the pain of losing one. I wasn't trying to replace her. I was trying to replace the joy she brought me. And it worked. But can I make one suggestion? Go to a shelter and adopt one. If you just lost a pet, wouldn't it be terrific if you saved one? I'm sure your kitty would have thought so! What better way to pay tribute to her!! God bless.

Answer 9

I know how you feel. My cat died recently (he had cancer) and it was a hard loss. If you feel that the best for you is to get another pet, go ahead. You are NOT replacing her. There is no way you can replace a unique pet. Don't listen to anyone else. Do what you think is best and what your heart tells you to do. =] I know it's hard, but just think of all the good times!

Answer 10

I understand you completely. Taking another pet has nothing to do with replacing her, but you can rescue another pet from a shelter or the street in her name. It doesn't need to be the same breed, actually not being the same might help you create a new relationship with the new pet and stop comparing them. But you have a lot of love to give, and you deserve to get it back from another animal! For what it's worth, I am sure your pet had a happy life with you and that's what matters, death is inevitable, but a good life is what we can offer our pets and they return that to us!

Answer 11

It would be wonderful if you would get another one. This means that your heart is still so full of love, that you can give to another little furry friend!
I hear they wait for us in a place called the Rainbow Bridge.
Your kitty was lucky to have had you as an owner (or did he own you? :-)), but think about the fact that there are so many kitties who need a home and that special love only special people like you can give. Just look up in shelters or places like that. Better than going to a pet store. Lost kitties need people like you (and like me, let's say that! I got two kitties that I love so much).