husbands parents wouldn't accept me and now my husband has left me and our child and gone back to live with his parent's.He said didn't want to leave but had too.why would he do this and how can i get him to see how much we love and miss him.It's like they brain washed him.
2007-01-23 11:26:27 · 28 answers · asked by sadden_by 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That guy ain't worth messin with, get your support for your child and find someone with a backbone and a heart!
2007-01-23 11:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My wife of 20 yrs left me twice in 5 months. She's been gone 3.5 months this time with my kids and my dog. I am a victim of building related illness and I can't work. I lost my job and she left...just like that. She went home to her parents only 20 minutes away and I'm here alone every night with no income or moral support. Her parents don't like me much either. She is supposed to be a very Christian Lady and never doubted it until now. She even told me several months ago that I was only a paycheck anyway. I feel your pain. He is a man and he didn't HAVE to leave if he didn't WANT to. My wife told me that she had no control over it. I still tell her everyday that I love and miss her but the more I do the more resentment I feel. I pray a lot too. If you pray and believe in what you're praying about God will see you through. It doesn't mean he'll come back but YOU will be OK. I know easier said than done. God Bless You!
2007-01-23 20:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mikoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His priorities a should be with his wife and child and to say that he had to leave is just a cop out!If he is really so weak that he had to move back in with his parents you are best without him,you deserve better than that!He is probably just a mummys boy or is using them as an excuse to get out of his responsibilities.Maybe there is a different agenda here? Sorry to have to say this but he may have someone else lurking around and feels that the grass is greener on the other side.Just try to get through each day as it comes hold your head up and stay calm.If he is worth your devotion he will come crawling back begging you to take him back! If he doesnt, move on and make a life with your child without him.
2007-01-24 14:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by bevalou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is not like a light that you just switch on and off when the mood suits. It doesn't matter the reason why the family didn't accept her. The fact is a happy marriage is always only based on being accepted by everyone especially both families of both husband and wife or the marriage just fades. Women find it harder to forget a loved one than it is for a man to walk away from the marriage. He has to be a man and decide for himself what is more important to him, the one he has to live with for the rest of his life but parents you can't lose even if they ignore you by not speaking to you. His wife and child should have come first!!!!!!!!
2007-01-24 00:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by image_2810 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he honestly loved you, then he wouldn't have been able to walk away so easy without a fight. Although it will be pain full i think you should move on and find someone in life that loves you like you want to be loved and doesn't walk away without fighting for you! Both you and your child deserve better in life than to be walked out on and this guy has shown his worth by doing just that. Good luck in the future, make the most of life...
2007-01-25 14:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Chill_Out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he married you so and has a child with you.how can he then decide to leave because they don't accept you?Bit late really.
you had you're own little family. I think family is important, but if I had to choose between my parents and my family (husband and daughter) I'd always choose the man i vowed to spend my life with.and obviously my baby:)
Feel really sorry for you. Hope he'll get his priorities right and be a loving husband and dad soon.
2007-01-23 19:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by carmen1509s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly left you because of his parents alone, then he really is not ready for marriage. You are better off finding a man that loves you totally no matter what. So sorry, hopefully he wakes up and comes around. In the meantime, go on living, don't wait for him to decide, that's not fair to you.
2007-01-23 19:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by flower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first three answers. But I'm very curious why the parents wouldn't accept you. Seems to me it would have to be something really big to cause a man to leave his wife and child. Are you sure he left you because of that or because of something else that you're possibly in denial about?
2007-01-23 19:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by the_Czech 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make him do anything. the best thing to do is to more forward. don't let him know you are so sad. let him know that you have always loved him and would love to work things out if he ever chooses he wants to.
next, don't call him, don't email him, don't drive by, don't make up excuses on why you need to speak to him. get your hair cut, go tanning, do whatever you need to do to feel beautiful. plan fun things to do with your children so you aren't sitting at home depressed.
if you aren't available and aren't crying on the phone to him every night he'll start to see what he is missing - a great wife and family.
right now all he sees is drama and that isn't appealing.
good luck. SD
2007-01-23 20:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly, if he is that much of a wimp and under his parents thumb, he isnt worth the time of day. Perhaps he doesnt like playing the husband/father role and simply wants to be mothered again by his mum.
2007-01-23 19:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its extremely hard but if he dont love you enough to put you and your child before his parents then he aint worth it ,its better to call it a day now ,if he loves you he will come back for you but frankly your worth much more ,it would only get harder as the years rolled by good luck xx
2007-01-24 06:03:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋