My friend got married 2 months before me. I went to all her bridal events, shower and attended her wedding and reception which was 5 hours long. I even went over to her house to help make wedding favors for the reception.
My friend was upset that she would have to miss her church service to go to my wedding since we had it on a Sunday! Then she tried to flake on my shower because her friends were having a party that night and she didn’t want to miss it. She ends up showing up in a bad mood to my shower, gives me unwrapped shower gel and leaves before everyone else and says, “Nice party” all sarcastically. Then she goes to my wedding and leaves after being there an hour!
We have been friends of 10 years and since this happened I have been distancing myself from my friend and I only talk to her on email now.
Do I have a right to be upset and push my friend away? My friend “doesn’t understand” even after I explained it to her.
2007-01-22 05:49:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds as though your "friend" has her priorities mixed up. Since you were a good friend to her during her nuptual process, it seems only fair for her to reciprocate.
Some "friends" are just users or psychic vampires. They will take everything they can get out of a person who is helpful, but when it comes time for them to help, they become upset or just ignore you. These are not true friends. I think you have every right to push your friend out of your life as she doesn't seem to want to "understand" even after you've talked to her.
2007-01-22 05:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A real friend wouldn't go and dump you like that. I know it's hard to grasp after being friends for so long, but she could be the kind of friend that just uses you until you realize it. My advice, try talking to her again. Explain it again. Tell her why you're upset. Let her see your point of view. If she still doesn't understand, move on. Find a better friend.
2007-01-22 06:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by EvilLaughingLeprachaun08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...sounds like she's ppretty good at being a b*tch!
I think you'd do well to just chuck it up to you having had been the better person/friend.
The fact that you confronted her on it and she just "didn't get it", you're never going to get the heart-felt apology that you deserve or even a justifiable explanation...which is pretty pathetic on her behalf after 10 years of friendship!
You have every right to be upset....I wouldn't "push", just don't even pay her any attention. You gave her enough of your time and attention, she doesn't deserve any more.
2007-01-22 06:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have every right to be mad. And I wouldn't call her a friend. A real friend would not do those types of things, especially when it concerns a wedding. It doesn't sound like she is worth your time. Are you sure she wast your friend, or only when it suited her? I'd just stop talking to her. Find a new friend.
2007-01-22 06:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by pkbuddy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you good friends in other ways?
Maybe she was jealous you're getting married, maybe she was afraid?
I'm guessing since you two are still friends, you two have a lot going together. Maybe she had a crush on your man?
Who knows, sounds like there is something deeply personal about your wedding that is disturbing her, and if she isn't willing to volunteer it, then you should forgive her.
If shes like this involving EVERYTHING that matters to you, then she's just a selfish *****...
2007-01-22 05:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by badbadboy6979 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
hard as it may be accept the fact that a real friend would not try to ruin your best days. they will share your joys and sorrows. she is not a friend and i believe it's time you gave up. if after all this time she still has not accepted that she was thouhgtless and wrong, then she doesnot deserve your friendship . lose her.........
2007-01-22 05:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by stacy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't understand ... she's an airhead ... dump her.
2007-01-22 05:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by morahastits 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋