My parents have been arguing a lot lately and in the past few weeks my Dad has been more nice about things. I think that the start of his niceness was do to this other woman.
2007-01-15 13:00:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what a horrible situation to be in.
I would likely confront my father and give him time to tell my Mom. If he didn't do it in a timely fashion, I'd tell my Mom. She deserves to know and it isn't fair for you to be expected to keep such a huge secret.
If they have been arguing because of the other woman, then your Mom already knew and you were not the bearer of the bad news.
Sorry that you are in this situation.
2007-01-15 13:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront him about it. Give him a chance to explain/reply. Let him know how you feel about the situation, how its affecting you and your relationship with your father. Perhaps him cheating on your mom makes him untrustworthy and hurtful in your eyes. Tell him that. Perhaps you won't be able to trust your father ever again because of what he's done. He's probably happy because he's a guy and most guys are in a happier mood after they do certain things, its their testosterone level i think. But he should know the consequences of his actions. Tell him how he's hurting your mom by cheating on her, and if this new woman is something he's thinking more long term than short term than tell him to sit down and have a long conversation with your mom. If he doesn't have the balls to admit his mistakes and talk to your mom, then you should tell her to get it over with.
2007-01-15 14:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by feather1317 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do both. how could he do such a thing? he has no respect for you or your mother.im sure you love both of them but something needs to be said. your dad could have waited to be with another women once he and your mother was finished but he felt differently and crossed the line. and i hope he is not serious with htis new woman because what kind of person is she to be with a man so disrespectful on so many levels of this situation. talk to your dad first to let him know how you feel and what you think he should do. then you should go to your mother together and lay it on the table. if your dad opts out of this deal then i feel you should go and tell your mom on your own. what he did is not acceptable and by you not saying some thing to somebody makes it seem as if its okay.
2007-01-15 13:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they man u need to tell mom ok. ur dad is a cheater. cheaters deserved to get burnt if they cheat. no matter what the excuse is.
just think how would mom feel if she found out dad cheated n u knew n didnt say anything. its betta out in the open coz u guys can chat about the problem n u can do to fix it
2007-01-15 13:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront your dad tell him how you feel about what you saw,make sure you give him a chance to reply.Then if your still not satisfied tell him he has to tell your mum or you will. The most important thing in this situation is that you are ok with what has happened because you are the one that it will effect.hope that helps
2007-01-15 13:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by beau4dean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Talk to him first. Make it his cross to bear. That's not really fair to put it on your mom. tell him how you really feel he is disrespecting you and your mom and that you will tell her if he doesn't. Maybe establish a password to confim that they have talked about it. Like he'll tell your mom after they've talked that when you ask some random question like, "do you know where my blue hat is?" She'll have a response that he told her. That way you don't say, "Did dad talk to you about his friend... " And all heck breaks loose.
2007-01-15 13:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him, confront him, but you need to let him tell your mother. If it goes on for a while, then you need to let your mother know what happened, but first let your father know that you intend to tell her. Maybe that will force him to.
I am sorry this is happening to you, you should not have to deal with this. My husband and I were married when my husband discovered his father was cheating on his mother, and it was not a very nice thing, it hurt for years, I hope that does not happen to you.
2007-01-15 13:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do Not let him by with this think about your mother first confront him and then tell your mother she has a right to know in case he gets a STD
2007-01-15 13:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can work it to get things since this is powerful info. you can get your dad to give you money or nice things for being cool about your knowing of his secret. you could get sex from the ladies friends by doing things with your dad and lady. plus it sounds like your home life is better with her in his life.
2007-01-15 13:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone. Your mom already most likely knows because of thier argueing. they will work it out one way or another. If asked about it do not lie though.
2007-01-15 13:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋