hey,
Im Danielle, can you please help me on advice.
im 18,in a year n 1/2 relationship with my bf scott, we are getting engaged (waiting for the ring to come from resizing it) anyways well our relationship is strong and we feel alot about each other, i love him so much and believe he is the "one"..so scott is 17 turning 18 in feb he is at college at the moment studying to become a policemen,well he now wants to quit college because he wants to move to spain and you cannot be a policemen in spain unless ur spanish (he is english) so he wants to move over here now even tho he has 7months left but his controling mother says no and if he doesnt finish the course she wants nothing to do with him.
I can see he is hurting and i tryed talking him thru on what he really wants but im scared his parents are going to blame me for him dropping college yet im 100% supportive in what he wants , what shall i do? all advice needed please. No as*holes commenting stupid sh*t please. Thank You
2007-01-07 18:44:51 · 6 answers · asked by babygirl07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
a little more to add.
I live in spain, he lives in UK but has a villa in spain and is over often one of the reasons why he wants to come here now is because he feels like he cant take it no more not been with me everyday.
2007-01-07 18:46:51 · update #1
Are you willing to go to the US? Obvious answer. Do it.
2007-01-07 18:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to marry this young man then you are going to want him around you and him moving back near you shows that he is the one whether he's a policeman or not. His mother is just being a mother, looking out for son's best interest. Don't be mad at her for too long though, she'll soon be your mother-in-law. It's not wise to come between them if you can avoid it. Chances are the two of you will be fine. Blessings on your engagement!
2007-01-08 03:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that although he should make his own decisions because it is his life not his mothers he should first decide on what he wants to do with his life job wise in spain. he is going to have a whole new family to support soon and he needs to be able to take care of you. if he is not going to need the schooling as a policeman then maybe he should look for schools in spain and take a different major. ask him to comprimise with his mother but if she refuses to budge then hes got to take a stand. he needs to live his own life and blaze his own trail. its how we live and learn. we make mistakes and learn from them but it is imparitive that he still gets a good education to get a good job. if you support your fiance 100% and he does decide to do things his way then why would you need to fear his mother if she doesnt want anything to do with him after that. but again like i say try to comprimise.
2007-01-08 02:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you 2 are really getting married then i say he will be 18 in feb that means he is grown with a capital g he can make up his own mind ,,,,,,,,,, now about his job and moving he must not want to be a cop real bad because he knows he can't be a cop there i say talk to him and tell him you will move where he wants as long as you know it really truely is what he wants ............. good luck and hope everything works out for you
2007-01-08 02:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by shannon l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him to finish school first. A good education will more than make up for the time you spend apart (emotionally AND financially). Assure him you will be there for him when he is done with school. Don't let him quit. You will BOTH regret it later if he does.
2007-01-08 02:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your first gut feeling believe it or not we as women were given an extra sense. the majority of the time we are right.GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2007-01-08 03:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋