i have never been on a date, had a kiss, or even had a boyfriend...im a junior in high school and prom is coming up soon...guys flirt with me and when i flirt back they flirt more, but when i do something stupid like go and fall for them, they run. Why am i always just a friend and never anything more...i just want somebody to love me and want to be more than friends with me..... every guy i have asked out has rejected me...only one has ever thought about my feelings...why am i left out? i dont understand.....
2007-01-07 18:33:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been there on the male side - and male teens are pigs.... even the nicest and sweetest of us haven't got a clue... sometime the brain in the head works, more often the brain in the pants is going... and our hearts are totally lost in between.
Men don't grow up until they're in the late twenties or early thirties... pick out a 'nice' guy, one who'll appreciate you... and ask him out... you might be surprised... but you also might have to make a lot of the first moves.
-dh
2007-01-07 18:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry! I know it seems like everyone is dating and has a boyfriend, but in actuality, you are not behind! I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 18, and now that I know what it's all about, I'm glad I waited! There are a lot of emotional ups and downs and distractions that come with dating, and they can interfere with your schooling. You'll find that special someone when the time is right. Just like the song says, "you can't hurry love, you'll just have to wait!"
You have family and friends who love you, it's not necessary to be getting that love from a boy right now. Dating is for determining which guy you want to marry anyway - do you really feel like marriage is an important goal right now at 16? Enjoy the freedom of being single while you can and just concentrate on learning about yourself and what you want to do with your life.
2007-01-08 02:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by dottidal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when someone is flirting with you its always a good thing you should enjoy it have fun with it. You should talk to them often but don't over do it. don't get too attached to the person I mean just because you had a few laughs that doesn't mean you will be in a relationship.
And another tip never tell the person you love them. lol...
Well if you are looking for someone to go to the prom with the only way you will know what they will say is if you ask. all they can say is yes or no. if they say no don't feel bad.
2007-01-08 02:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Party _Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One reason is you try too hard.
Why do you feel the need to be loved so badly? Are there problems at home? Finding some jerk that will say he loves you and then proceeds to use you and destroy you is a likely scenario if you do not figure out why you have this need. Is there a family doctor, school councillor or minister you can talk to about your loneliness?
What is wrong with being "just" a friend? That is the best way to find someone that grows to love you. Don't sell yourself short, you are still young. Be true to yourself and learn to love yourself. Finding someone will be easier when you show the world you are comfortable with yourself. In fact, someone will most likely find you once you do not appear so desperate.
2007-01-08 02:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by ccrstitch2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew a girl who was very beautiful in every way.
Intelligent a outgoing.
Yet she never got kissed, asked out on a date or taken to the prom.
She was half way through collage before she got her first date.
I enjoyed talking with her and loved to see her smile.
But even I did not ask her out even though we flirted a lot.
If you were to ask me why I did not ask her out I have but one answer.
I put her on a pedestal as I felt she well deserved.
In so doing put out of my reach.
I do regret this but the past I can not change.
It was not her that was not good enough for me.
But in my eyes she deserved better then me!
I was one of those tuff guys.
But not tuff enough to chance rejection from an Angel I placed on a pedestal.
It may well not be you.
It may be them and their insecurities.
Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
And she did not know she was beautiful, this was my fault for not telling her.
2007-01-08 03:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be patient and one day you will find someone. dont go looking for the right guy, let him find you. hes out there somewhere but it might take awhile for you two to meet. so until then just enjoy being single and enjoy life.
as to why you are left out its proably because you are a nice girl and not a whore or slut. guys might not respect that now but they will later as they mature. see you will be considered girlfriend material while all the other booty call girls will be one night stands. you will end up with some guy who loves you and they will get jerks who treat them like crap. just be patient. good things come to those who wait.
2007-01-08 02:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your feelings aside, there is no place for them, in this game of Love. Just like any game, let us say basketball. if you like your opponent and hand him the ball to basket, he may like it intially, but later he will not play with you. He needs challenge and a tough opponent to make the game interesting. The same is true about you. you build sufficient tension to promise a good game of love, but just before the climax, you are handing everything to him on a platter. What does he play for now ? The game is more interesting than the prize. What should he do ? He goes to play with someone else, who makes the game interesting
2007-01-08 02:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just haven't met the right person. i'm sure he will come along one day. just be patient. high school boys are not worth the trouble. just go to prom with your single friends. it will actually be more fun that way. relax... it's no big deal. one day, your prince charming will come to you and all of those questions are just going to dissapear. those guys don't go out with you b/c it's not meant to be... there is absolutely nothing wrong with you... I've found the love of my life and it's the most wonderful thing ever. and i'm grateful that i didn't have to date too many guys to find him...and I even wish that I've never gone out with my other previous boyfriends. b/c they caused nothing but troubles. just wait for your prince charming. he will come :)
good luck
2007-01-08 02:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Deesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obvously you're wanted !
just try not to rush things.
give the relationship sometime you wont find the perfect guy easily well maybe you will but even if you did you wont have that kind of a relationship in a week or two these things take years !
and you're still youn and its normal for a jr high students not to have a bf even hot 1s! ;)
2007-01-08 02:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by MAK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
junior high that still at a young age dont rush anthing. and get use to guys not caring about your feelings there guys what can u expect!?! the best advice i can give u is dont rush into things dont show them your all in love because these guys are teenagers they dont whant all that. play it koo if anything play hard to get but dont over do. it trust me youll find some1
2007-01-08 02:40:03 · answer #10 · answered by DODGER GIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋