should i feel this way?

Question

i was talking to a guy who i started liking. we were talking for a while and my friend is like damn are you two going out? you act like it. well we werent but i thought about it and i was going to ask him but i was waiting for a good time to. i heard there was a dance comming up so i was gonna ask him to the dance and then see how that goes and try asking him out since he told me he kind of liked me. well i really liked him.i am a lil shy so i had to get enough guts to ask him. i also am pretty bad at sharing feelings, i jsut dont really talk about them or show them. now i feel like kind of really stupid for thinking we could have anything. he emailed me saying sorry, a girl asked him out over winter break while she was here....she is from south dakota and he is from illinois.and then at the end he said he was going to ask me out. he says we should still be friends, it feels awkward to talk to him as much now after he told me how he felt about me....

i may have too see him more cuz of work...i appied to a job and didnt know he works there

she is not going to the dance. she asked him to be her bf not to the dance. she lives in another state. the dance is for my school.

Answer 1

It sounds like both of you handled the situation well. Go ahead and be friends. That first time you get together might be a little awkward, but it'll get better. Good luck.

Answer 2

He's a nice guy if he stands by his commitments and is going to the dance with the girl who asked him out first and he said 'yes' to.

Just because you missed one chance to go out with him doesn't mean you've missed every chance. Some day soon after the dance is over you should broach the subject to him of the two of you going out together. Don't wait too long or you might miss another opportunity.

Answer 3

Like I care. Here is some advice:

Take your mommy's crack-head boyfriend's stash and consume it all. Make sure to do it all at once. Don't hesitate. To make it easier, make yourself some nice chocolate milk and a candy bar - (you're probably a fat chick anyway), oh, use Nestle, crap like Ovaltine or herseys may be too binding and affect the narcotics you are about to consume.

Take a small sip, then insert the contraband, eat the candy bar and then finish with a large gulp of cool, refreshing c-milk.

This will confirm that your life is officially useless and over.

Otherwise, go to your room, accept that you're a failure in life and cry in your snot-ridden pillow that you have used since puking as an under-loved infant.

Answer 4

Blow it off. Say "oh well, his lost". Don't let this discourage you from ever taking a chance on asking a guy out again. Be friends with him and show him how confident you still are in yourself. If you feel good about yourself, it'll show him that it didn't bother you one bit.

Answer 5

It is because now that you know that he likes you, you are getting freaked out because you will have to act on your feelings...it is about fear of rejection...or feeling that you will not be able to measure up to his expectations once you start *going out*. Just relax and be yourself....if it is right, it will be right. I have a little secret for you....he is feeling the same way...shhhhhhhhhhhh.

Answer 6

I would still remain friends with him. There is nothing wrong with that. Just because he is going to go out to the dance with the other girl? (I hope I understood this correctly) , doesn't mean you can't be friends. You were friends to begin with. Sometimes, you just have to let go of your fears and go for it. If the opportunity ever rises again, just face your fears and ask. The worst that could happen is that he would say no.

I found this website that talks about men who have a fear of dating women. I am sure that there are fears in all of us and maybe you have some of the same fears when it comes to talking to this guy friend you have. I hope you find it helpful.
http://www.sosuave.com/romance/david/art63.htm
Ah, the concept that is near and dear to all of us men who have started on the path to success with women and dating...

FEAR.

Fear of rejection.

Fear of embarrassment.

Fear of the unknown.

Fear of what she might do if I start talking to her.

Fear of what other guys would think if they knew that we needed help with women.

Fear of what WOMEN would think if they knew that we needed help with women.

Fear of admitting that we're AFRAID.

...and about 100 others.

But what exactly IS fear?

And why is it such a problem?

And what can be done to overcome it?

Well, let's start with what fear is, then we'll move on to some techniques to get past it.

I once heard a great definition of FEAR:

False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

In other words, the things that you feel fear about are usually not real. It's usually just "false evidence".

You also might think back about the last 10 things you felt fear around. Now, ask yourself... Did any of those things come true?

In most of the cases, you'll find that the fear did NOT come true.

I heard once that something like 98% of the things that people fear and worry about never come true.

I've found this to be true in my own life, of course.

Fear is an emotion, or an emotional state. It's an amazing and wonderful emotion... because it can help save your life in certain situations.

A hundred thousand years ago, when we were running around in the desert, we needed powerful, motivating emotions like FEAR to save our lives.

When you feel fear (especially if it's a response to real physical danger) you'll notice that some AMAZING things happen. Your eyes open up wider so you can see better, adrenaline pumps into your body, your heart beats fast to deliver blood to your muscles, and all kinds of other wondrous processes are triggered.

The PROBLEM is when we experience fear at times when there IS NO real physical danger.

We humans are amazing. We can just IMAGINE things and feel fear in response to the mental images.

And I'm sure you know exactly what the problem is with this... it can IMMOBILIZE you at critical times.

Have you ever seen a woman that you'd like to meet, but you just couldn't walk over and start talking to her?

No, it's never happened to me, either.

What was the problem?

Usually, it's fear.

Fear that she'll get upset, or fear that she'll have a boyfriend... or fear that she'll embarrass you in front of others... or fear that you won't know what to say to her...

And, of course, when you feel that strong fear emotion, it just FREEZES you and makes you totally ineffective.

So what's the solution?

Well, there are several ways to overcome fears.

One way is to do the thing you fear. If you do the thing that you fear, and see that nothing bad will happen, then you eventually overcome it and become programmed not to feel fear anymore.

For instance, if you're afraid to approach women and talk to them, just DO IT. Go talk to 50 women in the next week and see that most of them will respond positively to you (if you don't act like a dumb-***, that is).

Other ways include:

- Understanding the dynamics of male/female interactions better than most women do.

- Learning how to approach women using the same types of words and body language that the masters use.

- Learning how to use props or other devices to get a woman's attention without having to "approach" her directly.

- Learning mental techniques to overcome fears or "reset" your emotions instantly, anytime you'd like (this is one of my personal favorites).

- Using mental preparation to be completely ready for anything that might happen.

You can get past your fears, but you need to learn how.

So make the commitment to yourself, and do it!

Answer 7

it always does just give it a couple months maybe 3 and you'll be back to a happy friendship

Answer 8

my response...b his friend...u can always have good friends...maybe you can get a second chance at talking to him so keep him around...u knever know till it happens

Answer 9

if you wanna get with him
lifed your head you high and go for it girl