How do I say I'm sorry?

Question

Okay.. I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month, known him 6 yrs. He's 27, I'm 20. The gf he had b4 m he'd been with for almost 7 years off and on..and has 2 kids with her, ages 3 and 1. He's a truck driver, so he's gone a lot and it sucks not having him here. For the past month, I have talked to him on the phone constantly though, cyz while he's on the road he calls me all the time cuz he gets bored and he likes talking to me.. then this past week, they changed his route so he goes to Canada.. with the roaming charges he doesn't call. then on top of that, he went with his boss...so he only called when he was back in the states to load..which was every other day for about 20 mins. Since I'm so used to talking to him all the time..it was hard and he called me the night before last for a little bit. After we hung up, I texted him and told him maybe it would be better if he didnt call anymore and save us both the hurt feelings. I didnt mean it..how do I say I'm sorry??

Also.. my problem is that he told me it hurt his feelings and that this was the same problem he had with his ex.. I don't want to be like her and I hate being compared. So I told him if it was the same problem, why not just be with her since he has kids with her and stuff... .now I'm afraid he's actually thinking about it and I really really like him... I know I shouldn't have said it and if I could take it back I would but I can't... so now I just need a way to apologize so that he will give me a chance to prove I can be different than her...

Answer 1

Relationships can be difficult and complex and sometimes we get caught up in our emotions.

The only thing you can really do is give him a heartfelt apology. Speak the truth and try not to over-think things.

Just speak from your heart, take responsibility for what you said without making excuses. Tell him how much you regret having said it and acknowledge that what you said hurt him, promise not to do it again, and ask for forgiveness.

Try and come up with a solution for the roaming charges problem and make that part of the apology so he sees that you are doing something so that you don't get frustrated again.

How about you calling through your computer to his cell through Yahoo (which I think is around 2 cents a minute) or Skype - which offers a package for North America at unlimited calls from PC to phone for about 15 dollars a year.... which is a really good deal.

Answer 2

well at least you are one of the few smart ones. Besides, you can get used to talking on the phone to someone all the time. So when they do not call, do you miss the phone call talking or the person. In you case, YOU WISED UP, you missed the phone call talking. So now you can get a life. You want a bf that is around all the time not 20 minutes every other day.

Answer 3

But perhaps you do mean it. Please give this some thought. He is much older and you are sitting on the shelf waiting for him. Phone calls are only so good. You didn't say when you actually spend time together. He has been involved (and has had a family) since he was 20. I would say this guy is showing that he needs some space for a while.

Answer 4

YOU SAID IT BECAUSE YOU DO NT LIKE THE SITUATION,don't play the feeling game someone or both get hurt, you have to make a decision, do you want that kind of relationship?your young and got your feature ahead of you,when does he see his kids? this looks like a cross roads in your life, listen to your conscience it is telling you something that is why you said what you said, it didn't come from no where it came from you,for a reason search it out and you will get the answer from you not somebody else, NEVER regret what you say, there is a reason

Answer 5

You don't. Well, depends on what you do. 'Sorry' is a very misused word in America. I mean, we say 'sorry' after we do something wrong on purpose, the guy says it's okay, and you're free to go off doing it AGAIN. But if it's a mistake, it MAY be okay to say sorry. But in this case, it was a little confusment going on. Tell him how everyting got mixed up, and he'll understand. Of coarse, most of my description wasn't refering to you. I'm not saying you're a hipocrit (however you spell that), but I was just giving examples. I hope this helped at least one percent.

Answer 6

Well 1st you must refrain from saying things you don't mean. next , if you explain why you said it he may understand, but he will still have hurt feelings. those you must mend in person. If you both feel like you need to be together more, hopefully he will take another job or something will change the present situation to accommodate the feelings you have and hopefully he has also.

Answer 7

tell him you were having a low moment when you wrote it. Tell him you were missing him so much that you were upset at the time you wrote it. I think you're playing with fire though. And think of this. If you were to get hooked up with him, what kind of life would you have if he's always on the road? If you miss him now you will go nuts if you have his kids and he's not there to share it with you. good luck.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

There can be no pride when you say your sorry. Spit it all out and not in reserve for how much u may look like an idiot. telling half the story is almost as bad as lieing.

Answer 10

You could say...I was a bit hasty my friend.. but I miss you. I don't want to put you in an awkard position with work and everything. I would love to hear from when it's convenient.

That's an idea.

You also have to protect yourself , friend. xx