Am I a bad girl?

Question

Ok,I'm a spoiled girl,and i never do any housework.Although i know it's not easy for my parents to earn a living,i spend their money in different ways.I'm selfish,i don't care about others feeling,so i often hurt others...oh my god!
My friend said i should go to see a doctor to cure my mental illness

Answer 1

You know already that you are selfish and hurt others. If your parents work hard for their money, you should be more respectful of their efforts and curb your spending or get some income of youe own. It wouldn't hurt you to pick up now and again and housework is the responsibility of all that live in a house.

Answer 2

Yes, you are [at the moment].

Because you said you do not help your parents and instead spend their little earnings, because you said you are selfish, because you said you do not care for others. And you ask whether you are bad or not ? The answer certainly is 'yes'.

However, there is a positive and bright side to your situation. And that is, you have realized you are bad. And I can say you are trying to change yourself. But it will depend on how much you would like to change as a person. A complete turn around can not be expected, at least not in a short time. But you can slowly mend your ways and work hard towards becoming a good human being, if not an angel.

And most importantly, do not look down on yourself with contempt. Never lose self-esteem because if you do, that is the end of everything. Respect and love yourself despite knowing that you are bad. And you have a strong reason to respect and love yourself because you want to change and become respectable and loveable for everyone !

Goodluck !

Answer 3

Hey, I can help you there. You say that you might be a bad girl? Well, are you asian? NOt to be racist, but most Asians do the housework around the family, (The girls, I mean) I'm from Mongolia, and in Mongolia every child cooks, cleans, and does whatever the parents tell them to do. Kids from Asia that come here get used to how Americans (Not to be racist) kids don't really clean the house and cook dinner every day. I myself have been like this lately, but I still cook dinner once in a while, dust every week, make my bed, clean my room, and make sure the house is clean. If you are sure your parents are having a hard time to ake a living, you have to help them out. Also, if you say you are spoiled, admitting you ARE still means you have a little heart in you left. What you have to do, is work from there. When you want something, ask yourself "If I DON'T get this, will I not be able to live?" And be realistic. If it is like basketball shoes, and you NEED them for the team, you need them. If it is like a beanbag chair and costs alot, you probably don't need it. BUT, if you MUST have it, you have to earn it. Sounds hard? How about starting by paying half. Hope this helps, and if you need more advice, just e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 4

Sounds like you are proud of these things that you do. You know what you are doing is wrong; so why do you keep doing them? You should be more considerate of your parents. I don't think you have mental illness; you just take advantage people. You can stop if you want to. That would be a good goal for you for 2007. Make your life count for something worth while.
I hope you will make your life as happy as possible by being nice to everyone that you meet. It will feel good once you do it a few times. Just try it for fun and see how it goes.

Answer 5

I don't know if bad is the correct thing to call you. maybe selfish is more aperpoe. You say you hurt others, my question is why?

Maybe it would not hurt to go see a psychologist, if hurting others is something you set out to do. IF it is something you do inadvertently, try to correct the situation. You don't mention your age, so maybe it is something you can grow out of, by doing some volunteer work. Helping others can be very rewarding and give you a sense of self worth and also teach you that others in this world have it much worse than you.

Good Luck

Answer 6

if your friend is telling you to see a doctor then your problem is more than just being spoiled at home. Good news is sounds like you recognize your bad behavior, maybe a trip to the doctor or therapist to discuss ways to control your bad impulse control would be in order. When you are on your own you will have the same problems with money and cleaning!!! Better fix it now.

Answer 7

your whole family needs counseling
they are not doing you any favors by allowing your behavior
your parents will not live forever
so unless you plan to marry a millionaire or live in a card board box when your parents are gone i suggest you learn some responsibility and grow up
remember what goes around comes around
your children may do the same to you some day

Answer 8

You do not have a mental illness, you are just as you say...spoiled. Maybe a little reality check. Think of what the world would be like without your parents. You should appreciate them while you have them. They won't be here forever.

Answer 9

Some times in life it happens. But as you have realized the facts you have to value the hard earned money of your parent. Try to utilize it more judiciously. You know the truth so you are going to improve. Best wishes for you.

Answer 10

I can see you're very young,and what you are doing is very natural at your age,so don't blame yourself,at least you admit there's something wrong.Do what your friend told you to do,that will help a lot,and don't expect things will change drastically,it will take time,but little by little your life will change and everything will be just fine,take care.