Ok so I dated this girl for a year and we were eabout to move in together. One day we're on the phone and she casually says, "This guy, Andy, at work has a crush on me." That's all, didn't bring it up again. Two week later she breaks up with him....ahem, actually says she "wants a break." And we were suppose to move in together in two weeks from the break. So three weeks after the break, in which during those three weeks she said 'I hope it's us in the end' when I called her, she is living with and dating this guy, you guessed it, Andy. A month or so later she calls me up and says she broke up with him bcause she was cheating on her and kicked him out. She started saying she loves me, sorry, missed me, thought about me even when she was with Andy. So we unofficially got back together, in that just talked like we did before, etc. She never said she wanted to go on vacation together. So three weeks after that she says she just wants to party, being single, etc, and saysI was never her...
2007-01-04 19:49:57 · 19 answers · asked by Timothy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...boyfriend again. She was just telling me how she felt---missing, loving me, etc. So she was saying she wants to go to the mountains together, calling me all the time, sayign she loves and misses me, and was talking about having sex and being intimate with me, and she said I wasn't her boyfriend again? And the she had the nerve to say that that wasn't leading me on? What do you guys think?
So about everything else, what do you think? Did she break-up with me to see how things would go with Andy because she was curious/flattered to his having a crush on her? And that's why she said 'take a break' so if the crush didn't work out she'd have me to fall back on, and with a 'on a break' if he didn't worl out she could say we never broke up. Thoughts? Girls would actually throw away a year to see where a crush would go?
One more thing: A month before the break we went to the beach, stayed in a hotel. We just got back into the hotel room in mid afternoon and I just a needed to go downsta
2007-01-04 19:50:13 · update #1
irs for a few minutes to check something and that I wasn't leaving the hotel. She, from the bathroom, said "no don't go, I don't wanna be here alone." I said I'd be just a few, said bye baby, and left. So a get back to the room and she's mad pacing back and forth. I say sorry...I love you. She says "no you left me and I told you not to." I kept apologizing trying to hug her, etc. Finally she forgave me. That night I told her what I was doing: Checking the time a gourmet breakfast opened to take her to. She said she wasn't THAT mad and was even trying not to laugh in the bathroom. A few days later, she was even telling her friends she over-reacted. So anyway when she wanted the break, one of her reasons for it was, "You left the hotel room." What do you think? Give me your thoughts on all of this!
2007-01-04 19:50:48 · update #2
UPDATE:
Oh no, it's OVER. I haven't talked to her for weeks. And the only reason I did weeks ago was cuz she said she wanted to be friends, but I said I didnt wanna and she got pissed and we haven't talked since. I've been dating since then lol.
2007-01-04 20:06:27 · update #3
wow that's a long question. sounds like she manipulates you, tricks you, lies to you, uses you, and controls you, and that even when you are on vacation she throws temper tantrums. she cheats on you, makes drama, dumps you for another guy, then decides she doesnt like him (probably because he wasn't trained like you) and comes back to her sure thing. so uh, why? would you want this girlfriend? exactly?
2007-01-04 19:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by bellatrix27 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she is not serious with you or about relationship.She is unpredictable and wild.
She is not sure what she wants.So if you just wanna play or have some"adventures" then stay with her.But if you want a serious or real relationship then get rid of her and get over her
as soon as possible or else you are bound for destruction!You will just be emotionally used and abused over and over again!
2007-01-04 20:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by ranya j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you ask her to go on a little trip with you, then when your in the room say to her OH i have to get something for us, be right back. THEN walk to your car, get in and drive away saying later you felt like going for a drive. Leave her
2007-01-04 20:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clingy drama queen, with abandonment issues, afraid of herself, and will eventually become so totally consuming of you, that you will start to look for a relationship on the side that is less stressful and demanding.
Get rid of this lifetime of headaches and drama while you can!!!
2007-01-04 19:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by Michael, Count de Berçon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well..dats a long 1..
actually i think she's using u..
u seem 2 b kinda backup 4 her..
notice whether she is just as involved in ur relationship as u r..
a relationship is abt givin nd not xpcting ne thing in return...
if its only u who's givin nd she's not thn i think u're not right..
if i were u i wud tell her wat i feel nd giv her 1 more chance 2 xprss her love...if she failed, i wud leave her...
hope u get the rite way out...
remember dat leavin her nd movin on wud b painful 4 sometime
but bein wid some1 who's playin wid ur emotions or bein selfish will b painful till u dont leave her and move on..
wish u the best sweety... hope u dont face a heartbreak...
2007-01-04 20:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by liferocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get as far away from her as you can, she is a nut job. She is using you. If you have any self respect as a man, leave and do not look back. She will be nothing but trouble for you.
2007-01-04 19:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is playing with your heart dude leave her you deserve better.
Girls like that are not worth your time or energy she doesn't want to be in a committed relationship because if she did she wouldn't be playing these games.
2007-01-04 20:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are the backup; just someone she will run to when her "real" love interest is not treating her self-centeredness to being the center of her universe and she just wants to be the center of someone else when she is dumped.
2007-01-04 19:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that she liked the andy guy and so she asked for a break and then while she was with him found out she really loved u. so yall got back together and i think she is just WAY TOO OVER DRAMATIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-04 19:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by bethanydoodle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did not read the question description...all i know is that you're suffering from infatuation....
don't be fooled by her looks...she could have aids...and crab lice...
hehe
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and oh, you're not meant to be. she's just a pigment of your imagination. your brain must be leaking--don't be too open minde or your brains will fall out...hehe
;p
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i think the girl's a *****..
duh! you're never right at all!!! bleh!
2007-01-04 19:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by asker679 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋