i'm already 20. but my parents seems don't realize that. they think i'm just let's say 5 or 10 y'old girl. how can i be free? i want to be an independent person but they treat me like a lil kid. even i when i go to other city for a week, they act like i'm going for years. gosh! it only take 2.5 hr... 3 hours max to go to that city. how can i move on? help me please!!
p.s. they're so sensitive. i talked to them before and they got disapointed at me.
2007-01-04 14:59:01 · 7 answers · asked by No*Nick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and how can i get a job if they don't let me. they got disapointed too when i got one couple months ago. they said that i don't want their money anymore by getting a job. they work for me, they said... and why i don't want to use their money... that's what they said. bit i'm sick with using their money and even i use it, i need more than that... they just don't let me be an independent person.
2007-01-04 15:12:57 · update #1
well I'm not a baby any more. I'm a mother and also I'm a woman. i understand what you are talking about. my advice is if you truly want to be treated like your an adult you really need to think about get your own place. I'm telling you when i got my place it was like weight been lifted off my shoulder. i can go come as i please no one me telling be careful. call me when you get there. because i was already home. if you cant afford your own get a roommate just think about it. feel free to ask me any thing else.
2007-01-04 15:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by raquel j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and never move back in. Because if you do move back because of some unfortunate circumstances they will still treat you like a child. And its alot more fustrating to go from having total control over your life to being a "kid" again.
Just wait till you have kids and your still being treated like a child. I in a way see why they act like that because I know that I probably will act like that when my kids are grown up since they will always be my little ones. I guess its hard to let go of the way you see your children and accept the fact that they are adults. My grandfather always treated my father like he was 5 up until the day he died.
2007-01-04 23:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will quit treating you like a child when you stop acting like one or stop allowing them to treat you like one.
IE they got disappointed in me??? You should be able to deal w/ that, its not about making them happy anymore.
Also are you self supporting? Its tough to plead that you are an adult when they pay your car payment or gas to get you to the city and if you use their visa while you are there.
2007-01-04 23:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by Christina K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do what you gotta do on your own. Its your life now. But it also doesnt hurt to stay in touch with them as often as you. They need to realize you are grown woman & have to live your own life now. Is there some way to prove that to them? That you dont need to be dependant on them. Do you have your own job, car,. etc.?
Just tell them that you love them both & you feel you need to live your life the way you want to. And that they have raised you well enough for you to make your own decisions & do them right.
And they need to trust that in you.
Good Luck
2007-01-04 23:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and move out?
2007-01-04 23:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things will never change. Say YES MOM and do as you wish.
2007-01-04 23:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by Diana R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be so luckly to have so much love and how things are going on in this sick world.they should worry be glad that you have parents that care.....
2007-01-04 23:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋