I have a mother that seems to have a drinking problem. She tries to hide her drinks, act like she hasn't drunken anything, or just anything she can possibly do to hide the fact that she doesn't have a problem with it. It seems as if she has to drink everyday or VERY close to everyday.
I've talked to her more than 25 times it counting, no lie. I've prayed for years. I've tried to pour out her drinks/bottles. I've done EVERYTHING I could possible do.
It seems like nothing will help me. What should I do?
She tells me she'll quit more than 20 times, and never has. She's sweared, promised, and all that. I'm scared for her because I know it's possible to get lung cancer, and she's already had surgery for a tumor in her stomach, so it makes me even MORE scared.
Someone PLEASE tell me what to do. I've been as patient as I could.
2006-12-25 13:39:48 · 14 answers · asked by lvbs793 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Drinking doesn't cause lung cancer.. It can cause serosis of the liver and that can kill..
I grew up with an alcoholic mother and now my husband of 23 years is an alcoholic. And I am here to tell you, there is absolutely NOTHING you can do to make them stop!
The have to do it on their own, they will lie to you just to shut you up about their drinking.
What you need to do is get yourself healthy, an worry about you and not her. I am not sure if you are an adult or teen but you can go to Alanon or Alateen and they will help you, help yourself.
Alcoholics effect non alcoholics in many ways that is more damaging than actually drinking, so we have to get ourselves healthy emotionally.
2006-12-25 14:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mommadog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really has to want to quit. All you can really do is offer her support and encouragement. Try to point out to her that she has a problem. She may be in denial or is simply frightened at the prospect of facing life without the crutch of alcohol. She has to make the decision to quit and get help herself. Please don't hide or pour out her booze. People with serious alcohol dependence can develop severe and even life-threatening symptoms during alcohol withdrawal. In severe addiction withdrawal should be done under medical supervision. Medications can ease the symptoms and if any serious symptoms arise they can be treated. Then the next step is counseling, therapy and support groups.
2006-12-25 20:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is extremely not some thing you may do to make your mom end ingesting yet you'll get help for your self. imagine about attending an Alanon assembly...those are 12 step conferences for kin and acquaintances of alcoholics. i understand this isn't what you want to hearken to yet each from time to time all you may do is preserve your self and pray for the different man or woman...you need to offer this as a lot as God. She beverages because she likes the outcomes of alcohol. not some thing you're saying or do will reason her to end. she will be able to easily cover the beverages, or reduce how a lot she makes use of. speaking, coaxing, manipulation, threatening...those techniques under no circumstances artwork. The alcoholic or the guy with the habit ought to finally change into weary of the detrimental outcomes of ingesting and make certain to get help. Your mom would do this and she received't. besides the indisputable fact that you may end the cycle of habit on your household with the help of transforming into knowledgeable. back please evaluate an Alanon assembly. good success my expensive.
2016-12-01 04:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lung cancer from drinking? Or does she smoke too and that's also an issue? Drinking is very dangerous, and if she's hiding and denying it it could well be that she has a problem... is there anyone ELSE you can discuss this with, who might be able to help her? If she sees a therapist or counselor they might be able to help, but you might not (at least not alone) be in a position to make that happen.
2006-12-25 14:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by soothing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go to your public library and check out any books you can find on Al-anon--there is a branch teen-anon (I think that is the name). You are a victim of alcoholism. It affects your daily life, and will continue to do so for many, many years. These books talk about this. They will not necessarily tell you how to "fix" the alcoholic, but rather how to deal with living with an alcoholic. Many of these books talk about the signs of alcoholism, give examples, and personal stories. It really helps to read about other people that are going through exactly what you are. It makes you feel like you are not the only person in the world that has to deal with this.
Please go get a few of thee books. They will help you deal with this situation.
2006-12-25 13:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about that. You are very right to suspect something is up with that, because it most certainly is. As for what else to do now, consider that people often take to drinking because they can't deal with the pressures of life. If you find out what bothers her so much she needs to reach for the bottle, you may still get her off it. But it's often hard, and has to do with old pain, a long time ago.
I've known a few alcoholics, and they've told me their stories well.
Have patience, but not too much...
2006-12-25 13:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by Tahini Classic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your mom. I know how you feel. Alcoholism/drug addiction runs in my family. Unfortunately, we are helpless to get another person to stop unless they're ready to do it. All you can do is offer support to her when she is ready to get help and let her know that as long as she drinks, you will not stand by and watch her destroy herself. Do nothing to enable her behavior and try very hard to let her go for now until she's ready to give up her addiction. See if you can at least get her to admit that she has a problem and suggest she consider getting help. I wish you all the best with her. I know how hard this is.
2006-12-25 14:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by oscpressgirl66 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was an addict for over 10 years. People kept telling me I need to quit..how much I was hurting them..I didn't care..I just wanted to get high.I finally had to decide for myself I was tired of that life. That is what your mom will have to do.. Denial is a big problem with addiction.."I can stop when I want"..is a phrase WE (addicts) love to use.."I just need one more"..BS..You can NOT make her want to quit.. I hurt a lot of people and myself but nobdy could make me quit..I had to want to. Addicts/alcoholics also think "no one knows"..also BS.. Tell her u care.. Go to al-anon..talk to them but remember u cannot control her..the more you pour out her drinks, etc..the more she's going to drink just to PISS you off..this has to be HER decision alone.+
2006-12-25 14:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by chilover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! I know exactly what your going through!! My sister is an alcoholic, and her boyfriend is an alcoholic. To make a long story short, she was with us for about 4 months and only drank twice. She said that she didnt want to drink, but now, she is back with him, drinking everyday. She drinks the hard stuff to. I have come to the conclusion that they will get help themselves, when their ready, if something bad doesnt happen to them first. I know that its worrisome, but we are wasting our time, and ruining our own health because of them.I wish you luck and good health. please dont let this bother you continuously. E-mail me if you want to talk more about this. I have almost become an expert at this. Take Care.
2006-12-25 13:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by pebbles 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PLEASE contact Al-Anon, which is for families of alcoholics, and go to some meetings. It's in the phone book. It will not help you to control her, because no one can control an active alcoholic/addict, but it will help you to not be so hurt by being attached to what she does. I know this for a fact. Good luck my dear.
2006-12-25 13:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋