How to cure my depression?

Question

I heard that to cure depression one must rid him/herself of the root cause of their depression. I feel like I Know what is causing my depression but should it be? I don't want to disclose the details of that so I will leave that be. But my point is, is it better to let go of the provocation of the depression or should one try and "deal with it?" I apologize for the ambiguity but this is the best I can do in my descriptiveness. Thanks

1 more detail. There is 1 particular thing in my life that is causing me great stress ( a long distance relationship). This is the thing that I didn't relaly want to disclose. Should I forsake this relationship and cut ties immediately? I just can't handle it and I believe this is causing immense problems for me. IT is also causing insomnia, hence I'm on here.

Answer 1

There is no cure for depression. It can be treated with medication, counseling can certainly help. If you are suffering from clinical depression it is a chemical imbalance in your brain that is what is causing it. It may cause you to not deal with your daily life differently than what you did before, but it's the imbalance, not the situation that is causing it. Very treatable. Go talk to your doctor about your problem and start getting better!

Answer 2

Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses and is often called the common cold of mental illness.

A clinical depression is one where you will feel incredibly bad, not just a little blue. If this is the case then often the only cure is medication, so you need to see your doctor.

You are right, stress and depression often go together. If we lose control of our lives then we feel depressed. Medication, drugs and other quick cures don't deal with the root cause of the problem.

You say the main problem is a relationship. Well the thing to not to quit the relationship, but to regain control of your life. Maybe learn to accept the long-distance nature of the relationship, move to be closer or as you suggested quit it.

Other solutions are of course possible. Control should be real control, not something where you push others into doing what you want or lying to yourself.

Answer 3

I don't want to be a bearer of bad news and say long distance relationships dont work, because in reality they can, if your mentally prepared to accept the challenges of this kind of relatioship. They can work but you have to want it to, same goes with the other person.
If you feel its the root of your depression, then forget about any relalatioship right now and focus on yourself, and be independent. Cause in the real world, all you can really depend on is yourself and you need to be mentally, and physically able to take on challenges life throws at you without depending on anyone else.
There is no cure for depression, just ways to cope and handle your emotions. For some its, writing, religion or prayer, art, exercise, or some other hobby. Take time to yourself and listen to what not only your heart says but also what it craves, self love.
God bless, and good luck

Answer 4

First of all Merry Christmas to you. Now that is a hard thing to say. That is really going to be up to you. No one can really tell how your heart feels about this person, that you can not get any sleep over. This time of the year is a very depressing time of the year for a lot of people. So take that into thought. Maybe you should talk to the other person, on the other end, and see, how they feel too. Just maybe you two can work something out, and see each other more often.

Answer 5

If this relationship is causing great stress then my question to you would be why are you still in it?

You really love this person and don't want to lose them?

or

You really want to get out of this relationship but can't face breaking up with him/her and decide to deal with it?

Whatever the reason may be you have to ask yourself if it's worth it. Is this something that interferes with everyday life activities (are these thoughts getting in the way from finishing your work, are these thoughts causing you to drink, etc.)? It sounds like it is because you mention that you aren't getting any sleep. That is not ok. You have to ask yourself whether or not you're life will become easier if you weren't involved in this long distance relationship. If you answered yes than you really need to consider moving on.

Answer 6

Depression is so complex and cruel that I don't have enough pages to describe it in this answer. My heart goes out to you and all of us others that have battled it head on .The great news is that there is so much hope and people willing to help you! Depression is definitely treatable and BEATABLE. Most depression is caused by unresolved anger brought on by tragedy, like loss of self or a loved one and also trauma/pain Depression is not caused by just 1 incident but many that keep piling up on you because you have never resolved the first. I know you want a quick answer but you deserve all answers. First off let me say I have had Depression since I was 10. I am now in my late 30's and the cure for me, really a miracle was my relationship with God. I also surrounded myself with books like Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren and others. The answer from "chef raya" was so profound, and it is people like her that are the walking miracles. I hope she reads this as well, because I think she is a treasure from God and can really have a gift at helping others. I know I'm not supposed to give personal info. but if you or any one reading this needs any encouragement or info. to help with Depression please Email me:[e-mail] . God bless you and I will say a prayer for you on this night of miracles!

Answer 7

Letting go of what is brothering you is important. Getting out and being with friends is good. Knowing the root of your depression is the being. Being angry and upset is no good. Excerise is a good source of letting go of the aggressivness or bitterness you may feel inside. Tallking to a professional is also an option. But sitting down and looking deep within yourself finding the roof of the problem is the key. My problems of my depressions are coming to the surface just by me sitting down and taking the time alone and finding the roof of my problems. I have realized I have anger deep inside of me that I have been holding back on and letting them out. Whether on paper or talking to friends. Releasing the extra engery is good. Getting out of the house and people around people you love made it all better. If you are alone and feel like crying just do it then. Crying never hurt anyone.

Answer 8

If the relationship is the source of your problem, end it or move closer. Depression is an illness. However, people can feel depressed over several things, even the weather (winter blues)
Once you deal with the root of your problem, you will feel better & life goes on.

Answer 9

Exercise it mill make your endorphins flow which is a powerful antidepressant, also get a company, nothing better than a friend you can talk to and hang out with to forget all the things which cause depression. First you will be still depressed often but as time passes and you use the above it will become rarer and weaker day by day, just watch it and you will believe me

Answer 10

Hello,

I will ask you to do one thing- don't try everything you read in the responses to your question. Some of the responses are just not reasonable.

I would say that long distance relationships are next to impossible to maintain. Why don't you go out with friends on the weekends and keep yourself active in your community and hobbies?

Have a great life, and God bless you!