He says would u rather me kill myself? and i said no and he said then leave me alone!!
2006-12-24 13:42:29 · 14 answers · asked by summer t 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Jessica, they don't do it for attention.
There are many ways to get other people attention.
Maybe many people gave them attention, could be why
they still alive.
If people ignore them, and they find themselves alone,
they will kill themselves...
2006-12-24 13:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by MFD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, cutting is a coping mechanism. Major emotions without a healthy outlet, make some people find other ways to release the emotions. Somtimes they want to numb out, or "feel" somthing. Its also like bulima, when you purge chemicals are released in the brain and you suddenly feal somwhat euphoric and calm.. it gives you a focus, when you feel soo out of focus. Just like a bulimic, you cant just say dont stop-- they dont feel like they can...at this point, they feel like they NEED this outlet... its a slow process, and somtimes requires a deep cut to scare them away from this behavior, but usually its a long slow daily process of re training the mind to use better coping mechanisms, and replacing those old tapes in your mind with more healthy ones. Remind him that you love him and that he can trust you with this, and that you may not agree but you are willing to help any way you can. But also KEEP an eye out! Read up on it, because most cutters have triggers and stressors that make them cut, when you know his, you will be able to step in and distract or just be there for him. If he does cut too deep you want to know, and if he starts to hide it from you, it may be serious and he may need medical attention. Most cutters are surface cutters, but there are those out there that cut Deep and it is dangerous.
2006-12-24 22:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by code_blue_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try and offer him support and encourage him to get out and do things that he enjoys. You could try talking to someone close to him, a partner or a relative so that they know whats going on. He may not want you to do this but he will thank you for it sooner or later.
You could talk to your local GP to see if you could get any advice on how to help him.
He doesn't cut just to seek attention, some people who cut say it releases their emotions without actually killing themselves. It is not just something that they wake up thinking " i'm going to cut myself today", it feels like the person has no control.
Just stay positive and stick by his side. Good Luck on finding the answer you need.
2006-12-25 02:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by Black Rainbow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's 2 paths to go about this, either keep talking to him and let him explain everything and try to go for a solution, or get him some help, and I don't mean the slow kind of telling the parents and see how they deal with it stuff, but something like men in white suits with a comfy padded cell, because if you just put more pressures on him and he has sharp objects at his disposal, he could easily take it as offense and off himself.
2006-12-24 21:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Cory W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to other of his friends about his self-mutilation practices. If he is a minor, talk to his parents. If not, try as a group of his friends to convince him to see a psychiatrist. If need be, tell him that it will at least make you (his friends) feel better. Tell him as a group that all of you are upset and worried about him. If he sees how much it distresses his friends he may be more inclined to stop as opposed to if he was just going to stop for himself.
Also, cutting one's self triggers emotions of pleasure in many people. It may be an addiction that he is unwilling to admit he has.
2006-12-24 22:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Earnesty_in_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self mutilation is a serious psychological disorder. I would suggest that his immediate family be told about this because there is treatment that will help. In the meantime, look it up online. You'll get a better idea of what type of mindset this person is in.
Mark
2006-12-24 21:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mark C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've a tendancy to do this - although not very often. One good website I've discovered is http://www.nshm.co.uk One page explains why people do it so it may help him to be in contact with others. Yahoo groups are another option - http://groups.yahoo.com/group/acryinthedark is one I use. Good luck.
2006-12-25 03:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by tattyhead65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his parents, otherwise, in due time, he may kill himself. Better to have a friend mad at you but alive then one who can't get mad at you because he's dead.
2006-12-24 21:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See this page on cutting. Then go to natural healing page on depression.
http://www.phifoundation.org/teen.html
2006-12-24 21:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray for him and get him to County Mental Health
2006-12-24 22:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by ma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋