i am pregnant and my baby is mixed i and my step- dad?

Question

i am pregnant and my step-dad dont aprove of other races dating other races hes not racist but that is something that he dont believe in , i need help i want to tell my parents but he will dis own me i laready know i dont want to lose my family but i want them to know help me someone please its not that simple to just tell them ya know

Answer 1

you know what the best thing to do is just hide the pregnancy all the way until there is nothing that can be done by your step day to terminate it, let them know, and yeah it will be hard at first, he may very well blow, but nothing makes it better like a grandchild, he'll warm up to the situation if he loves you, just stay in good spirits and try not to stress, you have to stay calm if you are carrying a baby, just think about making yourself comfortable right now, and dont be around negative people you need support all around. Good luck

Answer 2

Instead of you all just letting her in stop her at the door and give her a choice. Let her know that you're already pregnant and nothing more can or will be done. If she can't enter your house or call with respect then she's no longer welcome to come or call. That's ridiculous. You are pregnant and you don't need any of that stress on you. You want a heatlhy baby. So get rid of all obstacles right now. Starting with your aunt. Goodluck sweetie. To DemocatU....You are such a jerk and you need to be stuffed in a really hot room for the rest of your life. If you were reading correctly she's BLACK and her boyfriend is NATIVE AMER. idiot. Get some fu*king reading glasses!!! Racist a**hole.

Answer 3

All I know is what I have experienced. My family adopted a bi-racial baby in 1997. We were quickly disowned by my Grandfather, on my Dad's side of the family. For three years we didn't speak, or have anything to do with them, though we tried. At the end of that period, my grandparents agreed to meet my sister. They walked into my dad's office and the first thing she did was walk up and hug my grandfather's leg. Everything has been better since then.
Moral of the story- All you can do is what you know is right. It is right to tell your parents. Trust to their love in you, and trust in God. And the fact that your step-dad does not believe in races mixing does indeed make him racist. Love conquers all.

Answer 4

Well it would be better to tell them sooner or later because once they see the baby they will know its mixed more than likely. Most mixed people you can tell that they are mixed. Maybe talk to your mom first without your step-dad there and she could give you some advice on how to tell him and get him to understand. My grandmother was the same way and would disown anyone in our family who dated somone other than caucasion. Hope that helps some.

Answer 5

He is a racist if he can't accept your child because of his race. No matter what stupid reason he says "like It just isn't natural, or they grow up to be confused" that's stupidity and ignorance. If they disown you they don't really love you. And where is the father? Why don't he take care of you or his family help you out? You have a tough road ahead of you and I hope you make the right decisions.

Answer 6

I think you should talk to your mom first, maybe she would have a way to tell your step-dad. There really is no other way. Once you get it out though, it will probably be easier. The fact of the matter is though, your child is your child and you need to do what is right. Tell your parents, you cannot hide this and be truthful to your child.

Answer 7

I am so sorry, but ur step dad is racist. If he wasn't then he wouldn't say that he doesn't believe in mixed relationships. What about ur mom? Its ur choice, but u should keep ur baby because its a blessing. U should tell them and if they disown u for having your baby then what does that say about ur family. I hope all ends well.

Answer 8

if he disowns you just because of the fathers race, that is racist. No matter what excuses he gives for not wanting you to be with another race, it all comes down to him being racist, just tell him that.

Answer 9

That baby is your family too...I don't know how old you are and if you can take care of this child but I can tell you one thing....your parents may be mad at first but once they see your baby and those beautiful eyes their hearts will just melt. My dad said the same thing and now he loves my son more then life it self...remember babies are Angels..they bring miracles. MARRY CHRISMAS!!! I hope you keep your baby..your parents will forgive you!

Answer 10

yes i know how hard it is.. im facing the same problem, but im not pregnant.. i have to choose between my family and my bf which is so hard.. i think you better talk to your parents because if you dont, sooner or later they're gonna find out.. and if your bf loves you, he will understand and prove to your parents that race doesnt matter,, good luck.. let me know how it goes! i hope it helps..