I have known a guy for years. He has been trying to get me to give him another chance but I never trusted him and have been avoiding going out with him. He gets a myspace page and they see that a person on his page is saying that they are engaged to him but at the end of the little "About me section" it says "Aren't I a stinker X". When asked about it he says that she was just joking and pulling a prank on him and is just a roommate. He tells me that he is going to be coming to my location in about a month (he travels alot) and starts practically demanding that the I for once be avail. to go out with him. I check the girls myspace page again to find that he is not engaged...but in fact very recently married! I quickly told off the guy but know that with his history there are probably a few others that aren't quite so hard to get to that he may be screwing with.
Should I tell the girl about they guys intentions now when they can annul or whatnot, or let her find out years from now?
2006-12-18 01:30:14 · 20 answers · asked by Askinqs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whoa! I personally would tell the girl but that's a whole can of worms that some just don't want to deal with. I guess what you have to ask yourself is what would you want for yourself if the roles were reversed. Worst scenario she doesn't believe you and threatens to kick your butt for making stuff up best case she already new something was up and dumps his rear. It's what it's worth to you and what you can live with right?
2006-12-18 01:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by mistress_lilas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is if he is making passes at you when he is married then there has to be something lacking with in the new marriage. Unless they are in a open relationship yes he is cheating . If a man or women looks past their partner for any reason then they should bring it to the others attention and work things out if so desired to. As for you telling on him believe me he will trip up and make mistakes and she will find out. As far as the time frame. If he just got married to her and is already looking then maybe you should just drop a note with copies of the emails or ims he sent you and apologize for having to be the one to tell her but it would be better not only for her heart but if this man does sleep with others then he could bring home anything from the women that he sleeps with to a wife that isn't aware of her husband to get a disease from him would be most devastating. so let her know and do it fast.
2006-12-18 01:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very sticky situation and i dont envy your position. i think u know yourself wat u 'must' do here. this unfortunate girl must find out the kind of man her new husband is, she is goin to discover that he is not a nice man anyway...so it is best if stop the lies and deceit as quickly as possible, this girl probably thinks she has married the best guy in the world, but she is in fact livin a lie. u can sort this mess out. im sure this girl wont be pleased initially, she in fact ignore u and call u a liar...this is obviously expected, if u could show her some proof...she would eventually be extremely grateful and u would have a weight lifted off your chest and the burden of knowing about this man lying to his wife would be gone. u will feel guilty as long as you keep this to yourself.
2006-12-18 01:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by therammid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So shall we verify out the information as all of us understand them: a million. your husband cheated, repented and you forgave him. 2. your husband cheated back. 3. he suggested he wasn't. 4. you got here upon an earring in his automobile (ought to she describe it??) 5. you have already lost the dating you as quickly as had it is not significant who's telling what truths, a million/2 truths or lies. you have adequate to circulate directly to realize he's a cheater and a liar and he won't inform you the very fact. you need to decide on here, stay with a guy who will proceed to cheat and would at last go away or you go away faster and get your happiness, freedom and sanity back. it is not you, it relatively is him!
2016-10-15 04:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SShe probably already knows. With all this away time she is most likely doing the same thing. Best not to get involved. People have a way of Hateing the messanger. If you have friends he is fooling around with tell them but I'm sure his wife knows.
2006-12-18 01:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could probably do it.....she most likely won't believe you. Women, at least some, believe what they are told on here. The only way she might start to think about what you have told her is if she met him on here and started a relationship online
2006-12-18 01:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not totally sure that I understand where you are getting your information from. It appears to be mostly from a web site. If you are sure that he is married and having an affair, I would inform both women. If you are not sure of the information that you have, especially coming from a web site, I would stay out of it.
Take care,
Troy
2006-12-18 01:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex like this and all he will do is turn it around and say it is because you are love-crazed for him because he is so wonderful and want to break up their marriage so you can have him back.
It is up to the "buyer" to beware of what they are getting into; sooner or later she will get wise to his tricks. Forget him and move on to a real man.
2006-12-18 01:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it will take her years to find out. Sit back, and keep to yourself. You can't go through life fighting other peoples battles. Just keep away from him, and anyone that has anything to do with him.
2006-12-18 02:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away from him yourself, and let the poor girl find out for herself. You would just put yourself in a bad position.
2006-12-18 01:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋