I want to know what i should do my husband is mad because i talk to my exs little sister. I don't talk to the ex or even ask about him. My exs little sister is very special to me she was the only girl and we became very close. Am I right should my husband not be mad over something so silly or am i wrong. Now he won't talk to me tell me what to do best answer will be given.
2006-12-15 14:48:47 · 8 answers · asked by Kelsie R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
okay guys maybe i should have said this my husband is in iraq so its not like i can talk to him really we email each other and im and he is on but wont talk to me. I don't know how to get him to talk to me but i also dont want to be too pushy cause he doesnt like that either and i am trying to work on backing off how long do i give him? what do i do? How can I fix it? I feel like its unfair because we can't even really have a fight or a discusion because hes not home to do so with.
2006-12-15 15:34:14 · update #1
Kelsie, I am so sorry sweetie. Your husband is upset about something, and it's proably not really anything to do with your talking to your ex's little sister. Unless, he's so jealous of the ex, and he's afraid this will lead you back to him. Send him an email, and apologize for upsetting him so, tell him how you feel about this young lady. That you have no intentions of seeing or talking to the ex, but you just couldn't bring yourself to ignore this innocent child.
Tell him you love him with all your heart, and that you don't know how to make things right with him. Explain that you didn't think it was wrong to talk to her, and that your relationship or you being friendly with the ex's sister would bother them so much. Ask him to tell you why it brothered him so much?
My father was in the service long long years ago, and it's difficult for men to be way from their loved ones. They don't feel they have any control of their lives. That they are shut-off and even forgotten. My mother is still close to my ex-sister-in-law, I can't understand it, but I love my mother enough don't to hurt her feelings about it or to demand a "how can you" from her.
Please email him and ask him for an explaination, and you explain your feelings, and then you are going to have to wait. He's in control right now, I know you are hurting, and you can tell him that. Like I said apologize for upsetting him, but you don't have to apologize for talking to this little girl. I believe you have every right to speak to her and even be friends with her. I wouldn't go visit or anything like that if she's still living at home, but there's no reason for her to be punished or you either one.
Praying that he's talking again before you even recieve my answer, please just explain and ask him "why". Then go from there. Hopefully, he will tell you what's really wrong, and you can help him. Hoping that you hear from him really soon.
God bless us all...............
2006-12-16 07:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that makes the situation really hard. What I would do is tell my husband that I won't initiate a lot of communication with her and we'll talk about it the next time he comes home. You are probably not going to be able to resolve this situation over the internet etc. and his life is stressful enough right now that you probably don't want to fight over something silly. Be supportive and discuss it when he comes home. (However, I think if it is important to you that you should be able to keep talking with her- however I would put that relationship on hold for a while for your husband's peace of mind)
2006-12-15 15:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by LLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are only talking to her about her, then your husband should have nothing to worry about. Just reassure him that it is only about her, not him. I understand how you feel in this situation, but you have to think how your husband is feeling. Just try to talk to him and let him know that there is a reason that he is your EX for a reason....Good luck with this -- it could turn ugly quickly so I suggest you go ahead and talk to him...SOON!
2006-12-15 15:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by mda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably been seeing his friends get Dear John letters & is concerned. Right now everything is heightened for him, take the high road. It isn't a matter of who's right or wrong. He is scared to death of many things including losing you.
2006-12-15 23:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and reasure him that the ex isn't talked of.
He must have a reason why he doesn't like it, but no one should beable to tell you you can't have a friend.
2006-12-15 15:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should trust your judgement. When you have an opportunity explain to him, how special she is to you.
2006-12-15 14:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should really talk to him in private and make an agreement
2006-12-15 14:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by zarina s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he should not worrie and trust you
2006-12-15 14:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by ashley l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋