This man works for a different agency and is the liaison for my project. He works in a different city. In the last 5 months we have gotten close and have acknowledged we are very attracted to each other, but because I just got out of a relationship I did not want to get into another one. After flirting for a while I finally said I wasn't ready to date yet & so we stopped flirting. Now he no longer returns my phone calls on work related issues. When I call him to follow-up, if he answers his phone because he can't tell it is me that is calling, he always says he was busy. He has done this for the last five times I have tried to contact him on a work related issue. I find it hard to believe he is that busy because before we got involved he always called back on the same day. Could it be that he is really that busy & he can't call to say he is busy? Or is it more likely he is avoiding me?
2006-12-15 10:45:15 · 8 answers · asked by j t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mmmm, this is why it is so problematic to get involved with anyone who has any kind of a work relationship with you. That aside, two points of advice:
1. For your correspondence that has to do with your project preface your emails "project inquiry: reply essential or urgent" -- you might want to leave a message for him or send an email about that -- that it is necessary for however much longer to communicate on business -- and ask his help so that you two can do it professionally.
2. Once the project is over, or a little time has passed then you can look into what happened and maybe see where things might go. Men havent really been taught how to handle feelings so well, much less balance work and relationships.
Most important thing is that you cant jeopardize your job right now over finding out what happened.... its like any diplomatic challenge. You can rise to it; I sincerely hope that he can too.
2006-12-15 10:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by Clear thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup! He's avoiding you. Not because you're a lepper or anything, but just because he probably feels that on some level, he got shot down. the best way to prolong that feeling for him is to keep talking to you. The best way to get over it is to avoid you. It's immature and strange, but no doubt the reason.
2006-12-15 10:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by oceanblue_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is most definitely avoiding you. You need to call him and leave him a nice long message about how he needs to start acting like an adult and how their personal life should not affect their work. If he can't control himself or his anger/bitterness/resent whatever then maybe you should speak to a supervisor.
2006-12-15 10:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just busy give the guy a break! It sounds like he works really hard, just give him some time he's doing the best he can.
2006-12-15 10:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm consensus would be that he's avoiding you. he wasnt really that interested....just sounds like he was caught up in the moments you were together. move on quick before you chase a endless shadow!
2006-12-15 10:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might have hurt his feelings, which is so wrong. I mean, men shouldn't have hurt feelings. So I'd say he's avoiding you.
FP
2006-12-15 10:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He absolutely does not wantr any part of you. too bad. Keep on the look. Try emode.com or eharmony.
2006-12-15 10:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AVOIDING U COZ HE GOT REJECTED CLEARLY IS THE ANSWER .......LOL...... GUYS R SO CUTE WEN THEY DO IT BUT................................
2006-12-15 10:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋