Anyone says, the one will come when you are not looking or focusing on something else. Well, I have tired both of those ideas and he hasn't come. There is this one guy that I know for almost certainly likes me. But, when I think he has gotten my hints that I am interested, he doesn't talk to me very long. I hate it when everyone says this. I am so ready for a relationship.
2006-12-15 10:40:07 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do I get into a relationship without sex or sexual ideas?
2006-12-15 10:43:31 · update #1
The reason that advice tends to work is that as you get involved with new things you make friends (giving you chances to meet new people, have reasons to talk to them, etc.) and you have fun (making you look attractive and giving you things to talk about with old friends).
If you're really ready for a relationship, why not simply ask the guy out? It's not always the man's job, and it's hurting both of you to stay silent.
2006-12-15 10:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me tell you that I know exactly how you feel. I've been there many times. And with Valentine's Day around the corner (or Singles Awareness Day, as I like to call it), every single out there is feeling even more pressure.
Still, I actually agree with this statement. Here's why. When you are desperate to be in a relationship, you're too nervous and worried so you're likely to scare a lot of people away or not have the nerve to approach the people you really like. To make a good impression on someone you need to be relaxed and confident. If you feel like you NEED a relationship, you're neither relaxed nor confident.
What I have found out over the years is that in order to be truly happy in a relationship you need to be happy with yourself. So ask yourself, what kind of person would you like to be? Is it about losing weight, getting more educated, more involved in charitable projects, learning to play an instrument? Whatever you think will make you into the person YOU want to be (not what you think others may want you to be) is what you should do. As you progress in the right direction, you'll find that you're happier and more confident. Once you start feeling that way, you'll notice that guys are starting to take more interest in you and you won't feel like you need them to make you whole, so you'll be more relaxed and they won't feel threatened by you for being too clingy or dependent.
So that's why, when you focus on bettering yourself, relationships will come naturally because you'll be happy and confident and that's what truly attracts people to you, plus you won't feel like your man is supposed to fix your life, so there'll be less pressure.
One last tip, approach every guy as a potential friend, rather than a potential boyfriend, this will let you both relax and get to know each other and then if things progress from there - great! If not, you'll have one more friend and now you can meet all of his single friends.
Good luck.
P.S. If you still think you need a relationship NOW, than you'll have to fake being confident and happy, because that's what attracts other people. Still, this is not something I would recommend, it's much better when these things are real. Plus, would you really want to build a relationship on a lie anyway?
2006-12-15 10:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are probably saying this because nothing scares someone off like intensity or desperation. What they might be better suggesting is that you relax and go out a lot socially. Meeting someone is a numbers game, the more people you meet the more you have to choose from. Maybe you need to be a little more direct with the guy you like if he isn't getting your hints.
2006-12-15 10:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be depressing at times to find love. When some people say you'll find that right one, we don't say it for you to make it a mission to find someone. There will be someone interested, and you can't really predict that. Sometimes, I felt like that, but somewhere down the line, someone is interested and I'm interested in them. Hopefully you aren't too picky. Either way, don't think you know for sure if you won't find someone or will. I hope you do get what you want in the long run!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-15 10:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me when I say that, much like homosexuals have gay-dar, guys can smell a trap from a mile away. You ay be looking for nothing more than to share a huge amount of love, but a guy wants to take it easy for a while. test the waters.... If you are geared towards a relationship, the guy knows that and doesn't want to skip the "get to know you" part (which is what he'd be thinking).
2006-12-15 10:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by oceanblue_007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not giving 100% focus on yourself. It's just that simple. When you have done so, keep on untill you've reached the point where you honestly could care less whether you ever have a boyfriend or not. And you CAN become that fullfilled with yourself. And when you're that confident, people can't help but to be drawn towards you, not for your cockyness, but for your bold actions.
2006-12-15 10:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe God isn't ready for you to be in a relationship with anyone other than Him at this time in your life.
God is preparing both you and the man he has designed specifically for you for one another.
Find your way to a good Bible-led church (if you aren't already in one); study God's word and believe that He will provide for EVERY one of your needs...and wait.
Signed,
Single and 45 yo (Never married and waiting on GOD)
2006-12-15 10:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best relationships are the ones that grow out of friendships. Just focus on being youself and being his friend first and the rest may fall into place.
2006-12-15 10:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by Big gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 20:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take A Chance and go talk to him and go to lunch Maybe he is getting your hints and is shy so just go talk to him he might find somebody else if you don't take a chance
2006-12-15 10:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by Im a Barbie Girl!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋