MY FRIEND AND I ARE JUST TWO WOMEN WHO WANT TO TRY SOMETHING WE HAVE NEVER DONE BEFORE...HAVE SEX WITH A GIRL. I'M MARRIED SHE ISN'T, I PERSONALLY DONT THINK ITS CHEATING GIVEN WE ARE JUST TRYING SOMETHING OUT.. RIGHT NOW, I'M STARTING TO DOUBT MYSELF IN THIS SITUATION. I WONT WANT TO DO ANYTHING TO HURT MY HUSBAND BUT I DO WANT TO TRY. MAYBE I SHOULD JUST HAVE HIM WATCH? OR MAYBE JUST TELL HIM WHAT I'M GOING TO DO? ANY ADVISE???
2006-12-14 07:54:45 · 17 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course it's cheating -- sex is sex. Are you saying that if your husband had sex with another woman, just to "try something out", it would not matter to you? Of course it would. You have an obligation not to proceed unless your husband is OK with this. If you get his blessing, I am sure he will at least want to watch, and may even want to help your friend please you. It can only get better if you involve him.
2006-12-14 08:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Umm..basically you play with fire, you WILL get burned--and, in your case, it is very likely that others will as well, such as your husband.
Why is it that you want to "try something new'? Are you bored with the hetero sex that you and your husband currently have (if you are having it)?
If you want to preserve your marriage, be very careful with yoru sexual exploits. If your husband is the type to enjoy watching you with another woman, then feel free to try it and invite him to watch. However, be aware that there is always the chance that he will want to get involved as well, in which case you need to ask yourself whether or not you are a jealous person or not. Because if he joins in, he could end up mainly "experimenting" with your friend. And how do you feel about sitting and watching your husband have sex with your friend?
That possibility aside, you should always be honest with your husband about things like this. Would it be better or worse if you went ahead and did it, and then he found out later? It all depends on you and your husband's personality types, but I would strongly suggest caution when considering any extramarital endeavors.
2006-12-14 16:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time you bring another person into a relationship.....especially if it is sexual.....you are breaking the vow you gave when married.
Being true only unto him.
If this is something you have to do then by all means involve your husband. Make sure it is okay with him.
If you don't and he finds out later he will feel betrayed and you may have only yourself to worry about again.
And YES it is always cheating....makes no difference that is a girl.
Remember this. Sounds like your are bi-sexual. But what if you find that it is not BI after all. What are you going to do then. So you see you are going to affect your husband one way or another. Do it up front.
2006-12-14 16:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you say to your husband if he came home and said to you, Honey, I want to have sex with another guy and I want you to watch."? It doesn't really matter how you try to justify it, it is cheating. If you are OK with cheating then go ahead and do it. Is it worth possibly losing your husband? If not, don't. If it is, then you might as well get out of your marriage anyway. Either way you answer that question, if you do want to go through with it, tell him first, just be prepared for his reaction and have a bag packed!
2006-12-14 16:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by soduh72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if it's ok if your husband can "experiment" with another woman. If the answer is NO, then it is no different for you. Same sex--sex is still SEX. You can still contract a STD...you can still cause jealousy (if he finds out he'd wonder how often you fantasized over women for which he can NOT compete against), still causes hard feelings...think about adding a 3rd person before doing so...is it ok for him to have sex with your g/f when you aren't around? Who is to say it won't happen? I feel the trust would be gone. HOwever, if your married to a man your not sexually attracted to and vise verse then it could work out for the two of you. Good luck with it!
2006-12-14 16:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just not do it. There are boundaries in marriage. Cheating is cheating even if it is with someone of the same sex. How would you feel if your husband had sex with another man? She isn't married she has nothing to lose, don't risk losing your marriage over curiosity.
2006-12-14 15:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your set on doing it I'd definately let him know and you should make the desicion together since you are married and he is your other half - that being said most guys would jump at the thought of watch or joining - just make sure it is something both of you want or it can really damage a realationship
2006-12-14 15:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating, of course, but I'm sure he'd love to watch.
2006-12-14 16:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either this is a scam or the people here are in worse shape than I thought.
2006-12-14 16:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think about how you would feel if he approached you and wanted to "just try it out" with a gal from the office??????? you know, just to try it with someone other than you for a change???????//How would you feel and then proceed based upon that.
2006-12-14 19:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by billnrhonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋