Boy Trouble!!??!!?

Question

me and my BF of 4 years seem to be pushing away form eachother! we live together and we work next to eachother! We can hardly keep conversations together! it seems like were both losing intrest in eachother! but i know he loves me and i love him what do i do? i have tried everything to make it better, we just dont have that spark when were together.....HELP ME

Answer 1

Thats how i was with my boyfriend of 2 years. I broke up with him...

Answer 2

Sounds like there is nothing to talk about because you share everything together, work and home. Try starting a conversation about something you feel strongly about and you know he feels the opposite about. That will get a spark going again.

Answer 3

Ok here's the deal,couples that work together and live together always creates arguments and you slowly start to lose interest. You both need seperate jobs that way you can miss each other and then you are more likely to have a stronger relationship.

Answer 4

Whoa whoa whoa! You REALLY need to read this! And take notes, learn, and then reanalyze your situation and feelings. Was/is your relationship really REAL? Or was/is it more infatuation? And most importantly, did your bf fit these crucial criteria? Obviously growing apart is a sign of a problem in the relationship. Here it seems like a communication issue. Read on to learn the truth about having a real lasting relationship, and may you avoid future mistakes! Here we go!

You most likely will/have fall(en) into the crush/infatuation trap, and you will not know how the person you want/are with truly feels for you since you two seem to be "strangers" to each other (read on to understand), so here is my advice for standards you need to know for when you have/are seeking to be in a SERIOUS life-long relationship and learning the difference between LOVE and LUST. Knowing this will give you a checklist for your current or future gf/bf so you can know if she/he truly loves you and is right for you in every way, physically, and emotionally. Here's my tips for a prosperous relationship:

#1 Know yourself. Know your personality, what types of people will jive well with you and your habits, know your limits, know your strengths, and weaknesses. Once you know yourself, then and only then can you love another.

#2 Never judge a person by appearance. Personality far exceeds how a person may look. If I was judged that way I would never have gotten my soulmate because, yes, I am overweight. Never try to match a person up to your expectations and put them on a pedestal, hoping they will be exactly what you want. People are all different and you must learn to love a person for who they are, not what you wish they were.

#3 Everytime I hear the saying "opposites attract" I cringe because that couldn't be any farther from the truth. For people to be in a relationship with you, both of you should be totally insync with each other on most levels, sure we're not all the same, but the person you love should be your best friend. Yes you heard me say it, BEST FRIEND, as in someone you can trust completely, talk to about ANYTHING and everything, RELY upon, and share common interests. Someone who will always be there for you and accept you no matter what circumstances occur, good, bad, or indifferent. You should also know everything about that person's life, and understand their personality, flaws, good traits, ect. Remember, communication, communication, communication! Know your partner!

#4 All of this takes a lot of TIME to create, a lot of talking and getting to know the person before leaping on them, making out, having sex, ect. This is why most people FAIL at relationships, because they are total strangers trying to make up for a lifetime of not knowing the person they are with, therefore there is no base for trust and sex becomes a temporary mechanism to make people think they have something together, when in reality, they don't. Hence, friendship 1st is absolutely crucial.

#5 Sex. We all want it and need it to be happy, healthy normal human beings. However sex carries strong physical and emotional baggage and one should never rush into it before he/she has met all the above criteria with their partner and both people feel ready to make the leap. Also it is advisable, in this day and age, for both you and your partner to go to a doctor beforehand to ensure you both are free of diseases and the 1st time will be much more pleasant. Be prepared! If you are a female see a gynochologist and find out if sex will be very painful or not and get tips to make your life easier! Also it's good in general to ensure you're healthy and find out about birth control.

I speak from personal experience because I am in a loving relationship that is all of those things and more. The relationship guru has spoken :)

Answer 5

Alright momma, I think you see each other to much. Perhaps one should request to relocate to a different facility? More freedom may be needed to see if you are able to work it out. Go out and take a mini trip with the girls. Let him go out with the guys.

If that dont work, you can also try roleplaying? pretending to be another person, may spark it up again?

Answer 6

plan a sexy night together. rent a hotel room wear something really sexy have a great meal of his favorite foods brought to the room and make love all night. that should get things going again.

Answer 7

if u guys have a day off from work make sumthin at home jus for the 2 of u guys and then give him the dessert

Answer 8

have you tried not seeing each other for a few days? take a break from each other to let the flame grow. after a few days of not seeing each other you can both talk about your different experiances durring the break.

Answer 9

when he leaves the room take a dump in the middle of the floor... trust me... nothing starts a conversation like a dump on the floor... "is that, I think it is... hold me cause Im afraid" come on get with it

Answer 10

It sounds like you all need some time apart. I can't tell you where to go, but you need a break from each other.