i have a bf and like before i said he is a drug user and abusive but i odnt feel i can do any better. i am a big girl not big big but big. they are the only men i can seem to find. can i get tips from anyone to find a decent man or even how to make my self happier and better so i can find a decent man?
2006-12-12 05:36:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The first thing you need to do is change your attitude, just because your big doesn't mean that you have to settle.
What you expect for yourself is what your going to get. If you feel you can't get a decent man, than you will not.
You have to look at yourself in the mirror every morning and say:
I am beautiful and I deserve to be loved-completely.
You do deserve better than the man that you have, you need to get yourself together before you get back into another relationship.
You need time to love yourself 1st, because if you don't love yourself no one else can. You need to "love the skin your in"! There are millions of guys out there, and there is a guy out there that will love you for who you are, pleasse don't settle on just any guy that shows you interest because there is so much more to love than that, you deserve more!
When you start to love yourself than you'll begin to command more respect from the men in your life. You'll begin to expect more from the men you allow into your life. You'll also be able to broaden your (male) horizon, because it's not your size that's attracting these types of guys it's your attitude! So Find love within yourself and then everything else will follow. Good luck Beautiful!!!
2006-12-12 05:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by moks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having no BF is better than having one who is an abusive drug user.
You need a serious self-esteem overhaul. Just being big doesn't mean you can't get a good man. Especially if your criteria for a good man is just one who doesn't abuse you.
Focus on yourself first. Get busy doing things you like so you're happier. Find ways to take things your interested in and channel them into social activities where you can meet people (guys and gals, I'm sure you could use some more good friends too, right?).
Dump this loser asap.
2006-12-12 05:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Settling is never good. Be happy by yourself and with yourself first. If you are not comfortable being big, do something about it. If you are okay with it, then exude that confidence. There is someone out there for everyone and you should not settle for a loser just because you are a big girl.
2006-12-12 05:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe in yourself. only you have the power to control your own life. it doesn't SOUND like you're an idiot. you just keep making the same mistakes is all. try changing something big in your life, like your job, or you living situation, maybe even think about a change of location and try starting over. set higher standards for yourself. be a bigger girl in your mind.
2006-12-12 05:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so low self esteem is making you hold on to a loser. so if the loser go down you go down with the loser......MMMmmm
if you want to lose weight, walk 2 mile everyday and eat more veggi, less bread, pasta and fat and sugar. If you want to find a good man, go look for a man who has a good future and good moral.
is this what you want to hear?
2006-12-12 05:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RAISE your EXPECTATIONS. You are a beautiful person and DESERVE better. Never lower your expectations in man ALWAYS set them HIGH.
2006-12-12 05:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they probley only want you for one thing
2006-12-12 05:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by sillyboi32 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋