My husband and I have been separated for years (8). But never did I bring up the word"divorce". I have meet a man a few months ago who is older than me (I'm 35 and his 45). He treats me like a queen. He know's that I'm still legally married and have a daughter. He, himself has two grown children and is divorced. I'm really into the person. My husband and I never really had anything in common, and lack of communication. I have been the mother and father to my daughter for years. I brought up divorce to my husband and now he decides that he wants to play the roll of a husband and father. What should i do?
2006-12-12 05:19:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its your fault for waiting so long!! how cold you not get divorced in 8 years??!! shouldnt be hard to do it now anyway, since you've been separated so long...
2006-12-12 05:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good lawyer and go ahead with the divorce. Your husband is no dummy - if you're asking for a divorce he's figured out that there is a man in your life. He doesn't really want you but he'll be damned if anyone else will have you. Trust me - I've been there. He'll play the role of husband and father only so long as he thinks this other man is around. Once he's satisfied his rival is gone - he'll be out of the picture too - and you'll be alone. The really sad thing is the harm this could do to your daughter if she were to really believe that her father intended to stay in her life.
2006-12-12 13:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by hoosiergal0946 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you may "feel" now you must remember you are still legally married to someone so can you actually move on when you have not close the door you have left open. Remember your morals and your belief system doing times like these is most important. Once you really look pass the loneliness and the different emotion you have you will be able to answer this question yourself straight from your heart. Remember emotions are only emotions not love. You must understand that you were create a queen and all men will treat you like that including your husband if you confess it yourself and begin to treat yourself like a queen. PEACE!
2006-12-12 13:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Yahshua F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've been separated for 8 years already and now he wants to get back together. I think it's way too late. Divorce him and keep the one that truly loves you. I think your husband finally realized he let go of a real good thing and wants it back.
You need to think about what is best for you and your daughter.
2006-12-12 13:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been separated for eight years, and he's only now deciding that he wants to be a husband to you? I don't think so. Seems like he just doesn't want you to be with someone else. Tell him it's too late for that. If he wants to be a father to your daughter, I wouldn't deny him that unless you have a reason to fear for your daughter's safety. If you DENY him access, SHE might wind up resenting you down the line. (Not fair, I know, but that's the way things go.)
2006-12-12 13:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the divorce and move on to the man that will treat you like the queen that you are. He is eight years to late.
2006-12-12 13:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Creola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been seperated for 8 years? You two seemed to be divorced physically. Go with the other man.
2006-12-12 13:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow through on the divorce and start a new life with th enew man in your life
2006-12-12 13:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on the definetly the right choice. I don't seem like he wants you to enjoy your life a wife. You truly deserve that. If this other man and his children love you and your daughter enjoys being with them, then you should serve him with papers and move on.
2006-12-12 13:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by Annette L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce him....hes just doing that to keep you around, if hes not going to be there for you and your daughter before you were divorced what makes you think he will be after...
2006-12-12 13:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by T-NutZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋