My spouse decided to move to Cali. without consulting with me. I believe he found himself someone at the time he was sent out there to work previously. Now he wants my son and I to get up and move over there. I refuse to move. I want a divorce but, he doesn't. We see each other once 7-8 months. What should i do?
2006-12-12 04:50:09 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce him. He's a shmuck.
2006-12-12 04:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow you must be mad!!! I can't imagine any husband making that kind of decision alone!! Sounds to me like you've already made up your mind. You want a divorce. How can he leave you and your son behind and just leave? I'm assuming that it's his son, too. I'll bet you're right about him finding someone out there and now that it hasn't worked out he's decided what he had wasn't so bad after all. If you can find out for absolute sure he found someone else I would divorce him without hesitation. If he did it once chances are he'll do it again. If not it's up to you sweetie. Do you think you could be happy out there? If not don't go. I wish you all the best.
2006-12-12 05:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every 7 to 8 months, if your husband don't see you but that much and he's fine with it then you need to start asking him some questions. Sound to me that he putting his shoes under someone Else's bed...Either get the truth on the circumstances that he moved or asked for a divorce. After you fine the truth you can feel good about your divorce and know that it wasn't you...
2006-12-12 04:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you prepared to watch another woman be the mother of your child half the time? If so, then get a divorce. If not, then fight to get your marriage to work. Why do you refuse to move? Why would he decide to move away without consulting you? Sounds like the wheels are off the cart here....you need to try and work out your marriage for your child's sake...at the very least, you need to divorce and live in the same city.....anything less is not fair to your son.
If there is any chance for reconciliation, you need to grab it...a family counselor can do wonders.
2006-12-12 04:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by McBeth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a divorce no you should not uproot your son i mean he has a life as well and why should you be doing the moving if he wants it so bad then tell him to move back where you are and see what he says if he says no then you say no to going to cali. And your lawyer will send him the papers . Then hang up no more said and be done with it .
2006-12-12 06:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he made the decision to move without you doesn't speak well for your marriage. Then, you guys agreed that he should move without you... Sounds like your husband wants to make it right by asking you to join him. If you don't go your marriage probably is over. In that case, file. Don't waste time. If you still think that the relationship can work then don't let your pride or anger hold you back. Go and be with your husband.
Good Luck!
2006-12-12 04:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by blackcaligirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can file for divorce without him if he's not going to respond that's all good. It will be less of a headache to get through it. Let him know that it's over and things will be arranged for the paper work to be finalized, then go to an attorney to get it done.
2006-12-12 05:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at why he wants to move there. Is it a better opportunity for work? Can he do the same thing where you are for the same pay? If there is someone else there, why would he want you to come? Why don't you want to move? Is it for selfish reasons? Look at the whole picture before making any decisions that will affect your family, not just your life.
2006-12-12 04:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to make this decision on your own. If you truely don't love your husband anymore, then you need to divorce him. You do not need his permission to seek a divorce. No one can tell you what to do as divorce is never easy. Make sure that you have your son's best interests at heart when you make this decision. Good luck and GOD bless.
2006-12-12 04:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you actually love him? Why would he want you to move out there if he had another someone? He must care about you and your son to want you to move there to be with him. Are you really losing anything by staying where you are or can you gain something by moving? Think about everything. You said in your vows for better or for worse and to death do you part. What does that mean to you?
2006-12-12 04:54:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, he didn't give you much of a say. My father did that. Just up and took a job in Arizona (we were in Illinois) and just assumed we would want to live there. We didn't because it was an armpit of a town and my mother filed for divorce. I felt he hadn't really left her any other choice.
2006-12-12 05:07:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋