I am only 18 years old and have been with my fiance for a year...he wants to get married but I haven't even gone to college yet. Should I take that big step and just do it or should I wait?
2006-12-12 04:26:13 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you're asking this question you're not ready. you should be 100% sure that you're ready to walk down the aisle, and it doesn't sound like you are. if it's the real thing, he'll wait for you to get into school and get your life going in the direction you want it. follow your heart, it's telling you what you need to do.
2006-12-12 04:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tantamount to committing suicide my dear. The only difference is that after one year or more of being married at that age you wish you had.
I cannot think of a better way to ruin your life and deny you all that you can do and should do before marrying. Marriage is a serious move that should not be taken lightly. You and your boyfriend may think you're in love...as we all did when we were your age too...but you are not.
Continue to college...get into the workforce...live on your own and enjoy your independence and then you'll see. Someone will come along and you'll have matured considerably by this time. You aren't quite as mature yet as you will be. Get the responsibilty of supporting yourself under your belt. That will make all the difference in the world.
marry now and you'll find that you'll be in one another's way. He may start looking around once he gets into colege as you will. There are a lot more fish in the sea there...you'll see. You have a kid at 19 and you're life is screwed. Take a look around here. Look at all these losers who did what you're contemplating and see what they're whining about now.
Heed my advice child. It is good. You'll thank me for it someday.
2006-12-12 04:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19...I got to experience some college but I would STRONGLY recommend for you to wait. There are things to this day I wonder what they would be like. Get your education done even if it's a short career...so if your marriage falls apart you have a back up plan.
Believe me marriage is a wonderful thing...but if I could turn back time I would of waited a long time before I decided to get married. If your fiance doesn't understand that your education is important for your future then...there is a problem there that you really have to think about before you make your decision.
Best of Luck To You!
2006-12-12 04:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by LuLu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a good step to make? No, it is way too soon in your relationship. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you. He won't make a good husband unless he has your best interest in mind. If he is pushing you into marriage, he is not the right person.
I know the whole get married.. have legal sex is a big thing. Having sex without marriage can really lead to bad situations.
You have now arrived on the brink of true adulthood. You must think out what your morals are and your guidelines are, once you do that you can proceed with a clear mind.
Good Luck
2006-12-12 04:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and getting married in 2 weeks. It's really your choice based on what you feel. You said you plan on going to college, I'd honestly wait to get married because a lot changes in college. I'd see if your relationship with him could rough out college first and if it survives then you are meant to marry him. I mean, what if you get married and then go to college and he meets someone while you're away or you meet someone that sweeps you off your feet. You'll be married and will have to face the fact you hurt the other person. My situation is different which is why I chose to get married. I have a daughter so I will be going to school locally. Maybe if he would move with you so you could go to schol it wouldn't be so bad. Worth discussing with him and thinking it over a tad longer! Best of luck!
2006-12-12 04:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 18. I'm 19 now, and we're still together. We met when I was 17 and he was 25. I never dated guys my age because they always seemed to immature. If it really is love, don't let anything stop you. I had a full ride scholarship for a really good school, but I couldn't have both so i chose my husband. It was really hard at first because my parents didn't support us, but they do now. Do something for your self. People back in the old days married at 14 and 15 and sometimes younger, so I don't think age matters. Its all about love. If you wait because you think your too young, you'll regret it.
2006-12-12 04:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you start asking at the wrong time. Whatever we say won't stop the marriage, right. Only, both of you should have decided to have a longer engagement before making a commitment that should last for a lifetime. Things can change easily for younger people who haven't really experienced much of life, so be prepared for hands on learning's.
2006-12-12 04:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married at 18 years old. I did and it is TOO young. Go to college. Wait until you are sure because if you are asking the question you are doubting yourself.
2006-12-12 04:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by Rose M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I got married when I was 18 but we had been together since I was 14 and there was never anyone else. I got pregnant immediately and we stayed together till he died 11 years later. Then I went crazy and acted like I was 18 all over again. I don't know if it was his death or the childhood I missed out on. If you really want to go to college you can do both. Just don't have kids for awhile!
2006-12-12 04:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would agree with everyone else and say to wait just because you don't seem too sure yourself. Plus, you're still young and you never know how much you'll change just in the next few years. I'd wait it out and go to college. That way you'll have something to fall back on in case everything doesn't work out.
2006-12-12 04:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, hon, I would not marry. If you are college material, go to college first. Get that degree. Always be prepared to support yourself. If you do marry, stay on he pill, have no children until you are financially able to support them..... read some of the questions on this site " I married right out of hs. We have three children, and he cheats, and I am miserable. What do I do????" The answer is still the same:: get ahead, get back in school, get a job, get a career. In your case, if you get married, get in school, stay on the bc pill, don't have children until your marriage is solid, and you grow up.
In short, nope, don't marry yet.... you can always get married, hon.
2006-12-12 04:34:40 · answer #11 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋