I really love this guy if you have read my previous questions you will know that he just lost his father. We used to talk everyday online for like 6 hours. I went out on a date with him once but it didn't work out cause he had somethings he was going through. My problem is now he very rarely talks to me. On average I talk to him for about 5-10 minutes a week. I wish I knew where he stood I don't want a relationship right now but I just wanna know how he feels about me and if maybe he sees himself with me in the future. I know that now is not the time to ask him that. I'm going to be turning 21 next month and I haven't had my first kiss yet or a real relationship. I'm realy sad cause I dont' feel he knows just how much I like him and how upset I have been over this whole situation. How long should I wait for him? I feel like I should stay around because he used to say maybe to me for the possibility or a relationship. When is an appropriate time to move on?
2006-12-10 14:54:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really do wish I could say to him that if you see something happening between us in the furture I will be here waiting for you. I also which he knew how when people talk about relationships they are in all I can think of is him and how lucky I am to have him in my life. I also wish he knew that when I heard his father died I was so upset and I said to myself why couldn't I have gone instead of his father because I just want him to have his father back.
2006-12-10 14:56:27 · update #1
Well, when someone is in need what they really need is a friend. When someone is heart all they need is love. You never know his world may be up side down. You must stay positive for his sake because if not you will both crumble on his behalf. Some people have problem copping with pain take time to talk to him stay positive try not to rush him in this time of grieving. When he starts to get better or seem to up rise then bring forth your questions or concerns. God Bless!!!
2006-12-10 15:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by tisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad time for him and it wouldn't be a good idea to initiate a relationship right now. And honestly, it's a little selfish of you to only be concidering your desire for a relationship right now. He needs support, not someone trying to drag him in another direction. That might push him away.
It seems like you're never been in a serious relationship, though, so it's understandable.
Wait till things calm down, let him know you're there for him and DON'T make any advances until he's had some time to cope. Then approch him.
2006-12-10 23:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by socialdeevolution 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never wait, you need to move on, but you also need to send him a nice long email and explain exactly how you feel on every level. You always need to let them know how you feel because you never know when they may have been trying to figure out to tell you the same thing. Leave nothing to chance...but don't wait.
2006-12-10 22:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you said in the last part of the question, in the addiotnal details. Write him a letter send him an e-mail. Talk to him. I think if I were in his situation I would come to value the type of friendship you offer.
2006-12-10 22:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask him if he has feelings for anyone. See where the conversation goes from there.
2006-12-10 22:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by girl of lamancha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋