Just wondering what peoples reactions were to their ex's new boyfriend/girlfriend in their childrens lives?
2006-12-10 14:34:44 · 13 answers · asked by aingelic1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well no one can deny the ex is a parent and needs time with the children but depending on the nastiness of the split and the amicable relationship that is left trusting their choice in a new partner is a little thorny. If the new partner caused the split it can get even juicier. With tiny kids it can be very hurtful because they will give allegiance to the new step%#&#% without a second thought but the older ones can not be won over so easy and will not be shy to speak up against the new adult trying to win them over. Discipline is only to be done by biological parents and if my ex ever let anyone touch my kids there would be trouble. There is pain and heartache all around and few upsides but when the kids are old enough to choose they usually get it right. Be a good parent, keep your promises and you will win their affection for life.
2006-12-10 22:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 18:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has issues with thier ex's new "friend". First you have to decide if you really have a problem with the ex's new interest or if you are just jealous. I was just jealous at first but if this person tries to come between you and your children, don't tolerate it. If they can't act like civil adults and realize that these are children, not toys or if they are emotionally toying with the kids to get to you, put a stop to it. Your ex needs to have the best interest of your kids in mind as well as you and if that is not the case, sue for full custody. Be adults, love your kids and move on. As long as you do this, your kids will still be happy and healthy.
2006-12-10 15:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth I'm In both situations on my fiance's side I am the g/f and my fiance's wife side she has a b/f. So they both moved on. My fiance has always had problems with his ex now that I'm here It's worse, the kids are always telling us how their mother's new b/f is so much better than my fiance will be(that's from the ex's mouth though)and the kids say both their mom and the b/f make alot of promises and don't keep them. It Is very confusing because the kids are stuck In this "who do you choose" situation but I've sat the kids down and simply explained to them how no matter how either family talk about each other they will always be tooken care of by each side. It takes alot of stress off, until the ex tells the kids to tell my fiance and I something the kids shouldn't be repeating. But after we finally met my fiance's b/f we found out he was pretty cool and It has and always will be the ex wife causing drama.
2006-12-10 14:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by passion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it cant stand it wish she would just die!! Sorry my daughter is only four months old and My soon to be ex made a deal to keep his new chick away from her till she was at least six months old. I mean come on thats my time to bond with her and get to know her not this other chicks I didnt have this kid for them to go play family together. I am not worried about her loving her more or stuff like that, but this is my special time with her. Shes only little once. SUCKS!!!
2006-12-10 14:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by BlueT78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not make any problems with his new girlfriend unless there is a problem with my child. Just keep communication open with your child and do not bash the new girlfriend in front of your child. Just ask how was it over Daddy's house and what did you do and eat. They will eventually tell you if something is wrong. You do not want your child to be sad by bad talking about the new woman it only hurts the child.
2006-12-10 16:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids come first. What is comfortable for the kids is all that matters...................
"girlfriends/boyfriends have no place in your child's life. An established relationship should be formed before the children are introduced into any relationship.
2006-12-10 14:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anna M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have the right to know about that person.....
If they are gonna be part of your kids life, you MUST know about that person
It may hurt a little if your child likes them alot but you must be civil for the kids sake. Do not ever speak bad of that person around your children, that will only confuse and hurt them.....
2006-12-10 14:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by MISTY S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was very happy for him. I know that he is a great dad and he would not allow someone to be around our children unless they were kind and decent. I trust him to make a good choice. He did chose me at one time, that oughtta say something- right?
2006-12-10 14:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They always suck up to the kids and treat them like royalty. The kids love to be spoiled like that.
2006-12-10 14:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋