He says he will not pay my tuition and that he didn't marry me to pay my education. I want to study my M.A. and I told him it's for our own future. He says that he is not responsible for my education. I'm not working now. What do you suggest me to do and is what he said is right to say for a wife?
2006-12-10 14:34:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is wrong. However, it will be hard for you to change his mind. Apply for some grants or loans to get your education. It is possible to find money somewhere.
I went through this too. I worked and put him through school to get his master's. When I wanted to return for my master's there suddenly was not enough money. I took out loans and got my degree. I dumped the husband, paid off the loans, and am doing quite well.
2006-12-10 14:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get financial aid? ask your school. Financial Aid is when they loan you the money for school, then later on after you graduate & get established in a job, you can pay them back $50/month. Your husband has the right to say NO, especially that your not working, he's focused on getting the bills & rent paid, so just leave him alone, at least he's taking care of you. Just respect that & find a way on your own to pay for it. Another option is to just get a part time job & then go to school full time. I went to school for M.A., and it's not that long. It only took me 8 months to finish the course! good luck.
2006-12-10 15:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he sounds like a jack ***. He's probably afraid of intellegent and professional women. You know, one of those insecure 'old fashioned types'. It's too bad. Do you have a joint bank account? If you do, that money is legally yours and he can't tell you not to use it. Actually, because you are married his income is your income, so use it to pay for your tuition whether or not he gives you permission. If he gets upset, he can leave and without his income you can qualify for grants, scholarships and loans. He has no respect for you or your mind. He's a controlling bastard. What a sad pathetic man!
It's important that you go to school, especially since it will better your life and you and your husband's future. If you could work it out and convince him why going to graduate school is important for both of you, that would be much better, but if he really is a prick do take my above advice. No jerk is worth throwing away your life and dreams for. He sounds really selfish and sort of stupid too.
2006-12-10 14:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should help pay for your education, but if not, well then try going to school and work at the same time. Then once you graduate and start making the money, I think I would say oops and he don't get any of it. He wasn't there for you when you needed help, so I wouldn't be there when I had the money either.
2006-12-10 15:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds controlling to me. If you aren't working and hes fine with that (with him paying all the bills) then get a part time job to finance your education. Or take out a student loan. That way you won't have to pay until after college.
Sounds to me like hes threatened by educated women.
2006-12-10 14:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How were you planning to pay for this education before you got married? Just do it the same way. If he is not supportive of your career goals though maybe you should discuss children because he may see it as a waste of money if you will never get to work and you may have other ideas...
2006-12-10 14:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am shocked any reputable college would suspend your daghters enrollment over $600. I owed over $2k for a year before they threatened to suspend my enrollment. The Dad is being very unreasonable and all you can do is take him to small claims court or wait to make it a part of your divorce settlement and child support order In the meantime, I hope your daughter can find the $600
2016-05-23 03:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Phyllis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may feel threatened by your education, he may feel when u do get an education that u may leave him. he should be glad to pay for your education, so u and he can have a better life. sounds insecure to me, maybe he doesn't want u to go higher than him, maybe a self esteem issue. apply for a grant, u can pay it back yourself later, student loan s also.
2006-12-10 14:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is wrong to deny you an education, but please don't let that stop you from getting your MA. Find a way to pay for it on your own. Many grad programs offer scholarships to people if they help out by teaching or doing research.
2006-12-10 14:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by KM 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow I'm sorry your hubby is so unsuportive.... What about a Pell grant or loan you can pay back after you get a job and graduate??
2006-12-10 14:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by missthang229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋