how can i improve my self esteem?

Question

i want to make my relationship with my boyfriend improve but my selfesteem gets the best of me i wear a size ten and feel fat i'm 5'6" and 158 what should i do

Answer 1

Tell that bf of yours that from now on he must compliment you twice daily... tell him that if he does not, then you will kick him really hard 'n the nuts....

Now, you've got two extra compliments a day...

Find stuff that makes you both laugh...(Chris Rock*, Bill Bailey & so on)...

Exercise, don't diet (but do eat raw vegetables/fruit, dried fruit etc.)

Make it your goal that you smile whenever you are walking anywhere... just a smirk, or a grin...

Remember, we're all gorgeous...

K

*Women need three things, food, water, compliments....

& an occasional pair of shoes...

Chris Rock

Answer 2

A complete make-over, inside and outside will do wonder. Inside or Internal Makeover is the mental attitude you had toward yourself. You lost your self-esteem not because someone destroys it but because you allow negative thoughts to take full control over your mind. Change your mind-set, Think about the good qualities you possessed and approve yourself of it. If you are good in painting, singing, or dancing, or some skills you can think of about yourself. Say positive words to yourself like I am adorable, good-looking, i got attractive eyes and so on. Reject the negative thoughts such as I am good for nothing or what a jerk I was or I am fat and unattractive. How can you let someone like you if you don't even like yourself in the first place? Change should start within yourself.
External Makeover which implies your physical appearance. Experts says that "you are what you eat" Eat healthy. A well balanced diet consists of whole grain food, fruits, vegetables, poultry and lean meat. Avoid skipping meals. Drink water before & after meals so much so that you would not feel hungry. Avoid binge-eating. Sleep early to avoid.midnight snacks. Have a regular exercise.. Burn your calories by brisk walking for 15 minutes. If you can't do it in the morning, do it in the afternoon or evening. People gain weight due to inactivity & getting overfed.
If you look good, then you will feel good. If you feel good, then your self-esteen will escalate.
These are just simple tips for you. Remember if you fail to plan then you plan to fail. Make that plan work . The worst thing that a person can do , is not in failing but in not trying. . YOU CAN DO IT.

Answer 3

Honey, I am walking in your shoes. I am just under six feet, wear a size 11-12 for shoes (sometimes ten will fit, but it'll be a painful night). I weigh 160 lbs and wear a size 11-13.

But you know what? Not every man is looking for the skinny type. You're beautiful because you are you. If a guy is too dumb to see that, he's not worth your time.

Answer 4

your 5'6" and wear a ten and weigh 158 you must be in real good portion. Girl you don't need to improve your self esteem. No if you wear that size clothes and carry the weight and height you have and your clothes aren't to tight you got self esteem. So carry it with pride.cause have nothing to improve.

Answer 5

Realize that everyone feels that they have one problem or another with their looks---you have to know that as an individual, you are given what you got---make the most if it. YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF for who you are. You are a person that has talents and abilities unique to you....enhance the positives and get rid of the negatives. You have to be very subjective with yourself----what makes you a total person is more than your weight or dress size. It is also a matter of being ready to diet and eat foods that are better for you. If you are sad--you eat for satisfaction---food becomes your friend. Food is your friend but make better friends--it is just as easy to eat good food as it is to eat crummy food. Go out and mingle and get involved---volunteer for something---find stuff to stay active. Why do you need a steady guy now? What's the rush? Make sure you date people who accept you for what you are. Maybe this guy likes you the way you are. A real man sees a person totally---not just physically. Put a smile on your face---BE NICE and have a great life

Answer 6

I know how you feel. It is up to you to decide if you like yourself and no one else. You are not fat in the least, Most men actually prefer women who are not just bones. It has to do with softness and curves. I will bet you look like a woman, rather then a prepubescent child. That is the way it is supposed to be. I recommend you take a day for yourself. Save up and go to a spa, get a massague and buy a new outfit that fits you very well. Also, I suggest exercising, not to loose weight, but to make you feel better about yourself. It provides you with the feelings that you are doing something for yourself. It will alter your outlook. Even just go walking for thirty minutes a day.

Answer 7

You are not fat... you are healthy at 5'6"... maybe take off just a few pounds at most, depending on your bone structure.

Self-esteem is not Biblical you know. It's pushed on us in this society so much.... but the fact is that when someone knows who God intends them to be.... and who they are in Christ... there is not self-esteem.... high or low. There is only recognition that you are a child of God.... the Creator of the universe! You are no better or worse than anyone else. You have peace.

If your self-esteem is based on bodily appearance, you will never feel good about yourself, because we are all imperfect.

Know that you are loved by a God who was willing to die for you, because you are so important to Him. Think about that real hard.... and you won't have any esteem problems.

God Bless,

Sue

Answer 8

Check out the link:
http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem/selfest.html#anchor1648307

* Step 1: Rebut the Inner Critic
* Step 2: Practice Self-Nurturing
* Step 3: Get Help from Others

I like to also listen to music when I'm feeling down.

Answer 9

honey a size ten is not that big and your boyfriend should love you for you at least your five six im not even five foot how do you think it makes me feel looking for a boy friend my advice would be make a splurge day for you go get your nails done go shopping buy something get a haircut and never forger makeup it helps my self esteem tremendously well good luck and youre not fat dont listen to that guy that said eat a twinky he's probably fat

Answer 10

Look yourself in the eye in your bathroom mirror (works best when you're all by yourself), smile and say, "I love you! I am so proud of you." List some of your really positive accomplishments, like "I really like the way you keep the house clean", or "You are so calm in a crisis", etc. Keep up the self-pep-talk for 15 minutes every day, (or whenever you use the restroom) - just remember you have to look yourself in the eye the whole time. And finish off with something like "You are a strong woman and you can do anything you want to do!"