My husband has photos of his ex girlfriend in his wallet and he says he doesnt want to get rid of them. Is he still in love with her??
2006-12-10 08:20:56 · 20 answers · asked by Melissa M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yup, there is still a spot in his heart for her. Saying he doesn't want to git rid of them confirms it. If she were to become or is available watch out. If he starts to spend time with her your marriage is doomed.
2006-12-10 08:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you are really married that is wrong. Period, you both have embraced a whole new way of life and that is each other not each other and his fans. However, men love to keep keepsakes and prizes for their endeavors, like when a man kills deer and hangs its head on the wall, well same thing with how many women he dated and so on.
Still this is wrong and something you should have addressed before marraige since we train them when we are still not married. I digress,
You just need to put your foot down or just do the same find all your ex boyfriends pics and keep in your wallet so he can see how rediculous it looks. And yes he has issues because if he was to be in love with you truly than this shouldnt be an issue.
2006-12-10 08:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Saena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We women tend to read to much into these things... Because if we carried pictures/communicated w/ our ex's it would mean things like we still have feelings for/and or desire to be back together w/ that person. Men operate from a different type of motivation. It has nothing to do w/ still being in love w/ her. And you do yourself a mis-service by accusing him of this, he married YOU!!! Focus on that! I would use that to your advantage in searching for the basis of his motivation in keeping the pictures in his wallet (I think he probably thinks its a 'hot' looking picture and just likes it in there in case one of his buddies happens to get a glance at it, so he can make some kind of insinuation/or comment to bolster his own ego). This also does not mean that he doesn't think that you are 'hot' he MARRIED YOU, remember?
I would play it differently, don't ask him about her or why he still carries the picture. Get to know her better. Invite her to a dinner party or something you give at your place (since they are such GOOD friends)... make sure you insist she bring a date (tell her its couples only or something). See how your husband and her interact... see how he reacts to seeing her w/ another guy... and how she reacts to your constant loving gestures and affections towards YOUR husband...(But, beware not to overdo this, it could be damaging, but enough so that you clearly convey your love AND passion for EACH OTHER) see how she reacts. These type of things will give you more of a clear sense of whats going on than asking him. And then if you have a basis to still think something is going on, act on that... but forget about the picture no matter what. If somethings up you have a much bigger problem than a picture, and if nothing is going on be glad that ALL you had to worry about was a picture, and ignore it forever, thinking of it as only the kind of picture manufacturers put in new wallets to show us where the pictures go. He will get rid of it sooner or later, men take much longer to develop genuine maturity. Good Luck
2006-12-10 11:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by tk.cooper@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It took me 3 days to cry after I found a love letter that he never sent and also said he looks at her picture all the time. I found the picture and it devastated me. This was after 5 years of being together. I discovered he was still carrying her in his heart. I was gone before a year was up. It was a bit much for me.
2016-05-23 02:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More likely he doesn't want to stop thinking of himself as a single guy with options. It's a rather immature attitude, but don't tell him that -- it won't make him more inclined to stop. Instead, you must explain -- patiently, and more than once if necessary, and in the company of a counsellor if required -- that this isn't about what he wants, rather it's about the level of consideration he needs to develop for you and your feelings -- that is, assuming he wants to be and stay happily married.
Good luck to both of you.
2006-12-10 08:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little inconsiderate. Can't he keep it somewhere in a keepsake box, or the back of a drawer or in a photo album - preferably someplace you don't see it. it should be part of his past, not his present.
2006-12-10 08:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of them for him, since he is living in the past, he should have your picture in there, instead of his ex girlfriends pics.
2006-12-10 08:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not over her and in order for yall to move on he needs to get rid of her pictures or you need to leave him.
2006-12-10 08:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by Cierra C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is still in love with her. That and he tries to reminisce way to much about her, and the times they shared.
2006-12-10 08:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by littlemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend says that it means that he's obviously not over her...and not completely into you! especially if he doesn't have any pictures of you in there! when you are over someone, why would you still carry a picture of them? i wouldn't!!
2006-12-10 08:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by ANNEE S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋